Why You Are Unhappy
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Chronic Unhappiness - Why You Are Unhappy is an exciting book that takes you inside your mind and shows you that happiness is a choice and not caused by external sources. “Nothing external brands the human heart,” says the author, Dr. Leland Benton. He goes on to explain the following: chronic unhappiness, unhappy choices, unhappy life, unhappy teenagers, unhappy marriage, unhappy relationship, and psychosis. If you are an unhappy person and want to learn why and how to become a happy person then you need to read this book. It is packed with the mind science behind almost every human condition and just doesn’t pertain to unhappiness. Written by one of the nation’s leading behavioral scientists, Dr. Leland Benton is the author of over two dozen self-help books and nonfiction behavioral science texts. He is a best-selling Amazon author with over 200-books published on Amazon alone. You need to read this book. It is the fourth book of Dr. Benton’s “Why” series of books.
Dr. Leland Benton
Dr. Leland Benton is Director of Applied Web Info, a holding company for ePubWealth.com, a leading ePublisher company based in Utah. With over 21,000 resellers in over 22-countries, ePubWealth.com is a leader in ePublishing, book promotion, and ebook marketing. As the creator and author of "The ePubWealth Program," Leland teaches up-and-coming authors the ins-and-outs of today's ePublishing world. He has assisted hundreds of authors make it big in the ePublishing world. Leland also created a series of external book promotion programs and teaches authors how to promote their books using external marketing sources. Leland is also the Managing Director of Applied Mind Sciences, the company's mind research unit and Chief Forensics Investigator for the company's ForensicsNation unit. He is active in privacy rights through the company's PrivacyNations unit and is an expert in survival planning and disaster relief through the company's SurvivalNations unit. Leland resides in Southern Utah.
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Why You Are Unhappy - Dr. Leland Benton
Introduction – Is happiness A Mental or Emotional State of Well-Being?
According to Wikipedia, this is the definition of happiness:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Happiness
Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. A variety of biological, psychological, religious, and philosophical approaches have striven to define happiness and identify its sources. Various research groups, including positive psychology, endeavor to apply the scientific method to answer questions about what happiness
is, and how it might be attained.
Philosophers and religious thinkers often define happiness in terms of living a good life, or flourishing, rather than simply as an emotion. Happiness in this sense was used to translate the Greek Eudaimonia, and is still used in virtue ethics. Happiness economics suggests that measures of public happiness should be used to supplement more traditional economic measures when evaluating the success of public policy.
The question of why
has been a part of the conscience of man since the dawn of time. It has caused us to seek answers, better solutions, invention, progress, increased knowledge and more.
But more often than not, most of our questions of why
now centers on personal behavioral traits and habits that perplex us and cause us consternation and regret.
This consternation and regret in turn causes stress and anxieties more often than not relieved by drug abuse, alcohol abuse and more as people choose to self-medicate themselves.
Candidly, most people have no idea why they do the things they do so in this book – the sixth book in the Why
series of books – I am going to explain in detail why you do the things you do as it pertains to happiness or more so unhappiness…but more importantly why you don’t do what you are supposed to do.
The subsequent books in this series will deal with specific behavioral traits and target certain conditions that really are bothersome. To wit:
Why You Do the Things You Do
Why You Are Greedy
Why You Are Immoral
Why You Are In Debt Up To Your Eyeballs
Why You Are Lonely
Why You Are Unhappy
Why You Fail In Relationships
Why You Get Angry
Why You Gossip About Others
Why You Have Bad Habits
Why You Lie, Cheat & Deceive
Why You Overeat
Why You Procrastinate
Why You Smoke
In all of the books of this Why
series, Chapter 1 always begins with Laying a Proper Foundation
and deals with the mechanism of the human mind and how the mind functions both conscious mind and subconscious mind.
I will then teach you how to change the subconscious mind’s belief systems. In other words, the Introduction and Chapter 1 will appear in the entire Why
series of books as the foundation. From Chapter 2 on, I will then discuss each book’s specific topic in detail.
It is important to note that there is no such thing as personal
versus commercial
behavioral science.
The human mind uses the same mechanism in both personal situations as well as commercial.
The way each individual employs their respective psyches is what is different.
For example; we all have cars but we all have different driving habits and drive cars differently.
Hence, in a personal situation, i. e. relationships or a commercial situation, i.e. addicted to shopping, the human mind employs the same mechanism and the corrective protocols used to correct any of the situations described in the Why
series of books will be similar.
Happiness is defined in many ways. At the beginning of this introduction I gave you the Wikipedia definition but beginning in Chapter 2, I will begin to redefine exactly what happiness is as well as JOY!
I will demonstrate in detail how happiness is a personal choice and why a good many people choose poorly and remain unhappy.
My why
series of books emphasize the fact that people will always remain accountable for their actions, decisions and choices and this accountability does not go away.
Many of the negative things affecting your life are the result of wrongful choices. And many will respond to this statement by asking, If this is true, I don’t mean to make wrongful choices. So if I am not aware of this how can I correct it?
Excellent question and one I will discuss in detail in Chapter 1.
So let’s get to it…
Chapter 1 - Laying A Proper Foundation
In all of my Why
series of books, I will provide the following discourse on the Human Mind in order to lay a proper foundation to what I am about to teach.
The Mechanism of the Human Mind
Prior to the fall of man into sin as described in the Garden of Eden, man’s spirit was hooked to God’s infinite spirit. There was no death because God’s spirit is infinite. Man is the only animal on earth that shares the eternality nature of God. The subject of eternal life has been a heated topic of man from the beginning of our existence.
In Greek mythology, there’s a story about a mortal youth named Tithonus. Aurora, the goddess of dawn, fell in love with the boy and when Zeus, the king of the gods, promised to grant Aurora any gift she chose for her lover, she asked that Tithonus might live forever. But, in her haste she forgot to ask for eternal youth, so when Zeus granted her request, Tithonus was doomed to an eternity of perpetual aging as a grouchy old man… forever.
In the movie Highlander,
Angus McLeod was born in 1518 as an immortal being. He could not die and to