The Immortal Alcoholic's Wife
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Linda Jane is from an era when women were nurturers and men were hunters. She learned very early in life to take care of the old, young or sick family members. When she left home, she had no intention of being a caretaker ever again. She married a Navy man, Riley, and supported him in every aspect of military life. But, when his alcoholism became too insane, she left him.
Fifteen years later she makes a difficult choice to take care of her estranged, near-death, alcoholic husband. It was not an easy decision, but, for her, it was the only right decision. After all, she thought, it's only a short detour in my life. How long could he really last?
Linda Jane waited for Riley to die while taking care of his every need. She waited. But when he would just get to the end, he would miraculously survive. He seemed to be immortal. She dubbed him The Immortal Alcoholic.
She struggles with the moral and legal issues of trying to keep him alive, or letting him die, while he clearly states he would rather be dead than sober. Linda Jane seeks help and/or advice but receives very little from medical professionals and family. She finds the strength she needs from comments to the blog she creates (Immortal Alcoholic) that she hoped would connect her to others in her situation. The comments inspire her to create a support group. She writes this book, The Immortal Alcoholic’s Wife, and a Workbook for Caretakers of End-Stage Alcoholics. She learns to find her passion in writing and helping others through her experiences, disappointments, frustrations and humor. In spite of caretaking an immortal alcoholic, she is thriving.
This book is her journey from childhood through Riley’s hospice. It shares the knowledge she gains and the frustration from being inside the insanity.
Anyone with an alcoholic in their life will find this book helpful, humorous and encouraging. Readers will find this book as a road map through the maze of alcoholic insanity.
Linda Bartee Doyne
A native of the San Francisco Bay Area, I grew up in a small rural farming community about 6O miles from the city. Having married a sailor, I've been fortunate to have experienced life on both sides of the USA - East Coast and West Coast.I'm just a woman without any alphabet soup after my name. I have been through an educational experience better than any university could offer. I'm the wife of an alcoholic who as been at end-stage for more than several times over the course of ten years. I keep being told the end is near, but he's still alive.Two children, one grandson, and two great-grandbabies have blessed my life. I don't want to forget about my furry, four-legged children, my dog and cat. I love them all. They keep things busy and interesting.
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The Immortal Alcoholic's Wife - Linda Bartee Doyne
THE IMMORTAL ALCOHOLIC’S WIFE
By Linda Jane Riley
Copyright 2013 Linda Jane Riley
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PREFACE
I have many people to thank for helping me make this book possible. Ann, Georgie, Carrot, Karen and Dixie have all served as advisors and editors to help me streamline my thoughts and make it all make sense. I don’t want to forget to send a very special thank you to Buddy for supplying the artwork for my cover.
THANK YOU TO ALL OF YOU!!
I also owe a huge debt of gratitude to my blog readers who inspired me to write about my journey from a young girl taking care of her grandmother to the senior citizen caretaking her alcoholic husband. If it had not been for you, I might not have thought anyone would be interested in my life.
The journey has been long and complicated. I have a giant-sized family and extended family. You will find a Cast of Characters to help you follow along in who is who and who is related to who and how. There is also a Geographical Road Map to help you follow where I have lived. The combination of Navy transfers and a desire to have better living conditions has created many moves for my family. My brother loving refers to me as the family gypsy – and I suppose he is absolutely right.
