Learning Elephant: Use the Power of Applied Feelings Intelligence
By Walt Froloff
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If you have felt that you are smarter than you think, that you are more than you are, there is a part inside of you that is not being used or used very well. Your emotions are a beautifully designed engine to help you survive and thrive. Find out why and how you are so much more than you think, more powerful than you act, when you leverage the information you feel.
Walt Froloff
Walt Froloff is a recovering engineer, physicist, inventor, and practicing attorney residing in Northern California. He holds patents in the fields of Artificial Intelligence, Business Intelligence, Intelligent Engines, Air Hybrid Engine, Air Impulse Engine, and Consumer Products. He has written Irrational Intelligence, the precursor to this book. His mantra is “If you think it’s impossible, you’re thinking to much – go by feel.” To learn more about how to harness the power of feelings intelligence in electronic devices go to http://www.FeelingsIntel.com.
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Learning Elephant - Walt Froloff
Learning
Elephant
Use the Power of
Applied Feelings Intelligence
Walt Froloff
Learning Elephant
Published by Walt Froloff,
Smashwords Edition
ISBN: 9781301488940
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Copyright 2009, revised 2013 by Walt Froloff
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, without permission
in writing from the publisher.
Published by
patentAlchemy Press,
Aptos, Ca
Editor: Joan Rose Staffen
Cover Illustrations: Joan Rose Staffen
Dedication
I wish to dedicate this book to Joan. Had she not come forward, enthusiastically encouraged me, volunteered to edit and direct me on this project this book would not have happened. The art illustration is her creation, spawned by feelings. Simply put, without Joan this book would not be.
Guest House
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain all!
Even if they're a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
Still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
Rumi – 13th Century
TABLE of CONTENTS
Preface
Introduction – Nature’s Gift–Your Wild Elephant
Chapter 1 – Welcome and Entertain Them All
Chapter 2 – Difficult to Welcome Them All
Chapter 3 – A Crowd of Sorrows–Painful Feelings
Chapter 4 – New Delights–Pleasurable Feelings
Chapter 5 – Guests Bring Needs
Chapter 6 – Entertaining Guests, Processing
Chapter 7 – Your Neighbors Guest House
Chapter 8 – Guest House Construction
Chapter 9 – A Guide from Inside–Go By Feel
Appendix–Synonyms, Messages, and Needs
Bibliography
About the Author
Preface
You Are More Intelligent Than You Think
Like you always knew from deep within – you are much smarter than you think. If you have ever felt that you know many secrets that cannot be accessed or that you are more than you are, that there is a part inside of you that is not being used or used very well, then you have brushed up against your feelings intelligence. To tap into your feelings intelligence, you must first learn the language of emotions. Then find out all the amazing things you have been trying to tell yourself through your feelings. Find out why and how you are so much smarter than you think, more powerful than you act, when you tap and leverage the information that you feel.
Although thinking intelligence is all that we have been taught we have, deep down we know that we have more - it’s the feeling intelligence. We can use our feelings information to find the edge, use our innate advantage to find solutions, inform our decision-making to better ourselves, and attain our highest potential by working with instead of against ourselves.
I am a recovering engineer, and this work evolved from a previous book, Irrational Intelligence, which includes my theory of emotions in a format compatible to technologists for the purpose of programming electronic devices. But my theory of emotions is broader, and so that formed the need, purpose, and reason for this work - to offer another answer to why we feel what we feel, when we feel it.
Many have wondered why they have feelings or if their feelings have value; why they feel, what they feel, when they feel it. Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote:
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
Feelings lie within us. Who can benefit from feelings intelligence? The curious, the helpless, the hopeless, the powerful and the powerless can benefit. This book will take the mystery out of emotions, just enough to make them useful and you clairvoyant.
As Emerson’s words echo, emotions seem to factor prominently in our lives, almost as if they provide purpose and motivation. Indeed they do but I have firmly avoided the search for our life’s purpose. Those issues are well addressed by others. For example, in Man’s Search for Meaning, Victor Frankl finds that life is not primarily a quest for pleasure, as Freud believed, or a quest for power, as Adler taught, but a quest for meaning.
This book is about the tools we carry on the quest to achieve our purpose, what to do when we enter the forces-beyond-our-control house. We will learn how to tap into and rely on emotions and the reserves inside that arise when we need them least and most.
John Shedd gave us:
A ship is safe in the harbor, but that is not what ships were made for.
