I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck: An Everyman’s Guide to a Meaningful Life
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The Angry Therapist who has helped thousands of men find more happiness in their relationships and more purpose in their lives now shares his insights with everyone in this powerful guide—self-help in a shotglass—covering essential topics, from vulnerability and posturing to workouts and women.
Deep in post-divorce soul searching, John Kim came to an astonishing realization: he was a miserable f*ck who might just be to blame for the problems in his life. Armed with this new insight, he began The Angry Therapist blog—an admission that, while he was a licensed therapist and life coach, he was no better than the people who sought his advice. In his first post, “My Fucking Feelings,” he wrote about the struggles and shortcomings that had led him to this point. As his work caught on, catapulting him into the role of unlikely and unconventional guide for thousands of people all over the world, Kim evolved from behaving like a boy to living like a man—and showed his clients how to do so as well.
In I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck, Kim delivers the dos and don’ts for stepping up and into manhood, which he defines by transparency and strength of character, not six-pack abs or a corner office. With his signature no-nonsense approach that will make you laugh and think, Kim takes you on a rugged, rough and tumble road trip of self-exploration and discovery, sharing his wisdom and insights, such as why:
- Being nice is for boys, and being kind is for men
- Scheduling man dates could make you a better friend, lover, and human being
- Peeing in the shower is a sign of a larger problem
- Arguing, judging, and answering, “I dunno” are keeping you from a healthy relationship, a great career, and a happy life
We are not born men. We are born boys. The transition from misery to meaning is an internal process that requires work: reflection, pain, courage, and sometimes, a rebirth. Kim knows because he’s been there. The truth is, men weren’t meant to just pay bills and die. With this audiobook as your guide, you will love hard, walk tall, and find a life filled with purpose and passion.
John Kim
John Kim, LMFT, blogs as The Angry Therapist, and practices complete authenticity and transparency with his many clients. He is the bestselling author of Break Up on Purpose; It’s Not Me, It’s You; Single. On Purpose.; and I Used to be a Miserable F*ck. He lives in Los Angeles.
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Readers find this title a little trying too hard, but respect the author for completing a book. Some reviews criticize the advice given, stating it is the same dialogue heard from feminists and university. However, there is a positive review from a male reader who found the book excellent and appreciated the down-to-earth writing style.
- Rating: 1 out of 5 stars1/5You will lose years of your development if you do what this author suggests. It's just the same dialogue you bludgeoned with from feminists and university on a daily basis. Basically do more of the same stupid things that haven't worked with women and life over and over and expect change. Please don't read this and follow this advice. I feel mad that this author is giving advice to young men for a living, though he probably has a bunch of repeat customers as they keep trying these failed tactics over and over.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This book is more for men. I liked it the most. Excellent author. Has a way of writing that is down to earth and validating. Thank you
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5For the basic. It felt a little trying too hard but respect for completing a book nonetheless.