I hope this book inspires you to cry, laugh, and most of all know that if you’re the caretaker of an end-stage alcoholic – YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN ABSENCE OF SANITY
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
WHO IS THE IMMORTAL ALCOHOLIC’S WIFE
CAST OF CHARACTERS
The Logans
The Rileys
Other Family Members
The Friends
The Medical Pros
Geographical Road Map for Linda
ABSENCE OF SANITY
PART ONE
THE END IS THE BEGINNING
So Now What
HOW I GOT HERE
The Plan
The Flaw
PART TWO
FAMILY VALUES
Opposites Attract
Caroline’s Fresh Beginning
Who Needs Friends
Get Off My Porch
My Name is Caretaker
Carrot and Allen
Just Like My Father
MY NAME IS RILEY
And Then There Was You
PART THREE
RED FLAGS AND YELLOW LIGHTS
A NAVY LIFE WITH RILEY
Narrow Streets
Security Risk
Do You Love Me
Hand Me That Lampshade
Friends Share Everything
Come Back to Me
Now Go Away
Happy Birthday to Me
Dear Riley
Maybe It’s Me
REHAB VIRGINITY
Not My Fault
They Bite?
What’s a Few More Years
A Home of Our Own
Refusal to Rescue
Risky Business
Recovering Workoholic
PART FOUR
GO WEST DEAR WOMAN
One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest
I Know Me Better Than You Do
Let’s Stop Meeting This Way
PART FIVE
LETTING GO
All in the Family
Change of Scenary
ADVENTURE IN DETOX LAND
Let There Be Peace
What Was I Thinking?
PART SIX
IF I CAN MAKE IT THERE
A Small Detour
From Worse to Even Worser
No, I Did Not!
INTERVENTION
PART SEVEN
A DANGEROUS MAN
DISCOVERY
Cirrhosis
Alcoholic Pancreatitis
Hepatic Encephalopathy
Wernicke-Korsakoff Syndrome
Delirium Tremens
Enter Dr. H, Addictionologist
Expiration Date
Liver Transplant
HOW LONG HAVE I GOT, DOC?
Meld Score
Child-Pugh Score
Ascites
THE END IS NEAR
Esophageal Varices
OH… YOU’RE ALIVE
PART EIGHT
THE HART HOUSE
Happy New Year
How Can I Get Sober
How Old Are You?
GIVE ME THE COUNTRY LIFE
Wanna Hear A Clean Joke?
A Blog Is Born
A Deadly Combo
Female Companionship
Life Is Short For Some
Big Brother Is Watching
There’s Room On The Roller Coaster
HOORAY FOR HOSPICE… BUT WAIT…
Have A Heart
POST SCRIPT
RILEY’S REHAB / DETOX JOURNEY
OARS F&F SUPPORT GROUP
SEQUEL
NO INTENT TO HARM
CONNECT WITH LINDA
WEBSITES AND REFERENCES
GENERAL INFORMATION
SUPPORT SITES, FORUMS AND BLOGS
MEDICAL INFO
LEGAL STUFF
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WHO IS THE IMMORTAL ALCOHOLIC’S WIFE?
I am Linda Jane Riley, a 60+ year old woman who is an unpleasant situation. My alcoholic husband, Riley, has exceeded any reasonable expectation of continued breathing time. He has been through the rehab process more than a dozen times. I’ve been told at least eight times that he will not live another six months without detox. I’ve also been told he will not survive detox when he was smack dab in the middle of it. After his last detox, the doctor took me aside and told me he would never survive another one. I promised Riley, I would not force him into detox again.
I anticipate and plan for the end which, unfortunately, always feels as though it would be a blessing. We have even gotten to the place of having hospice involved in his care during his final days. But his final days never arrive. In the past, I would always end up insisting he go to the emergency room, he detoxes, we are told he won’t make it this time, and he recovers.
This book is about what I have found to be true during the experience of surviving my husband’s alcoholism. No two drunks are the same. My experience may not be the same as anyone else. But, this book is generated from my own personal experience of living with a person who has been an alcoholic for more than 40 years. I will only attest to what has transpired over my lifetime with the alcoholic that has directly affected me. I will explain how my childhood experiences groomed me to be the perfect little homemaker and caretaker. What I write here will be bare-naked honesty.
I’m neither a counselor nor a medical professional. I have no formal education concerning alcoholism, except for the support classes offered when a family member is in rehab. Other than my personal experiences, any other information contained in this book has been learned from researching so many websites and reference materials that I could never list them all. I do, however, include a listing of helpful websites and books.
