The Chase: How to Keep Her Once You've Married Her

By Oscar Joseph and Susan Joseph

How to Keep Her Once You've Married Her.

This book is a quick reading handbook for guys who want their marriage to stay great for both them and their wives. It explains one need that wives have and how husbands can meet it and reap the rewards of "The Chase."

• Language: English
• Publisher: eBookIt.com
• Release date: Apr 26, 2016
• ISBN: 9781456608026

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Foreword

For our 30th anniversary we bought a double recliner. I think that is our first and only anniversary gift we’ve given each other. Due to our being a one-income family most of our years, we agreed to only buy gifts only for the kids and our parents. But now we can finally relax after a days’ work on something other than an exercise bench.

But we had many conversations on that bench, including ideas about this book. Oscar told me he would do almost anything I asked him to do, and this book is one of them. He does like to please me, so The Chase is one of the many points he continues to make to win my affections. He enjoys pointing out that he is still chasing me. Thus the title.

During the years Oscar was a pastor, a number of times men would point out that if there was ever a man who practiced what he preached, it was he. As his wife who sees him morning, noon, and night, I wholeheartedly agree. The words and actions he writes here are the very things he has done to win my heart over and over.

I am writing this foreword because most men tend to exaggerate about their fishing and their relationships with women. My husband doesn’t do that, so I will have to be the one to tell you that he has done what he talks about in this book, and it has sure worked in our marriage.

I believe it will work in yours too.

Susan Joseph

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Acknowledgements

This book would not have happened at all without the love, support, loyalty, and encouragement that I have received from my wife Susan.   It was her willingness to graciously clue me in on the science of Womanology (specifically Susanology) that saved me from failure as a husband and instead gave me a gift of a marriage far beyond what I could have asked or imagined.

I also want to thank our son Brandon and his wife Grace for their editorial and photographic contributions.

Our pastor Ted Cunningham’s teaching and passion for great marriages provided continued inspiration for finishing this book.

Last, I must thank Jesus Christ for saving me from my selfishness and being the model husband for me and all the rest of the husbands who ever lived.

Oscar Joseph

The Chase 1: A Hot Marriage Is Within Your Reach

How does the word marriage strike you?

Like sour milk?

Or a wet blanket?

Or a cold shoulder?

If you are among the growing number of guys who think marriage is a tired and overrated institution that will kill whatever fun you were having as a couple, then this book is for you!

The stock value of marriage is way down. Celebrities are publicly ridiculing it. People are divorcing by the dozens. Each generation is postponing it later and later. Many are avoiding it altogether.

But despite all appearances to the contrary, marriage is the HOTTEST way to live…if it has the key ingredient that most married people fail to add to the mix. And that ingredient is within reach for every couple. So what is that spice that makes it sizzle instead of fizzle? And how can you keep it sizzling for a more than just a few months?

Read on.

So what is a HOT marriage?

A HOT marriage is the kind you find yourself wanting to come home to every night, because you yearn to be with her. You watch the clock all day at work because you look forward to being with her again, and you eagerly await connecting with her at every level – from casual conversation to passionate sex. You think about her through the day and love to hear her voice on the phone or see her name on an email or text. You think of new ways to have fun with her and look forward to every opportunity to show off for her in some way. You are in pursuit of her attention and affections like a hunter going after his favorite game. Studying her ways. Trying to figure out where she is. Having the right ammunition and being in the right place at the right time. Watching patiently for her to come around to your location. Getting as close to her as possible. And not being satisfied with one successful hunt, because at the end of it you may get the trophy you want the most, but the excitement of that one hunt only whets your appetite for another one. Her response and her passion for you keep you coming back for more—this is a life infused with the thrill of the chase.

If you’re already shaking your head in disbelief, that’s understandable. You might be saying, "Yeah, right. Like that’s what my buddies’ marriages are like."

You are probably trying to think of even ONE marriage you’ve seen like I’ve described above. I’ll grant you that they aren’t common, unfortunately.