Building Your Band of Brothers
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Stephen Mansfield
Stephen Mansfield is the New York Times bestselling author of Lincoln's Battle with God, The Faith of Barack Obama, Pope Benedict XVI, Searching for God and Guinness, and Never Give In: The Extraordinary Character of Winston Churchill. He lives in Nashville, Tennessee, with his wife, Beverly.
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I want you to imagine something with me. Whatever your history, whatever your race or your native country, I want you to roll the story of your people back a few hundred years in your mind. Think about the men at that time. Remind yourself of how they lived and of what sealed them to each other.
These men—your ancestors—probably lived their whole lives in vital connection to other men. It determined nearly everything about them. In fact, it determined the meaning of manhood itself. What they knew and what they lived is part of what we need to recover today.
Keep imagining the lives of our ancestors with me. A few centuries ago families were often large, unless disease or war reduced their size. A man was likely to have brothers. He grew up with these companions, explored the world with them, and learned with them all that their parents had to teach. Often a man and his brothers lived near each other all their days, standing together against the onslaughts of the world and building together the things that made life worth living.
These brothers were also part of a larger band of men: the men of the village, town, or tribe. Survival was impossible without them. The men of this wider male community depended on each other for defense. They needed each other for the hunt. They relied on each other for help with their farms, for trade, and for the skills they did not possess themselves. They worked together, fought together, celebrated together, and worshipped together. During restful moments, they traded jokes, talked about the ways of the world, and entrusted each other with their dreams. They were tightly knit, an essential part of each other’s lives.
These were the commitments that bound men together centuries ago. They lived open, accountable, dutiful lives. They were connected. They had roles to play, jobs to do. They were devoted to a people— their people.
Introverts had to get over themselves. Loners were suspect. A man without a people to call his own was often viewed as a threat. If he was rootless and untethered, he might also be lawless and unprincipled. This was how people thought several hundred years ago.
Sometimes we forget these truths from our history and believe myths instead. Americans, for example, have a soft place in their hearts for the image of the solitary man on horseback who rode out into the western frontier. It’s true that there were men who ventured into the wilderness on their own like this and a few even built colorful reputations, but communities built the nation. Two hundred years ago, most men would have thought that a guy who went into the wild alone was a fool.
Life as part of a company of men was the way of our ancestors, but it is far from the way of men today. The majority of men today have no meaningful connection to other men. They have no band of brothers. They do not belong to a people. They do not belong—anywhere. Instead, most men today live lonely, rootless, untethered lives.
It is killing them. Surveys confirm it. Medical studies confirm it. The male suicide rate confirms it.¹
Fortunately, the average man today can still vaguely remember what it was like when he had friends. When he was a boy, his friends were everything. He came home from that first day of school and his mother asked him if he had made any new friends. The answer was important. In the days after, he rushed through his chores and homework to be with his buddies. They were his world, or at least the companions who explored the world with him.
This didn’t change much during his teen years. Sports, music, cars, goofing off, and the unending pursuit of girls sealed him to other guys. They were his tribe. They were his band of boisterous brothers.
This likely continued all through high school. Friendships were easier to find in those days. They were right at hand. Buddies lived in the same neighborhood or attended the same school or played in the same band or found each other at the same part-time jobs and during the raucous hours of fun that never seemed to end back then-back when friends were easier to find. If he went to college, this all continued for years more.
Then, it started to happen. School came to an end. Our man went to work. He got married. He had children. Or maybe he stayed single. It doesn’t matter. The same forces took control. There were obligations. There were a couple of moves. His company required it. Maybe the military required it, or the search for hard-to-find jobs.
Whatever the cause, he got separated from his buddies. He got busy. A friend stopped being someone to hang out with