Sofie Hagen hadn’t slept with anyone in 3,000 days – and wanted to know why

Last year, roughly 3,000 days after they last had sex, the comedian and author Sofie Hagen published a questionnaire online. “If you do not have sex, but you wish you were, why do you think that is?” it asked. “I literally thought I was going to get maybe 30 replies,” Hagen says today. “I really thought I was so alone; I didn’t think anyone else had issues like this.”

It turned out they weren’t alone at all. Overwhelmed by the number of responses, they had to shut the link down within two days. Today, they are speaking to me via Zoom, where, despite the nature of our conversation being personal and potentially sensitive, Hagen, who was born in Denmark but now lives in London, is warm, bubbly and open. “I had this idea that I was going to go on this journey to find the solution,” they tell me, excitedly. “I couldn’t possibly imagine