And the Bride Wore White Companion Guide: Seven Secrets to Sexual Purity

By Dannah Gresh

Companion guide to And the Bride Wore White

Don't let your youth be a cultural statistic. Youth leaders and parents will be glad to see the training materials available for the bestselling And the Bride Wore White by Dannah Gresh. Perfect for individual and small group study, the DVD, leader's guide, and study guide will complement perfectly. DVD includes bonus tracks.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Moody Publishers
• Release date: Dec 11, 2014
• ISBN: 9781575674483

Dannah Gresh

Dannah Gresh lives in the mountains of Pennsylvania with her husband, Bob, their children, Robby and Lexi, and their Labradoodle, Stormie. The Greshes founded Pure Freedom, a ministry that has provided biblical retreats and teaching resources for more than 500,000 people all over the world. Dannah has appeared as a guest on programs such asFamilyLife Today, The 700 Club, and Focus on the Family.

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DANNAH GRESH

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A WORD FROM DANNAH

1 AND THE BRIDE WORE WHITE

Deciding to Live a Lifestyle of Purity

2 SATAN’S BIG FAT SEX LIES

Learning to Recognize the Truth

3 SATAN’S BIGGEST, FATTEST SEX LIE

Resisting the Lure to Sin

4 SATAN’S SECOND BIG FAT SEX LIE

Hiding Behind the Fig Leaves

5 BREAKIN’ UP IS HARD TO DO

Breaking Off Sinful Relationships in Three Easy Steps

6 SECRET #1: PURITY IS A PROCESS

Defining Innocence and Purity

7 SECRET #2: PURITY DREAMS OF ITS FUTURE

Envisioning a Godly Husband

8 SECRET #3: PURITY IS GOVERNED BY ITS VALUE

Part A: Discovering Your Value in God’s Eyes

9 SECRET #3: PURITY IS GOVERNED BY ITS VALUE

Part B: Demonstrating Your Value in the Eyes of Others

10 SECRET #4: PURITY SPEAKS BOLDLY

Preparing Your Tongue for Dates

11 SECRET #5: PURITY LOVES ITS CREATOR AT ANY COST

Pursuing a Love Relationship with Jesus

12 SECRET #6: PURITY EMBRACES WISE GUIDANCE

Inviting Your Parents into Your Love Life

13 THE TRUTH ABOUT SEX: IT’S OUT OF THIS WORLD

Understanding the Heavenly Purpose of Sex

14 THE TRUTH ABOUT SEX: GETTING DOWN TO EARTH

Preparing to Enjoy the Earthly Gift of Sex

15 NOT YOU AGAIN, SATAN!

Facing the Consequences to Find Healing

16 SECRET #7: PURITY WATCHES BURNING FLAMES

Finding M.O.R.E. to Help You

Appendix: Small Group Leader Ideas

Excerpt from Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl

Excerpt from Lies Young Women Believe

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Recently, after a long week of events in which I spoke to masses of teen girls like you, I was sitting in the airport ten miles from my home having just realized that my car keys were lost. I was trying to call my husband, Bob, on his cell phone to pick me up, but couldn’t reach him. I was exhausted and so close to home and yet so far. As I put my phone back in my bag, I looked up. And there, coming through the revolving doors with a dozen red roses in his hand, was my hero! He’d decided that morning to pick me up and spoil me.

Since we first released And the Bride Wore White fifteen years ago, my marriage has aged. At the time I wrote the paragraph above, we’d been married seventeen years but now it’s been twenty five years! I feel historic just saying that, and sometimes I feel a little … okay, a lot less cool than when I first started writing with the voice of a big sister. And, if I’m truthful, there are even days when I feel way too battered and bruised by this world’s whims and ways to invite you into a passionate and pure marriage relationship. Bob and I have endured so much. The world has come at us so hard. And aging is simply not a pretty thing! Who in heaven thought up cellulite?

But he’s still bringing me flowers.

My heart longs for more marriages to have what we have. I know you’ve seen too few that reflect passion and romance, let alone staying power. I think I might scream out loud at Satan if I hear one more of you approach me to say, I’m not sure if I want to be married. I’m scared of it. I’ve never seen it work. It seems to be one of the most common questions I answer these days. Sadly, many of you have never seen a healthy marriage.

Why?

Because Satan knows what is at stake.

He knows more than you do how powerful marriage can be. How passionate. How comforting. How soothing. How playful. How hopeful. How fun. How selfless. How loving. It was meant to be all of this and more. And for that very reason, when God looks down on this earth to find just one picture that helps the world understand His passion and love for us, He chooses marriage. With all its imperfection and rawness. With all its bouquets of flowers and love notes, which, by the way, have transcended technology. They may come by way of instant message, blogs, or e-mail, but they’re still coming. Love letters.

God’s Word is one big love letter for you and me. And in it He romances us to Himself much like a man romances a woman.

My friend, if this is the picture your marriage can be to a spiritually dying world, let me ask you something.

How motivated do you think Satan is to see that picture destroyed?

He is motivated.

Are you?

I’d like to arm you and motivate you to be romanced like crazy. The book And the