Dysfunctional Family: Making Peace With Your Past
By June Hunt
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June Hunt
June Hunt is the founder of Hope for the Heart, a worldwide biblical counseling ministry that provides numerous resources for people seeking help. She hosts a live, two-hour call-in counseling program called Hope in the Night, and is the author of Counseling Through Your Bible Handbook and How to Handle Your Emotions.
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Dysfunctional Family - June Hunt
DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY
Making Peace with Your Past
Cathey Brown knows about dysfunctional families. She has immersed herself into thousands of them.
As an adult child of two alcoholics, Cathey is keenly aware of the sizeable swath of dysfunction that can sweep through families, consuming and crippling them when chemical dependence reigns in a home. Therefore, she has devoted her life to reaching struggling children, teaching invaluable life skills and instilling a sense of significance in them despite the most dysfunctional of families.
Cathey is founder of Rainbow Days, which has provided support groups for nearly 65,000 children since its inception. I consider the work I do with Rainbow Days to be my calling and one of the main reasons God put me on earth,
Cathey reflects. I feel very blessed to do something that I enjoy, that utilizes my strengths and helps make a difference in the lives of children.
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Cathey’s heart resembles the heart of the apostle Paul ...
... by this kind of hard work we must help the weak, remembering the words the Lord Jesus himself said: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’
(Acts 20:35)
DEFINITIONS
On the outside, they look so picture perfect.
Cathey Brown is raised in a traditional family, each member assuming the public role that communicates normalcy, congeniality, and the classic message: We’ve got it all together, everything is great within the walls of our house.
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But behind closed doors things are falling apart. Cathey’s father suddenly becomes verbally abusive and sometimes even physically violent, a transformation in behavior that terrifies Cathey and shatters her sense of security. Years pass before she connects her parents’ arguments and meltdown of emotions to alcohol. Somehow Cathey always feels at fault for the family’s dysfunction, and a sense of inadequacy and powerlessness swells within her spirit.³
She strives to compensate by overachieving, avowing to attain perfection and gain significance through top-notch grades in school and commendable extracurricular activities. Cathey feels she can control these areas, but the truth is that her chaotic home life is controlling her.⁴
Scripture gives direction about who, not what, should be controlling our minds ...
... the mind governed by the Spirit is life and peace.
(Romans 8:6)
WHAT IS a Dysfunctional Family?⁵
There is truth to the old adage, appearances can be deceiving.
Some envision alcoholics as skid row bums, languishing on dirty city streets while downing liquor from a bottle wrapped in a brown paper bag. Statistics indicate only 3% of alcoholics fit this image.
Cathey’s father always holds down a job and responsibly meets most of the family’s financial needs. However, there is no doubt that his drinking diminishes his ability to fully function as a father and husband and negatively affects the entire family’s emotional health.⁶
The number one obstacle for alcoholics and their families to receive healing from all forms and causes of dysfunction is denial. Unfortunately, a sense of shame and embarrassment in disclosing neediness prevents or delays enlisting the help and prayers of others—precisely what is necessary to no longer remain a dysfunctional family.
Scripture directs ...
Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
(James