People Centricity: the incredible power of putting other people first
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This revolutionary and highly original book, People Centricity, brilliantly reveals that the secret of having great personal and work relationships lies in taking the trouble to understand the agenda and concerns of everyone with whom you interact most closely. This allows you to create a highly positive climate of mutual benefit, and to become truly people-centric.
In a lively style featuring many compelling examples, Stephen Hewett guides you through the mind-changing thinking you need to achieve the life-transforming goal of People Centricity.
The journey this book takes you on will make your difficult days better and your good days beautiful.
'Stephen is a people guru for our times'
Lord Price, Minister of State for Trade and Investment
'Stephen shares the meaning of People Centricity with you to make your life, and those you interact with, so much happier.'
Mark White, Media & TV Expert. Former CEO Channel 5 TV
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People Centricity - Stephen Hewett
People Centricity Published by The Conrad Press in the United Kingdom 2017
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Contents
Foreword
What Is People Centricity?
Your Tribe
Social Tribalism and Its Potentially Dangerous Effects
People Centricity and the Law of Attraction
You Attract What You Are
Evidence of or for the Law of Attraction
Put It into Practice
Looking Harder at Yourself
People Centricity in Action
The Mutually Beneficial Interaction
How People Centricity Takes This Book Further Than Most Other Self-Help Books Go
The Big Problem
Religion and Its Role in Advancing People Centricity
Jesus Christ’s Teachings and People Centricity
The Sins of Social Tribalism
People Centricity and Eternal Life
An Obvious But Important Point
Yet People Centricity Is Calm Methodical, Logical, and Ultimately Sustainable
So Why Isn’t People Centricity More Natural for People?
People Centricity and Showing Appreciation to People
The Unfortunate Rise of Bad Manners and Insulting Behaviour in Our society
Looking Harder at Yourself
The Two Major Types of People-Centric Interactions
Why Being Generally Courteous, Polite, And Positive Towards Strangers Makes Sense
The String of Pearls
Looking Harder at Yourself
Other Perspectives on People Centricity
The People Centricity Lessons of J.B. Priestley’s An Inspector Calls
Dale Carnegie and His Major Contribution to People Centricity
Charles Dickens’s A Christmas Carol: A Major and Vital Inspirational Text on People Centricity
It’s a Wonderful Life: A Movie About People Centricity
Archbishop Desmond Tutu: We’re Made for Community
William Styron and Sophie’s Choice
My Own Visit to Auschwitz: An Experience That Completely Changed My Life
People Centricity and Your Personal Life
An Ideal of What Love Can Be
People Centricity and Romantic Love
Why Magnanimity in Romantic Love May Make Sense
Why There Are Limitations to What People Centricity Can Achieve for You in Your Personal Life
The Raw Deal Love Often Gets Today
The Ideal Kind of Romantic Love: Everyday Calm Happiness
People Centricity and Loneliness
The False Image of Single Life
Negotiations in a Relationship and When They Happen
Why Finding out the Truth of the Other Person’s Feelings Is Better Done Early on
The Potential Instability of Romantic Relationships
Romantic Relationships and the Challenge That People Change
Life Is Difficult
People Centricity and Family Life
Family Life and the World’s Most Popular Religions
People Centricity and Raising Children
Family Life and the Romantic Relationship at the Heart of It
Looking Harder at Yourself
People Centricity in the Workplace
The Special Role of People Centricity in the Workplace
Looking Harder at Yourself
People Centricity and Your Professional Life: Customer Centricity
Defining Customer Centricity
What Being Customer-Centric Really Means
The Essence of Customer Centricity
More About the Definition of Customer
Why Being Customer-Centric Ought to Involve Your Entire Personality
Reasons for the Blurring Between Work-Self and Real-Self
Internal and External Customers
Understanding What Your Customers Are Really Getting from You
Two Key Conclusions
Why the Core of Customer Centricity Is the Adding of Value
How You Can Decide Whether a Customer Will Regard Something as Offering Added Value
The Danger of Customer Centricity Being Eroded as Organizations Grow in Size
The Problem That the Nature of Customer Demand Changes over Time, and Sometimes Changes Quickly
The Problem of Cost
Looking Harder at Yourself
A Better, People-Centric World
Our Fundamental Choice as a Species
Acknowledgements
About the Author
Foreword
This book is about making you, your family, your friends, and those you interact with happier. I’d say that this, in itself, is an extremely good reason to give People Centricity: The Incredible Power of Putting Other People First a proper look!
The practical philosophy of People Centricity is about making people happy through mutually beneficial interactions. The people closest to us — our tribe
— are those that we are emotionally or socially attached to. They are your immediate group of friends, family, and closest work colleagues. People Centricity is based around showing us how we can all invest more time and effort to interact and empathise with those outside our tribe to benefit us all with even more mutually positive outcomes.
Author Stephen Hewett is a man you just want to spend time with. Always wearing a smile and an aura of positivity, he engages you with stories from his days as a flying instructor and pilot, as well as offering advice from his vast experience and business observations, gained over years at the top of the retail world with The John Lewis Partnership.
Yet above all what makes Stephen so special is that he always listens and is genuinely interested in you. He is a walking billboard for People Centricity, as it comes so naturally to him, as he practises it in all aspects of his life. This book allows Stephen to share the meaning and different applications of People Centricity with you to make your life, and those you interact with, happier.