I’ve accumulated several years in the AA and Al-Anon communities and am very familiar with the concepts. But as my alcoholic has progressed through his addiction, I have found little comfort in 12-step support groups. In fact, many of the Al-Anon concepts are contradictory to the circumstances of an end-stage caretaker.
I’m a survivor. And surviving as a non-alcoholic in the world of alcoholic behavior is an education unto itself. I want to share my experiences and provide support to others in my situation. It is crucial that these families know that they are not alone.
I hope you can take from this book the knowledge that may be hard to get, or understand, in any other fashion.
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CAST OF CHARACTERS
THE LOGANS
Grandma – My father’s mother
Samuel Logan -- My father
Caroline Logan -- My mother
Richard Logan – the oldest child of Sam and Caroline
Carrot Logan – Richard’s wife and Linda’s best friend
LINDA JANE LOGAN RILEY – second child of Sam and Caroline
Riley Riley – Father of Brian, married Linda in 1980
Brian Riley (1967) – son of Riley and Linda Jane
Tina Saunders – fiancé of Brian Riley
Peter Newly – Linda’s first husband, father of Alea, div.1972
Alea Newly Jones (1971) – daughter of Linda
John Jones – husband of Alea
Ryan Jones – son of Alea Newly Jones
Nicole Jones – wife of Ryan Jones
Emily Jones – daughter of Ryan & Nicole
Mikey Jones – son of Ryan & Nicole
Charlie Logan – third child of Samuel and Caroline Logan
Evan Logan – fourth child of Samuel and Caroline Logan
Georgie Logan – fifth child of Samuel and Caroline Logan
THE RILEYS
Mr. and Mrs. Riley – Riley’s father and mother
Fredrick James Riley (Riley Riley) – First son of Mr. and Mrs. Riley
Laura Riley – First wife of Riley Riley
James Riley – First son of Laura and Riley
Grant Riley – Second son of Laura and Riley
Linda Jane Riley – Second wife of Riley
Brian Michael Riley – Third son of Riley, only son of Linda
Alea Nicole Newly – Step-daughter of Riley, daughter of Linda
William Victor Riley – Second son of Mr. and Mrs. Riley
OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS
Michael Nixon – Cousin – same age as Linda Jane
Winnie – Cousin – 10 years older than Linda Jane
Alexis Logan – Niece of Linda
Jade – Canine daughter of Linda and Riley
Jax – Feline son of Linda and Riley
THE FRIENDS
Gina and Marie – Roommates of Linda while in college
RaNae – Friend of Linda since grade school
Bobby – Friend of Linda
Allen – Friend of Linda and Carrot
Susan and Jim Rittenhouse – Friends and shipmate
Cheryl and Mark – Friends and shipmate
Jane – Neighbor of Linda and Riley
Lillie and Jack – Alcoholic friends and roommate of Riley after our separation
Sheila – Riley’s special friend
Duncan – Linda Jane’s special friend
Kenny and Joanie – Friends of Linda’s
Rey – Employment supervisor and friend
Bob and Steve – Riley’s roommates before coming back to live with me
THE MEDICAL PROS
Dr. A – the only primary care doctor to admit he knows nothing about alcoholism
Dr. H – addictionologist who wanted to make Riley his poster child
Dr. G – internal medicine doctor
Dr. L – primary care doctor
Erica – physician’s assistant to Dr. L
Dr. White -- Cardiologist
Janet – Visiting nurse
Tammy – Hospice nurse
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GEOGRAPHICAL ROAD MAP for LINDA
OAKLAND, CA
1966 Upscale apartment – First meeting of Riley
1966 Riley’s studio – Riley’s first place without roommates
1967 Linda’s studio – After job loss and discovery of pregnancy
Linda’s Aunt’s house – Brian is born
Apartment in Oakland
1969 Linda marries Peter Newly
GEORGIA
1971 Alea is born and Linda divorces Peter
CALIFORNIA
1971 Reconnection with Riley
VIRGINIA
1972 Village near Norfolk – First residence shared as a family
CALIFORNIA
1974 Waiting for Riley’s return from deployment and transfer to Connecticut
CONNECTICUT
1975 Apartment complex – Join Riley in Connecticut
Townhouse on the hill
