e have been trained in the trenches of love and war to demand that we get ours first. Maybe that’s from oral, your partner’s fingers, or one of you using a massager on you before or during intercourse (all very good things, we can’t deny). Your friends enthuse about this prevailing tactic at boozy Sunday brunches, and women bond over it at parties. Having your orgasm first has become the bedroom rallying cry of empowered women everywhere. ‘He doesn’t get to come until you do first!’ And all that is valid! But we are
