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Biting our lips as we mix with the opinionated friends and relatives that we’ve spent the past 12 months dodging can be a festive rite of passage – but, this year, we may find our tolerance levels lower than ever. Recent times have put the kybosh on such gatherings, and, as well as avoiding the annual clash of views on everything from politics to turkey basting, our own horizons may have narrowed – making us less open to others’ views and more defensive of our own opinions. Indeed, we may find that, this