CALIFORNIA
1978 Lease-Purchase House – Awaiting Riley’s transfer orders to California
CONNECTICUT
1980 Resort house – After denied orders to California, we get married
VIRGINIA
1981 Town north of Norfolk
1983 Navy housing – Riley goes to his first rehab center
1984 Town north of Norfolk – We buy a house
1990 Apartment – after losing our house – Riley and I go our separate ways
CALIFORNIA
2000 Richard’s house
2002 Crawford house
2003 St. Louis failure and return to California
Kenny and Joanie’s house – Southern California
2004 Upland house, Brian dies
2008 San Jacinto, Riley returns
NORTH CAROLINA
2009 The Hart house
2010 The Country house
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ABSENCE OF SANITY
I woke up this morning to a beautiful sunrise. The orange hue made the tree tops appear to be silhouettes resembling black construction paper cut-outs one would find in an elementary classroom. There was a quiet peacefulness that promised a fresh new start. But, in my world, promises are never meant to be kept.
The smell of fresh coffee calls to me. The creamy, hot, dark liquid tastes just as good as it smells. I sink into the big blue overstuffed chair and enjoy watching the neighbor dog briskly scamper across the street looking for her BFF to come out and play. Anxious to join her friend, Jade whines to go out. As I open the door for her, I hear Riley make his way to the kitchen. I take a deep breath and feel my muscles stiffen. Reality is upon me. No matter how pretty the sunrise, wonderful the coffee, peaceful the morning – it is just a prelude to insanity.
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PART ONE
THE END IS THE BEGINNING
I listened closely, trying to understand what my daughter was telling me. I didn’t think I heard her right. Why did the hospital call Alea? Brian was in the emergency room?? He’s critical?? In intensive care?? They need what? My permission?? Why?? How?? When??
I gathered some things into a bag and broke every speed limit between my house and the hospital. A drive that normally took four hours, when made by a mother with her child in trouble, can take far less than three. I know. I did it. I crossed my fingers and hoped that my old Rosie car would not break down.
The radio stopped working months ago. I didn’t need it anyway because the only sound I could hear was the prayer emanating from my mouth. Please God help my son now! I know he is 41 years old, but he is still my baby boy.
Besides the prayers, I had a lot of questions. Why did Alea call me from 3,000 miles away and not his fiancé who was only 200 miles away? Why had the hospital not called me instead of Alea? Was Tina afraid to call me? I just didn’t understand the sequence of events.
The familiar landmarks clicked by. The group of houses on the ocean nestled along a curve on the highway was now in my rear-view mirror. I knew the railroad trestle was just ahead followed by the short tunnel, the windmills, the Madonna Inn and I would be there. The number on the speedometer was above the speed limit, but everything was moving so slowly.
Alea would get an emergency flight from North Carolina to Los Angeles. At first, she had wanted me to wait and meet her at LAX so we could make the trip together. But I couldn’t wait another eight hours – I needed to be in San Luis Obispo right now. Every minute that I was not with Brian was a minute I would never have again.
When I walked into his room, he gave me a gigantic smile and said Maaaw! You came! Why did you cut your hair?
I started to give him some reason, but stopped realizing that it really didn’t matter. He knew I was there. I told him I loved him and that he had to get better so he could take me fishing. I don’t think I’m going to make it outta this.
His statement was flat and had finality to it. I countered with an of course you are – you’re my tough guy!
But, somewhere in my heart, I knew he was probably right.
