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How to Make the Baggage of Your Past Easier to Carry

Rewriting the stories you tell about yourself can make for a better future.
Source: Jan Buchczik

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When people consider making big changes in life—moving cities, changing careers, leaving relationships, quitting jobs they didn’t much like—they’re usually motivated by one common desire. Upheaval can be worthwhile if it leaves the past behind and creates a future that is happier and more promising.

But abandoning the past and building a better future is harder than it sounds. “At home I dream that at Naples … I can be intoxicated with beauty, and lose my sadness,” Ralph Waldo Emerson in his essay “Self-Reliance” in 1841. “I pack my trunk, embrace my friends, embark on the sea, and

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