Divided Relationships: Personal Psychology Book

By Mary Queen

The most critical stages of development of a human cover the period starting from birth until three years. The quality of our future life depends on the way these phrases are passed. If a mother was enough to warm and sensitive, able to surround her child with care and attention, supporting his independence while he was growing older. The child gradually gets acquainted with himself, receiving and deepening the notion of his self, learns to use his resources, identifies, and accepts his limitations.

This is a perfect scenario. The life of Such people is free and easy. They take other people's opinion into account, don't lose the ability to hear it but, at the same time, never depend on it. The value of relations with others for them is in saving both their own and another person's individuality.

In such relations, there is a possibility to give and to take, to agree and to reject, to live the whole range of emotions, just without the touch of real shame, guilt, and fear.

Life under different scenario differs significantly, and the critical issue here is not the drama and despair. Such people have to spend more effort, energy, and time to live a quality life. A child is susceptible to approval, and he wants to get unconditional love and acceptance. If parents didn't provide him with such essential things - to be loved as he is - the child unconsciously forms such an image, for which he will be loved and praised.

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Denzil Darel
• Release date: Aug 2, 2017
• ISBN: 9781386925187

Mary Queen

The practicing psychologist in the field of therapy, the treatment of solitude, the specialty of internal conflicts, the lack of stability in problems with the family, with partners. I work in the following areas: - Individual psychology, cognitive-behavioral therapy, behavioral psychotherapy, psychoanalysis (classical). - Individual and group therapy, counseling of adolescents and adults, couples and partners. - Practical psychology, psychodrama, emotional problems, stresses and their consequences.

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Preface

The psychology of relations with the opposite sex is exciting for everyone. How to build such a behavior pattern that could please everyone, especially you? One should go beyond the rules and constrained behaviors and overcome habitual scenarios. I address this book both to men and women, which seldom happen nowadays. It is a manual created both for psychotherapists and for people wishing to get rid of codependency in relations with a partner.

A WOMAN WANTS TO GET the 'real' man, and a man, to get the 'real' woman. How to reach this? How to get balance in complex relations? This book concerns these very complex issues. So, let's begin.

Chapter 1

A Path to Yourself

And Another Person

Iam falling into the same pit. I'm exhausted, worn-out, and full of anger. I am surprised by my inability to recognize this street and to pass this infamous hole. I am falling again, get wounded, and swallow tears, full of anger at himself, at this open pit, and the one who made it. I want to see the light, to understand, and to learn how to stop on time...

ALL OF US BRING PARTICULAR baggage from our childhood. Someone's luggage contains accurately arranged resources to be spent for development; someone has a chaotic disorder of accumulations in his suitcase. Only with time will the owner of this property start finding out whether this content is suitable: he will reject something and put something back, making it his capital. Just in childhood, we learn to feel, to assign something, to deny something, and determine how to establish relations with ourselves and others.

The most critical stages of development of a human cover the period starting from birth until three years. The quality of our future life depends on the way these phrases are passed. If a mother was enough to warm and sensitive, able to surround her child with care and attention, supporting his independence while he was growing older. The child gradually gets acquainted with himself, receiving and deepening the notion of his self, learns to use his resources, identifies, and accepts his limitations.

This is a perfect scenario. The life of Such people is free and easy. They take other people's opinion into account, don't lose the ability to hear it but, at the same time, never depend on it. The value of relations with others for them is in saving both their own and another person's individuality.

In such relations, there is a possibility to give and to take, to agree and to reject, to live the whole range of emotions, just without the touch of real shame, guilt, and fear.

Life under different scenario differs significantly, and the critical issue here is not the drama and despair. Such people have to spend more effort, energy, and time to live a quality life. A child is susceptible to approval, and he wants to get unconditional love