His eyes, beautiful blue eyes, were swimming in a sea of yellow and his jaundiced skin appeared as though he had not showered in a while. His beard had grown out just a little bit so there was stubble on his cheeks. His fingers were swollen and his nails were dirty. His curly blonde locks were oily and dull. This was a far cry from the handsome guy that could attract a woman from a mile away.
My first instinct was to pick him up, take him home, clean him up, and make him better. But I couldn’t because he had an IV line in his arm which was connected to several bags of fluid slowly dripping into his system. He had monitors attached to him which were feeding vital information to the nurse’s station. The little lines racing across the monitor in his room were doing some kind of rhythmic waltz across the screen. Up. Down. Up. Up. Down. Up. It looked normal – not like the ones that were attached to my mother during her final hospital stay. Brian must be doing OK. Because his lines were not as erratic as Mom’s, I concluded that he must be doing OK. Right?
Alea arrived and we took turns making sure Brian was never left alone. I tried to get answers from his fiancé, Tina, but I didn’t understand what I was hearing.
Evidently, Brian had begun drinking to the point of not being able to eat, sleep or function in a day to day manner. When Tina woke up that morning, Brian was in the bathroom being sick. By the time she left for work, he was sitting on the sofa with a bowl between his feet. He was vomiting blood. He was pale and almost non-responsive. She left for work. I listened to her as she explained how my only son ended up in intensive care.
I was confused… she left him and went to work when she knew he was vomiting blood?? Are you sure about that?? I can’t imagine leaving someone I love in that state and just blithely going off and leaving him alone for the day. Did she not understand the severity of the situation?
After being gone for five hours, she returned for lunch at 1 p.m. to find him still sitting in the same position and still mostly unresponsive. When he did respond he was rude and cantankerous. She had had enough and called 911.
It’s a small town where everyone knows everyone else. Sometimes they would bend the rules if it helped whoever they were trying to assist. Even if Brian resisted, he would be going to the hospital today – right then. It was an effort, but the EMT’s got him down the three flights of stairs and into the ambulance. He was still vomiting blood and passing out.
In the emergency room, they started pumping him with fluids and he started to regain some consciousness. Once he was stabilized, they transferred him to the ICU. That’s when I got there. The doctors met with me and Alea and explained that Brian may not make it through this detox period. They needed to go in and repair the bleeding in his stomach using some sort of clamps that would be placed around the bleeders. The hard part was that the doctors didn’t know if he would regain consciousness after the surgery. If the bleeding wasn’t stopped, he would bleed to death. If he had the surgery, he may never regain consciousness – isn’t that called dead?
Neither option sounded acceptable, but we agreed to the surgery and crossed our fingers.
We spent the time getting a motel room. We needed a base where we could shower, nap and meet with other family members.
The phone call came that Brian was out of surgery. We were encouraged when he not only made it through, but woke up and told all of us that he loved us. He thanked us for being there. We made general conversation. He asked for some Captain Morgan and a cigarette. Alea told him she would go get him a cigarette, but she’d have to pass on the rum. She had no intention of getting his smokes, but it quieted him for a few minutes.
We stayed with him constantly, taking turns to nap and eat. The brother and sister, who had spent their entire lives being extremely close, bantered back and forth. I could see the fear in her eyes as his arguments and teasing became less and less. He was drifting in and out of knowing where he was and what he was doing. When he thought they were on a fishing boat, Alea played along.
By this time, we had made all the necessary phone calls to all the relatives. Our clan was already joining forces. We were famous for that. Don’t mess with us because as a group we are a unit to be reckoned with. It seemed no sooner had the calls been made that relatives were showing up. It was almost as if we thought our banning together could change Brian’s condition. It didn’t, but during the times when he was cognizant, he appreciated seeing each of them.
My mind went back to a time when Brian was only a toddler. Carrot, my best friend turned sister-in-law, had a son, Len, just 8 months older than Brain. We interchanged the kids all the time. She ended up with four and I