Love Pain: Analysis and Remedies
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It's not easy to admit self-responsibility in building a "love sick", that kind of love that some people can lead to devastating effects beyond the control of the conscious realm. The pain of love is the drama of passion that becomes pain. And 'the overwhelming desire of the constant presence of the beloved. And 'the desire to possess and to be satisfied on the other.
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Love Pain - Alberto Valentini
Love Pain
Analysis and Remedies
Alberto Valentini
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INDEX
Introduction
Love and Love Pain
The Fear of Loving
Narcissism and Pain of Love
The Pathological Effects
The Faces of Jealousy
The Related Syndromes
The Theory of Attachment
Remedia Amoris
INTRODUCTION
It is not easy to admit self- responsibility in building a love sick
, that kind of love that some people can lead to devastating effects beyond the control of the conscious realm. The pain of love is the drama of passion that becomes pain. And 'the overwhelming desire of the constant presence of the beloved. And 'the desire to possess and to be satisfied on the other. The 'love insecure is, in most cases, characterized by an insane jealousy that disrupts the harmony of the person life, which often follows a distressing failure of the relationship, often accompanied by a vengeful spirit. To this can take over a state of depression, more or less marked, which makes us feel empty as if there had been destroyed ripped the essence of our being. In contrast, adult love involves a clear awareness of our individuality and the acquisition of a unique identity, which brings us unique in comparison with others and then also with the partners in a position of equal dignity. The pain of loving the romantic attachment anxious or insecure love and obsession feeds the excessive detachment, leading to a denial of this equal dignity. It's like trying to devour
the beloved - the object of love - and sometimes cannot, detach so cold there, too, almost without anxiety. They are, in general, men to be more strongly inclined to fall into the romantic excesses of attachment anxiety. Women suffer less dramatically if the relationship is in crisis, but much more than men when it ends. The fear of loneliness and rejection may all love to be underpinned insecure, such as low self-esteem can be the basis of jealousy, which also becomes an essential component of love of evil, the latter may arise from real or perceived threat of ongoing love affair or a legitimate claim of sexual fidelity, often without complete confidence in himself, the jealous partner. But now as the psychology of the couple has codified the two partners can exchange and interpret dramatic roles sometimes subtly hidden. In the couple establishing a relationship of love insecure, the two partners are mirror images, are like the key and the lock, if it is permissible to use this metaphor. The recovery mode ratio, often marked by hyper-controlled behaviors, reveal the pattern of love punitive insecure, the extreme dubiousness about the choices of partners provides a definitive part of a pattern of behavior pay
for the partner who refuses; from 'other, ends up loving obsession enhance anxiety and depression of those who are physically and left abandoned. The roots of this anxiety and depression are not only relational but also relatives. The partners already play a drama played in their respective families of origin. And also, during and after the breaking of the relationship, continue with tenacity a personal life script. However, not every cloud has a silver lining and suffering related to lovesickness, as we will highlight the last part of this text, with appropriate recommendations, may also be an opportunity for each of the two partners for change if themselves and feel better while enjoying a more peaceful and rewarding life. Depression linked to the break with its correlates of hopelessness, anger, unhappiness, helplessness may be the crucial moment to give a decisive impact on their emotional and personal.
LOVE AND LOVE PAIN
Generally, love begins at the stage of 'infatuation
, according to which there is a whole complex of factors, including the sexual instinct. Not only the appearance but also the behavioral play a decisive role in selecting the person of the lover. Over time this gives way to affection at this stage, also known as attraction
, it judges the partners beyond the outward appearance, we evaluate several factors such as its culture, its values. In the phase of 'attachment
, the person focuses on a single mate and fidelity becomes of central importance. Love in its various forms of attachment and in its most positive and healthier, is an important capability and, at the same time, a natural and deep need every human being. Sometimes, however, frustration or lack of experience of this serene human emotion, frequently in today's society full of unstable relationships, can generate a denial or a denial of this need, which represents an important ingredient of a healthy mental and physical development and a good mental and physical health in adult life. When a relationship becomes an emotional bond that holds
or, even worse, painful obsession
which permanently alters the balance between the need to give
and receive
, love can become a habit to suffer to become a real emotional dependence
, a psychological disorder that is able to live in the shadows for the entire life of a person, however, as placing the root of constant pain and often more severe feeding problems psychological, physical and relational. Although some authors use the