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How to actually help an overwhelmed caregiver

MY HUSBAND HAD BEEN IN THE HOSPITAL, CRITICALLY ILL, for weeks when I broke down in tears one day during a workout. Concerned gym buddies consoled me, and someone said, “You’ve got to stay positive!”

“Do I, though?” I wanted to ask. I was urged to stay positive a lot during the years I was a caregiver for my husband Brad, through two kinds of lymphoma and a stem-cell transplant

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