Your Orgasmic Pregnancy: Little Sex Secrets Every Hot Mama Should Know
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- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5On the whole, a good and helpful book. If you already have a healthy and active sex life pre-pregnancy, there's no reason not to once you're pregnant. This book reinforces that idea. It should be noted that some of the descriptions and details are explicit (I received a pre-print review copy without illustrations, so I can't comment on those). This is a helpful guide in familiar and sometimes humorous language that makes the material accessible and easy to understand. My only question is, is this book necessary? I think most if not all people, especially pregnant couples, know how sex works, and what works for them specifically. I'm just not sure that most people would learn much that they don't already know.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5This book is right up there with A Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy. Rather than presenting panicked, or patronizing, information, the authors present useful information to the newly pregnant woman. It fills a void that What to Expect and all the other pregnancy books try so hard to gloss over: you don't have to become the Virgin Mary once you're expecting. Those crazy dreams and fantasies don't make you a terrible mother and (if you're healthy) an orgasm isn't the end of the world!The authors of this book play guides to moms- and dads- to-be, reminding her of her inherent sexuality (she must be or she wouldn't have gotten pregnant). This primarily serves as a way to allow women and men to accept sexual feelings during pregnancy-if you're healthy enough for sex and you're mind is on it, why not. And for those with partners not so willing to oblige, there's plenty of information for a woman going solo. In a world where everything must be monitored during a pregnancy, it's nice to essentially be given permission to have the thoughts, ideas, and fantasies that sometimes spring up in pregnancy (and came as a surprise to me during mine).I'm assuming that anyone willing to get this book is open-minded to begin with, but it should be pretty obvious that this book isn't for the prudish. Oh, an constantly using words like hot mama, prego, and the like got fairly old, and the authors aren't always as funny as they'd like to be. But given the complete lack of information out there, this is a great book. And, on the plus side, they don't constantly couch what they're writing with "if you feel up to it," or "if your doctor says it's OK" or "if you're comfortable with it," or constantly saying different forms of spouse, husband, girlfriend, etc. That can get old quickly. They cover that in the first chapter and just have fun the rest of the book.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5An original book that gives all you want to know about sex during pregnancy and much more!
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5Since I am neither pregnant nor planning to become pregnant, I reviewed this book from the viewpoint of someone who might not want to become pregnant for fear of losing her sexuality during pregnancy. I was hoping this book spoke to both "preggies" and the hesitant to become preggie. It didn't. While "Your Orgasmic Pregnacy" was written to be hip, fun, and informative it was not written for all audiences, especially those who might be offended by the reference of breasts as "titties" and other explicit language.All in all, I found this book to be more irreverent than helpful for someone in my situation. The tone was upbeat and definitely geared towards those already in the early stages of motherhood.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5This book is designed for those who are already quite well-informed sexually and have a generally sex-positive outlook and lifestyle. In other words, it is a manual on continuing an already good sex life into pregnancy. The descriptions of bodily changes and recommendations in terms of sex positions were extremely helpful, and the latter looks to be even more so in the finished copy, as the Early Reviewers copy did not include diagrams/drawings.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5This book is designed for those who are already quite well-informed sexually and have a generally sex-positive outlook and lifestyle. In other words, it is a manual on continuing an already good sex life into pregnancy. The descriptions of bodily changes and recommendations in terms of sex positions were extremely helpful, and the latter looks to be even more so in the finished copy, as the Early Reviewers copy did not include diagrams/drawings.
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Your Orgasmic Pregnancy - Danielle Cavallucci
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I’m Too Sexy for Myself: Pregnancy and Sex
Learning to ride the hormonal surges of early pregnancy into multiple orgasms and mind-blowing ecstasy can be one of life’s most rewarding experiences.
Carrying a gift created in passionate union titillated me (Danielle) no end. I was bursting with life and sensual yearnings. Daydreaming, night dreaming, feeling possessed by fantasy, pawing my partner in hopes of gaining relief from overwhelming desire—it may never have occurred to me that pregnancy wasn’t supposed to be
sexy, according to the unenlightened masses, had it not been for a few encounters with misinformation and misconceptions. TV programs and news articles chronicling the complaints of pregnant women that they or their partners had trouble finding any sexiness in pregnancy simply baffled me. Pregnant women are beautiful and exude more sexuality than at any other time in their lives. How could any woman not feel sensual with life budding in her belly? How could anyone else see her as anything but sexual? And how dare anyone diminish the lovefest going on between me, my partner, and my babe. We were thoroughly tickled by all of it. Aside from the absolute exhaustion of early pregnancy, which bade me to curl up and sleep eighteen of every twenty-four hours, I felt as sultry as ever. So did many of my preggie friends, and they, too, were irate at any notion that they were less than sexy.
