Breaking Dependency: Learning to Let Go and Be Free From the Inside Out
By Guy Finley
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You'll help yourself and those you love when you finally uncover the crucial new understanding that leads to real recovery and real freedom.
In this power-packed eBook you'll discover:
The real root of all forms of dark codependency and addiction.
7 surprising examples showing where we fall into unconscious codependent relationships without ever knowing it.
10 Stepping Stones to Self-Freedom
Learn what it takes to drop self-wrecking habits and addictions as you realize the root causes of substance abuse, codependence, overeating, depression, and anxiety. With foreword by Amy Arnaz (Mrs. Desi Arnaz, Jr.).
Guy Finley
Guy Finley, founder and director of the nonprofit Life of Learning Foundation, has been showing people how to find a life of uncompromised freedom and enduring fulfillment for 30 years. He is the bestselling author of more than 40 books and audio programs that have been translated into more than 20 languages worldwide. Some of his popular titles include: The Courage to Be Free, The Essential Laws of Fearless Living, The Secret of Letting Go, and Let Go and Live in the Now. Guy Finley lives and teaches in Oregon. Visit him online at www.guyfinley.org and subscribe to his free weekly e-newsletter.
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- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5This book holds profound truths and wisdom nuggets about how we create codependencies. It will help you reflect. Sometimes I found the book wasn’t an easy read.
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Breaking Dependency - Guy Finley
Breaking Dependency
Learning to Let Go and Be Free From the Inside Out
©2013 by Guy Finley
All Rights Reserved.
No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever, including Internet usage, without written permission from Guy Finley, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.
ISBN: 9781929320783
To Contact the Author
Guy Finley is the bestselling author of more than 40 books and audio albums that have been translated into 20 languages. He lives and teaches in southern Oregon, and is the founder of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit center for higher self-study. He speaks at the Foundation four times each week. Everyone is welcome.
If you would like to write to the author about his books, receive information about his ongoing talks, online study groups, or request a catalogue of his works (along with a free helpful study guide), send a self-addressed, stamped envelope to:
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Or call (541) 476-1200
Also, please visit www.guyfinley.org to learn more about Guy Finley’s higher teachings and receive special free gifts.
Other Books by Guy Finley
The Courage to Be Free
The Essential Laws of Fearless Living
Let Go and Live in the Now
The Seeker, The Search, The Sacred
The Secret of Letting Go
Freedom From the Ties That Bind
The Lost Secrets of Prayer
Design Your Destiny
Seeker’s Guide to Self-Freedom
Apprentice of the Heart
365 Days to Let Go
Audio Albums
Seven Steps to Oneness
The Genesis of Love
The Meditative Life
Secrets of Being Unstoppable
Being Fearless and Free
Liberate Your Self
The Meaning of Life
For The Love of Life
DVD Albums
Wisdom’s Path to the Happiness Within
Table of Contents
Foreword by Mrs. Desi Arnaz Jr.
Introduction by Dr. Ellen Dickstein
Three New Friends to Help You Break Free From Whatever Binds You
Part 1: How Truth Triumphs Over All Temptation
The Secret Source of Every Addiction
Start Seeing Through the Illusion of Being Incomplete
Meet Desire’s Terrible Twin
Real Independence Begins With This One Life-Changing Insight
Part 2: From Codependent To Independent: Awaken the Will to Be Free
Freedom Is Your Destiny
Coming to the End of Codependency
The Merchant Marine Who Woke Up and Found His Way Home
Remember Your True Identity and Realize Self-Liberation
Use the Sword of Higher Self-Knowledge to Slay the Dragon of Desire
An Inner Exercise to End All Forms of Codependency
40 Stepping Stones to Self-Freedom
A Few Words About the Dark Night of the Soul
Foreword
By Amy Arnaz
(Mrs. Desi Arnaz Jr.)
Right now, at 6 in the morning, all is well because all is well in Eternity. A huge statement. I know. But God doesn’t think about time the way we do. If we let Him rock us to sleep at night, then we can wake up knowing that every event we meet during our day will be handled in the right way—even the 2 a.m. phone calls for help!
from the addicts in our lives who’ve gotten into trouble.
I’m writing this introduction for my friend Guy Finley for two reasons: First, thirty-five years ago I never dreamed my life would be affected by addiction—but it has been, and second, Guy knows an A+ codependent when he sees one! My addiction is to addicts; I depend on people depending upon me. I clean up their messes and make everything nice. The 2 a.m. calls supply enough material for good little codependents like me to stay very busy. But if I make the mistake of labeling myself a martyr as a result of the misbehaving addicts in my world, then I’ve positioned myself on the level of doing,
not being.
Instead, I ask Heaven what to be, not what to do. And inside that request to Heaven is the answer to all problems.
Twice I’ve sat knee-to-knee with relatives (addicts) in rehab, where I honestly poured out my feelings and set boundaries with them. This happened in the middle of a circle formed by ten other family groups who were also in recovery. When we cried or laughed, so did the group. Uncomfortable? Yes. Healing? Absolutely. I watched each family go through the knee-to-knee process.
Each family was my family with the addict/codependent relationship in place. The whole family has to recover—and that takes a commitment to letting something Higher guide our lives. I’m not parroting something I learned in rehab. I knew this before rehab because of working on my inner life, praying, and making honest efforts to live the kind of life Guy talks about in all of his books.
The 2 a.m. wave still knocks me down, but my connection to something Higher keeps me above water. I know the wave will pass because it belongs to time.
Pursue a Higher Life. Lend a hand where needed, but