So grab your hat and travel gear. We are packing for all weather including the doldrums and storms, so that we not only survive them, but learn to enjoy the journey as well.
Introduction
Nature’s Gift–Your Wild Elephant
An ancient Indian philosophy held that humans are comprised of three basic components – thinking, feeling, and behaving. To explain how the thinking, feeling and behaving can operate best as one, they imagined the components as three elephants. The emotions were a wild elephant, a part of our being that had abundant energy that needed to be controlled and directed to do useful work. The thinking and behavior components were trained or trainable elephants.
The Indian method of controlling and training a wild elephant was well known and well practiced. Two trained elephants were placed and bound by ropes on each side of the wild elephant to control and steer him. This by analogy is the strategy used for management of human emotions, wherein we control emotions by directing our thinking and behavior, the parts of us that we can control.
Contrary to everything you’ve been taught, your wild elephant does not need to be controlled, manipulated, or trained to be useful. In our haste and error to harness the wild elephant’s energy, we have become inhumane to the wild elephant; we have denied all that the wild elephant is. That is, we have denied who we are. In our present understandings and teachings, we have reduced our emotions, their power, and contribution.
Our wild elephant is talking to us, telling us things we need to know about the road up ahead, the steep ravines on the sides, the traps on the road, the distance to camp, the ambush that waits in the jungle or the tranquil teal lagoon just outside of eyeshot. We don’t need to fight with or control the wild elephant; we just need to know what the wild elephant is saying.
Using the power of our emotions begins with learning Elephant. Once we understand Elephant, we can lose the ropes of bondage, take the wild, powerful elephant on a full gallop unencumbered, enjoy the ride, and see the sights on the journey, secure in the elephant’s strength and wisdom to the path up ahead.
Chapter 1
Welcome and Entertain Them All
Feelings are the vital information, the part of us that gives us common sense, reason, inspiration, and creativity. This is most of what makes us unique and human. The present computer cannot accomplish even the simplest examples of common sense, reason, inspiration, or creativity, because a computer feels no pain, knows no pleasure, has no feelings, can’t reason and therefore cannot take advantage of all that we take for granted.
We receive this intelligence without thinking, through emotive signals. These provide a summation from our experiential database, our biochemical processes, and current sensory intelligence. This intelligence may be conscious or unconscious, and pertains to a matter that should concern us in the present moment.
Thinking Intelligence vs. Feelings Intelligence
Have you ever searched for lost keys? We know what they look like and our eyes are doing mix and match scanning over all of the objects that might look like those keys. Even if it’s just our friend’s keys, we can help. Our thinking recalls what keys look like. They have physical identifiable characteristics. They look and feel metallic and are shaped like a key with teeth for the lock. We may even recall where we last remember seeing them.
It takes most of our attention, concentration or mental focus to search for something. That is thinking intelligence. We recall from stored memories, identify characteristics, use pattern matching, concentration and deduction.
But what if we were searching for someone or something whose very definition is unknown to us? And with no identifiable parameters, characteristics or attributes? Furthermore, we cannot spend any time-consuming thinking effort searching. But what if it was the just most important thing in our life? OK, let’s say we are single and looking for that special someone, our soul mate.
Logically, using our thinking intelligence, we could never find our soul mate. Why? We don’t know what they look like. We don’t know anything about them. We have no identifiable characteristics. We don’t even know what kind of person we can live with harmoniously for a length of time. We don’t know what kind of person we want to spend a good part of our life with, except maybe in a very general sense. And we can’t spend our time focusing on a search for them because we’re busy making a living, spending time our friends, contributing to social groups, eating, sleeping, exercising, staying healthy and more. Our thinking intelligence fails us in our most important pursuits.
But if we were at a business lunch and our soul mate walked in, we would get a feeling, something about them would spark our interest. Interest is a feeling that directs our thinking to analyze the interest object further.
There is a stark difference between the two types of intelligences, thinking and feeling. Thinking is a step-by-step, one focused thought at a time sequential process. Feelings are spontaneous and asynchronous. They happen all by themselves, without mental focus and whenever they want. From that standpoint they seem wild, uncontrollable. We provide no mental effort to bring our feelings about. Our feelings interrupt our train of thought to inform us that it’s time to think about something else, the subject of the feeling.
It is remarkable, that our feelings spontaneously pop up like popcorn and not only tell us when its time