When I was growing up my dad told me to always do as you would be done by.
I suppose, in its own way, it was about taking the time to look at the other perspective, put yourself in the other person’s shoes and see how it feels to be on the other side of the fence. Whether it be as a boy on the playground or the CEO in the boardroom, I’ve always tried to follow his advice and taking the time to do so has always helped to achieve happier outcomes all round.
In the world of commercial television, where I have spent the last thirty years, every day is about looking for mutually beneficial outcomes. The channel needs to attract an audience to its shows by understanding through research, or by just asking them, the types of shows they want to see across the schedule. The commercial breaks between these shows will, in turn, attract advertisers to invest money in order to reach that self-same audience with their products and services. Much of that revenue is then re-invested into more programming and so the cycle begins again. When the cycle works at its best, with each element listening to the other’s needs, everyone benefits and everyone’s happy: the viewer, the advertiser, and the broadcaster. Whilst this is a highly simplified version of the process, it is essentially what happens. This provides the entertainment and educational content that television delivers to make television one of the very most important media in the world and a great place to initiate a conversation when interacting with someone from outside of your tribe.
As well as explaining how People Centricity works in practise, this book also talks us through many examples of People Centricity in life, history, religion, literature, and the natural world including:
How Social Tribalism led to World War II and 9/11.
Are teenagers deliberately un-People-Centric?
Why you can’t leave your leisure-life personality in the corporate cloakroom.
Why didn’t Jesus have a family of his own?
How do sharks breathe?
Why we all depend on strangers.
If you’re good to your waitress it can change your friend’s life forever.
Do fish like strawberries and cream?
All these and more are waiting inside these pages together with a recipe to make your life happier.
So what are you waiting for? Take the time to turn the page — both right now and in your life.
Mark White
Television & Media Consultant
Former CEO of Channel 5 Broadcasting
Let us try to teach generosity and altruism, because we are born selfish. Let us understand what our own selfish genes are up to, because we may then at least have the chance to upset their designs, something that no other species has ever aspired to do.
The Selfish Gene, Richard Dawkins (1976)
What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?
Middlemarch, George Eliot (1871)
Scientific man cannot survive if he is going to make war.
Bertrand Russell on BBC TV’s Face to Face (1959)
My warm thanks to Lord Price for his contribution. Lord Price is author of the book Fairness for All, which is about the power of an engaged workforce and how to achieve it.
The website www.measuringworkplacehappiness.com measures individual and companies’ happiness with a view to better engage employees.
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What Is People Centricity?
Would you like to have any — or all — of these…
good health?
financial security?
personal, emotional and sexual gratification?
the enjoyment of the happiness and health of the people who are dear to you?
an occupation you find absorbing, fascinating, and lucrative?
agreeable leisure-time activities?
a faith you find important, whether religious or secular?
an overwhelming sense of positivity in yourself?
the feeling that you are a good person and that you generate good outcomes for yourself and for the people you care about and work with?
anything else that makes you feel most happy?
If you have all of these great things already, I mean all of them, I congratulate you. You may not need to read this book. But if you’re missing any if these things, then, Reader, I urge you to read on, because this book will help you get more of the above things … if not all of them.
All I ask is this: if you do want to get at least one more of the great things listed above than you already have, do please accept that you’ll need to change what you put into your life in order to get out what you want. After all, how can you expect to get new outcomes if you don’t change your inputs? It’s only logical, isn’t it?
People Centricity
is what I call the approach to life I recommend in this book. So let’s answer the question: What’s People Centricity?
Well, it’s all these things:
a powerful, invigorating and life-enhancing life philosophy
a new way of seeing the world
a way of making your life even better
fun
interesting
engaging
fulfilling
liberating in that it liberates you to a new life.
How can we define People Centricity? I suggest
the life philosophy of making an investment of time and emotional energy to advance the agenda of people — with whom you have a mutually beneficial interaction — who are outside your immediate close circle.
People Centricity is a fairly obvious term to think up, so perhaps I shouldn’t make a claim for having invented it. I wasn’t aware of it, though, until I first started using the term in my consulting work as an extension of the more familiar expression Customer Centricity.
But Customer Centricity only focuses on customers; People Centricity focuses on everyone. The notion of People Centricity is, I’ve noticed, becoming increasingly present on blogs and in articles; more and more people are feeling that there must be something in the idea of attempting to focus the discipline of centricity on people rather than only customers.
All the same, this book is, as far as I know, the first ever on the subject of People Centricity.
Your Tribe
Here’s another important definition I use here. In this book, I refer to your close circle as your tribe.
So who is your tribe? Well, I’d say it’s
the person or people you live with;
whoever you regard as your immediate family;
the people who are your closest friends;
the people you work with most closely;
if you belong to a religion, the people you are closest to at your place of worship;
sometimes, people beyond your immediate circle of acquaintances whom you see as belonging to your own ethnic, national, or religious group. (This is a more extensive definition of the concept of your tribe, and applies most often in political situations.)
There may be other members of your tribe, but the categories above are the most important ones. You get the idea: basically anyone in your life to whom you are emotionally or socially close is likely to be part of your tribe. In practice, the most important constituent of your tribe will be your family.
Social Tribalism and Its Potentially Dangerous Effects
In this book I use the term social tribalism
to describe putting a narrow focus on the agenda of your own tribe. This narrow focus often, though not always, means being actively opposed to the agenda of people