We preggies found refuge in each another’s company, disabusing one another of the fallacies surrounding our growing sensuality. We realized that, when pressed, almost every nonpreggie would fess up to loving the pregnant form. We discovered that a large number of men liked the pregnant body—both for its aesthetics and because it conveys a compelling mystique. As thirty-two-year-old Jay, a graduate student and a loving, sensual papa, eloquently says, "When you say the word ‘sexy,’ it has implications of the social stereotype of what’s sexy—these false images like the flirty cheerleader or the girl on the beer commercial. A preggie isn’t sexy in that way. There’s something very cool and sophisticated about her. She’s chic. Elegant. To me, her look implies someone who has come to grips with certain elemental things about this world—she’s become part of the whole scheme of everything. And there’s something so sensual about that."
This and similar comments from men we interviewed reinforced our hunch that most preggies would feel pretty good about their bodies were it not for culturally driven myths that pregnancy isn’t sexy. After all, my pregnant friends and I were glowing, and everyone around us—friends, family, lovers—noticed. Think about it: Nothing is sexier than the physical proof that you’ve been getting it on. So it’s somewhat astounding that the general consensus is that those in the family way must don the scarlet letter A
for asexual.
It’s as if society chooses to ignore how your temporary tenant took up lodging in the first place!
This Isn’t Your Mother’s Pregnancy Manual
My mom, grandma, and aunt haven’t said a lot about sex during pregnancy, so I talk to close friends, especially those who have been pregnant,
says thirty-year-old social worker Sabine, who is pregnant with her first. What also helps is that you’re seeing a lot more maternity boutiques with fashionable, hip clothes, which makes a big difference in enhancing a pregnant belly and splurging on yourself. There’s a lot more emphasis on being sexy, which is exciting, compared to twenty-plus years ago, when pregnancy was more of an expected role for women. Today it’s cool to be pregnant. People get excited, which creates positive energy. People like to touch you, and that’s connecting. It’s such a special time in everybody’s life—you’re creating a baby and everyone feels more bonded.
When it comes to pregnancy and sexuality, the times they are a-changin’, especially among pregnant women themselves. Bold preggies everywhere are daring to own their sexuality. Witness the rise in out-of-wedlock births in the United States to an all-time high in 2006, the increasingly common phenomenon of women breastfeeding in public, and the advance in mommy-friendly activism and legislation. Add to this the fact that Hot Mama maternity wear is everywhere, along with preggie lingerie, erotica, and even porn, and you can see that the sexy preggie icon is making her mark. And to its credit, the public is starting to catch on once again.
Many millennia ago, women, especially pregnant ones, were idolized. Paleolithic cave-wall paintings dating from forty thousand to ten thousand years ago depict triangles, which are believed to be symbols of the vagina. Historians believe that early humans honored pregnant women because procreation was such a mystery. Ancient peoples were astounded by the fact that women could bloom with big belly and breasts (and likely, in some cases, a voracious sex drive)—and eventually pop out a new life.
Sex Fears and Myths
We know what you’re thinking. The Hot Mama movement sounds great—thank God it’s catching on during my pregnancy! You can count me in but there are those circumstances that can legitimately bench a preggie. Am I truly safe being a seductress, especially in the sack?
There are many misperceptions about sex during pregnancy that can understandably worry expectant parents. Lots of Hot Mamas have concerns and questions about the whole intimacy equation—for example, when, where, how, and how much?—which, left unidentified and unanswered, can lead to sexual challenges. So let’s address these first:
The most common sexual concern for both partners during pregnancy is a fear of harming the baby during sexual activity. As Sabine says, My only fear at this point is that as my belly grows it could be a real barrier. I can now feel my uterus and am worried that at six to eight months sex will be hurtful to the baby. I probably will be more timid.
In 1999 it was reported that many women avoid intercourse during pregnancy for fear that it may damage the fetus, shorten the pregnancy’s duration, or lead to loss of the baby. This same survey of 142 preggies found that most of the women’s concerns were not valid, but it also brought to light the fact that only about 30 percent of the women had spoken to their physicians about their sexual concerns during pregnancy, highlighting the need for greater patient-physician communication concerning sex.
Due in part to a lack of supportive reference material, many couples have ill-founded fears and find themselves discouraged from having sex at all. The following are some common fears about sex and pregnancy, accompanied by the realities concerning these fears:
FEAR: Sex during pregnancy will harm the fetus.
REAL DEAL: A 1998 review of fifty-nine studies conducted between 1950 and 1996 on sexual activity during pregnancy concluded that, as long as there are no risk factors (e.g., a sexually transmitted infection), sex does not cause harm to the fetus. In fact, a 2001 study, in which 1,853 pregnant women were interviewed, indicated that sexual activity may even have a protective effect against early delivery. Women who reported sexual intercourse both with or without orgasm, and orgasm without intercourse, were likelier to carry their pregnancy to full term than women who didn’t engage in sexual activity as late as the twenty-ninth through thirty-sixth week. Furthermore, preterm delivery was significantly reduced among those who engaged in intercourse late in their