Five Steps to Sexual Happiness For LDS Women

By Brittany Bullen

This is a book about sex. This is not a book about dirty sex, kinky sex or extramarital sex. This is a book for married couples, ideally who are in healthy and committed relationships. Call me old-fashioned, but that’s who I am and that’s who I write for-- no offense to those who make other choices. I have geared this book primarily toward women because, let’s be honest, most men have little interest in buying a book about sex written by a woman. That, and most men I know seem to feel like the only thing that needs improvement in their sex lives is frequency. Writing this book for women should help them with that, but more importantly, I hope to ensure that both of you have the best possible experience.

This subject had taken on some particular significance in my life when I was in college. Regrettably, I was one of the first of my friends to garner any experience in the area and, due to my ability to be quite candid about it, became the resident expert on the subject. Before I knew it, I was being asked for advice often, and even sometimes by people I hardly knew. When I went through a significant change of values in my early twenties and realized that sex should belong to married couples only, I found that the requests for advice all but disappeared. I attribute this mostly to the fact that I rarely discuss my past transgressions with new friends and now that I am married, I try to remain appropriately private about my sex life. But the more bits and pieces of conversations I have with people, particularly engaged or newly married couples, the more I realize the depth of the need for a candid, gospel-based discussion about sex.

It isn’t always easy for people to talk about sex. That is why I wanted to create a resource for those who might not feel comfortable discussing it with others face to face. In this book, I will share with you everything I know about sex as it relates to the gospel. I hope to describe to you in detail exactly what to expect from your sex life, no matter how long you have been married, but I hope to do so in a way that will not be intimidating or excessively explicit. It is my sincere prayer that you will use the lessons of this book to bring greater joy to your marriage and, in doing so, your life.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Brittany Bullen
• Release date: Jan 5, 2013
• ISBN: 9781301574568

Brittany Bullen

My name is Brittany Bullen. I am a member of the Cognitive Neuroscience Society and the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science. I am a wife, mother of two boys, a writer, a performer, a composer and an aspiring vegan chef. I am also a Five Steps success story. I have used these five steps to transform nearly every area of my life, and that's how I know that you can too. I have always had an aversion to therapy. I always found myself restless, looking for a practical way to fix my life and make me feel good again. That's why I decided to become my own therapist, to fix my own problems. I have spent the past fifteen years studying psychology, philosophy, neuroscience, relationships and human behavior and have discovered that there are some very simple things that any person can do to significantly increase their quality of life, no matter how limited their time, resources or circumstances might be.

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Preface

This is a book about sex.  This is not a book about dirty sex, kinky sex or extramarital sex.  This is a book for married couples, ideally who are in healthy and committed relationships.  Call me old-fashioned, but that’s who I am and that’s who I write for-- no offense to those who make other choices.  I have geared this book primarily toward women because, let’s be honest, most men have little interest in buying a book about sex written by a woman.  That, and most men I know seem to feel like the only thing that needs improvement in their sex lives is frequency.  Writing this book for women should help them with that, but more importantly, I hope to ensure that both of you have the best possible experience.

I joined the LDS church in the Spring of 2006.  I fell in love with the doctrines of the gospel, a love which has continued to deepen in the years since.  However, as a new member of a very different culture than the one I was used to, I was concerned at the relative lack of knowledge or discourse on the subject of sex that I found in my peers who belonged to the church.  

This subject had taken on some particular significance in my life when I was in college.  Regrettably, I was one of the first of my friends to garner any experience in the area and, due to my ability to be quite candid about it, became the resident expert on the subject.  Before I knew it, I was being asked for advice often, and even sometimes by people I hardly knew.  

When I became a member of the church, I found that the requests for advice all but disappeared.  I attribute this mostly to the fact that I rarely discuss my past transgressions with new friends and now that I am married, I try to remain appropriately private about my sex life.  But the more bits and pieces of conversations I have with people, particularly engaged or newly married couples, the more I realize the depth of the need for a candid, gospel-based discussion about sex.  

It isn’t always easy for people to talk about sex.  That is why I wanted to create a resource for those who might not feel comfortable discussing it with others face to face.  In this book, I will share with you everything I know about sex as it relates to the gospel.  I hope to describe to you in detail exactly what to expect from your sex life, no matter how long you have been married, but I hope to do so in a way that will not be intimidating or excessively explicit.  It is my sincere prayer that you will use the lessons of this book to bring greater joy to your marriage and, in doing so, your life.

About The Book

What are the Five Steps?

The Five Step System is, in essence, a system for changing habits. This system can be applied to just about any subject we want to apply it to, the only thing that really changes is the habits we want to break and/or establish. In this book, I’ll begin by proposing certain habits that you might want to consider adopting or eliminating, and then I’ll help you with the process of making that happen.

Why is this book so short?

I think the best way to answer that question is to tell you a little story. When I was about twelve, all I could think about was how much I wanted boys to like me.  Sadly, I was coming up a bit short in that department and I didn’t know what to do.  Upon perusing a popular pre-teen magazine, I noticed an ad for a book promising the secret to getting the boys’ attention.  This must be the solution I’ve been waiting for, I thought!  If only I could read this book, I would be just like the cute girls and have boys calling my house non-stop.  I spent every last dime I had saved buying that book.  Two agonizing months later, it finally came in the mail.  I tore it open and skimmed past the introduction to find that the secret was... confidence.  THAT’S IT??  I thought?