Stop putting off the end-of-life talk with your aging loved ones. Here's what to say

Amy Pickard wants you to talk about death. Specially, she wants you to make your healthcare planning and end-of-life arrangements known to your loved ones.

She knows that talking about death is going to make most people squirm. But the Southern Californian, who runs the end-of-life consulting company Good to Go!, says an awkward but respectful conversation now lessens the grief of a loss when the inevitable happens and allows people to honor a deceased loved one's wishes.

"I tell adult children to tell their parents, 'Hey, I'm getting organized with all my advance planning, and I just realized that if I don't know what I want, you guys certainly wouldn't know,'" she said. "'And then I thought if something happens to you guys, I wouldn't have a clue what to do, and that terrifies me.'"

But why is it so difficult for adults to talk about death?

For some people, it comes from a fear