I never intended to become the primary caregiver in my family, let alone a stay-at-home dad (SAHD). When my wife Wai Jia, a medical doctor in the public health sector, had to return to work to fulfil a bond in early 2019, we had to make a decision about how to care for our two girls, who were then two years old and three months old.
I always assumed we would send them to daycare, while I continued my work as a church pastor. But the more we thought about it, the less sense it made. Why should I give my paycheck to a stranger to look after my kids? So four years ago, I decided to become a stay-at-home dad.
I asked myself, “How hard can this be? I’ve done hard things before.” I am a 43-year-old liver cancer
