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Date is a Four-Letter Word, and Why You Should Never Use it - Steven Provenzano
DATE!
is a Four-Letter Word,
and Why You Should Never Use it
Rants, ramblings and reminders for the single man, in a time of digital dystopia.
By
Steven Provenzano
Advance Praise for:
DATE!
is a Four-Letter Word,
and Why You Should Never Use It
"Great insights into male and female relationships that can
help men avoid insecurity, dishonesty, fear, anger, and
settling for the wrong relationship. Well worth it."
‐ Steve Yeschek, LCSW, CAMS-IV
"Contains a wealth of useful insights, observations and information that all men, and the women they seek,
would do well to consider."
‐ David Saunders, M.A
A must-read. You and all women will be better off.
‐ J. Burns, M.M.
A great read for guys who think they don’t need help. Useful for women who want to get into the heads of guys.
‐ Jean R., Pharm. D.
Are you kidding?
You need this book. Steven really knows this stuff.
‐ Steven’s Mother from Liverpool, UK
DATE!
is a Four-Letter Word,
and Why You Should Never Use it
By Steven Provenzano, President,
ECS: Executive Career Services &
DeskTop Publishing, Inc.
This book may not be sold, copied or distributed, in whole or in part, without express written consent of the author, under strict enforcement and penalty of applicable laws.
Full U.S. Copyright Registration: © 2018
www.Copyright.gov
Thanks to Assistant Editors Lais T., Linda P., Scott H., Jean R., Carmein N., Dave S., and Steve Y.
PRINT / P.O.D. BOOK ISBN:
978-0-9633558-7-4
EBOOK ISBN:
978-0-9633558-3-6
Film rights available, contact the Author.
Published by:
ECS & DTP, Inc.
an Illinois Corporation
https://Execareers.com
About the Author
Steven Provenzano is a Life Coach, Certified Professional Resume Writer (CPRW), Certified Employment Interview Professional (CEIP), former Corporate Recruiter, Improvisational Actor and author of ten books on expert resume writing, career marketing, and a GI Bride’s immigration to America; more than 100,000 copies sold worldwide. His most recent career book is Top Secret Resumes & Cover Letters, 3rd Ed. the Complete Career Guide for All Job Seekers.
He is President of ECS: Executive Career Services & DTP, Inc. He and his staff have written thousands of resumes and Linkedin profiles for Fortune 500 clients worldwide.
He has appeared on CNBC, CNN, WGN, ABC/NBC in Chicago, on numerous radio programs, and in newspapers such as The Chicago Tribune, The Wall Street Journal and Crain's, and holds a BA in Journalism from Northern Illinois University.
His work is endorsed by Chicago Tribune Career Columnist Lindsey Novak, and top executives at firms such as Motorola, Coca-Cola and First Data Corp. For a free resume analysis, send your resume materials to: Careers1@Execareers.com; Site: https://Execareers.com.
Check our upcoming blog:
www.Dateisafourletterword.com
CONTENTS
PART ONE
Nuts
Jerks
Sex?
The Disconnect
The Music Effect
Fear and Emotion
Fish Love
Intention
Guts
Rotten
Dodging Bullets
Commitment
Wisdom
The Chemistry of: Chemistry
Science Proves Premarital Sex Rewires the Brain
Conquest?
The Real Thing
PART TWO
Damn Logic, Really
Stop Making Sense
Gut Check
Stand in Defiance
PART THREE
Get Honest with Yourself
Sincerity
Get Up, Stand Up
A Real Man
What do Women Want?
Reverse Psychology – On You
Feelings, and Emotional Intelligence
PART FOUR
The Real Man’s Non-Rules to Non-Dating
Why You Should Never Say Date
Why You Don’t Want to Date
Align Yourself with True Connection
Wanting Contact
Get Yourself Ready For: The First Look
Tension: Live in the Tension
Slow Down
Go Somewhere with Her
Decipher the Code
The God Illusion
Timing: Love the One You’re With
Don’t Slam the Other Guy
Men Need Brothers
Women Need Sisters
PART FIVE
Love Is:
Your Standards
Takers & Givers
Over? Don’t Block Yourself
You Can’t Be Friends
There are No Good Breakups
Cut Your Losses
Get Out
Motivation, Reminders and Rants
APPENDIX – I
Easy
PANCREAS - II
Alone Yet?
LIVER - III
Faith, and Things to Remember
Notes to Yourself
Rock Stars Arrested After Historic Flight
Preface
This book is about right NOW, which is all you ever have.
It is about everyday life, and how you’re living it: with grit, determination, friends, community and humor… or without. Time is running out, and you’re not getting any younger.
Real men find the guts to face hard truths about themselves so they can change and grow, without leaning on drugs, alcohol, pornography, or anything else that only makes things worse. Real men face and resolve their issues, a.k.a. problems, head on.
If you're looking for quick sex, throw this book in the trash, or recycle it. Do something good for the environment; maybe someone else will find it and use it.
Or would you like to marry yourself
? Yes, that is actually happening. It's a fallen world, but your task in life is to rise above this world, and create a better life for yourself and everyone around you. This book will help you do that. It is a collection of personal experiences, insights, observations and examples, when fake political correctness rules the airwaves, and our social interactions.
Leverage the tips in the first three parts of this book to get clear and centered before even trying to connect with a woman. Then try the fourth part. Stick with this book; if you don’t read it all, you won’t get the big picture. Not all of the concepts here apply to my life, and not all of them will apply to yours. Don’t be so serious; laugh and have a good time with this. Take what you need – what will help in your situation – and leave the rest.
PART ONE
Nuts
I was talking to a friend of mine about a girlfriend – she was all over the place – mentally that is.
She’s nuts!
he said. They’re all nuts!
We laughed and did a high-five. Now, of course women aren’t nuts
. He was talking about emotional intelligence, and when it comes to men, most women, about 92% according to my latest, non-scientific survey, do this:
They Follow Their Hearts.
Expecting a woman not to follow her heart, and make logical sense about whom she Loves, follows, or accepts into her life, is like expecting a fish to jump out of water and go for a hike.
That’s it. That’s all you need to know. Now you can stop reading.
Actually, you need to know more, and it’s not all about women anyway, it’s about you:
Your insides, your motives, your drives, your fears and what comes out of your mouth.
It’s about YOUR heart.
Sound stupid?
Don’t be a jerk.
Jerks
If women can be nuts, men can be jerks. All too often, we follow our eyes, our lust. Apparently, there are enough women who fall for this – or give us the benefit of the doubt – that more than 50% of marriages end in divorce.
Why do you want a woman? What do you want from her, and what can you give her (besides sex)? If you think women are nuts, what