Too Soon Old-Too Late Smart: A Book of Hope and Renewal

By Alana L. Lilly

After repeating the same mistakes over and over again, author Alana L. Lilly often thinks, "What's wrong with me, and when am I going to learn?" Through one horrible relationship after another, Lilly swore to never make bad decisions again. But like many women, she still kept moving from one dysfunctional relationship to the next. Then, something miraculous happened.

Has God ever spoken to you-literally reached out and grabbed your attention? People don't believe that this happens today; and at first, neither did Lilly. Like a small drip from a faucet that will not let up-with the constant drip-drip-drip that threatens to drive you nuts-she tried to ignore the persistent thought that God wanted her to write a book. But it didn't work. With His help, and guidance from the Holy Spirit, Lilly eventually trusts in the Lord's imploration to lend her story to those who might share in its message.

All females face adversities, hardships, and trials. Life is hard-but turning your back on friends, family, and the ones you love is never the answer. So find a comfortable place to sit and relax, and let Lilly tell you her inspirational story

• Language: English
• Publisher: iUniverse
• Release date: Aug 11, 2006
• ISBN: 9780595831678

Alana L. Lilly

Alana L. Lilly resides in Jacksonville, North Carolina, where she has lived for more than twenty-five years. Too Soon Old?Too Late Smart! is her first book.

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TOO SOON OLD!

TOO LATE SMART!

A book of Hope and Renewal

Alana L. Lilly

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TOO SOON OLD! TOO LATE SMART!

Copyright © 2006 by Alana L. Lilly

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Contents

Dedication

Acknowledgement

Introduction

1

Youth: Oh, My Goodness, Youth

2

As the Beat Goes On

3

Keep on Trucking’

4

Age: a State of Mind

5

Music

6

Laughing So Hard You’re Leaning Over & About to Bust

7

Prayer

8

Pets

9

Greatly Wronged

10

Do You Really Know the Person You Love?

11

Flowers, Trees, Birds, and the Bees

12

Embrace Your Spirit

13

One Flaw in a Woman

14

More Rape Victims Speak Up

15

You Have the Right to Say, "No!

16

Our Sexuality

17

Social Relatedness and Respect

18

Be Kind

19

Christmas Letter 2004

20

20 Years with Mr. Right

21

Christmas Letter 2005

22

The Shock of Death

23

The Obituary

24

Now, I’m The Widow

25

Read Only if You Have Time for God

26

Placement

27

Memories

28

Closure

29

Statistics

Dedication

My Husband

This book I dedicate to the memory of my late husband, Richard L. Lilly (August 25, 1934–April 12, 2005). There is such a void in our lives since you left. We miss you and love you so much.

My Parents

I honor my father, Edward Harold Pross (1918–1969) who, in his deepest despair, chose to end his life by suicide. Daddy, that wasn’t the answer.

The title of this book gives tribute to my wonderful mother, Juanita F. Pross, to whom I owe the distinguished honor and privilege of being her daughter.

My Friend

Keri Amanda Tyre (March 30, 1984–March 30, 2003), the belated beautiful daughter of one of my friends, Melinda Tyre.

Acknowledgement

I thank Deborah White. Without your computer knowledge and fitting me into your schedule time and time again, the completion of this book would not have been possible. Thanks from the bottom of my heart.

Introduction

For the last several months, a thought has kept popping up in my mind: write a book. Of course, wouldn’t we all love that idea to do that? Write a book, be famous, and make lots of money. Fairy tale stuff, right? Thinking our story would make an impact on someone else’s life? Get real! Our lives aren’t fiction. Our lives are very real. So, I would push the idea aside and continue on with my daily routine. Hours would go by or maybe a few days, then again, the thought would creep up: write a book. I’d say to myself, Lord, are you trying to tell me something? What would I say in this book? Again, I shoved the idea away from my thought process.

I’m a Christian. And heaven knows, I haven’t been going to church on a regular basis. I have, however, started to get involved again. I have joined a church recently that I feel quite at home with. The people are warm and welcoming and, the pastor is, a God-fearing man. I’m not a Sunday school teacher. I tell myself I will tithe better. I set goals for myself to do this or that concerning the church. I fall so short all the time.

It seems like the little red man sits on my shoulder, giving me negative vibes more than I care to admit. I find myself constantly saying, get thee behind me, Satan. Write a book? I don’t think so. Besides, I don’t know the first thing about composing a book. Let alone getting it published. On with the daily stuff I go, ignoring the idea completely.

When God wants us to do something, He is very stubborn and won’t let it rest. Most days I try to take a few minutes, sit down with a cup of coffee or a cold drink at my computer desk, and read my incoming e-mails. When checking my junk mail, I usually scan it briefly, and then, click delete. Low and behold, there is one that jumps out at me: Thinking about writing a book? Check out Tate Publishing, a Christian publishing company. Ok. This is getting creepy!

During this past 2005 Christmas holidays, I spent a few relaxing days in the mountains of Blowing Rock, North Carolina, at Maple Lodge. During that stay, I met a wonderful Christian couple from Durham, North Carolina. We had breakfast one morning. Somewhere in the midst of conversation, he mentioned that he worked for Core Publishing and was promoting an idea for a new magazine.

That crazy idea hit me again. Write a book. I felt like Tom Hanks in the movie, Forrest Gump, when the main female character, his friend Jenny, kept saying; Run, Forest, run! Write a book! Write a book! just kept running through my brain like water running out of a faucet. I still had no idea what to write, or how to begin, or what I was supposed to say to make a difference.

One of my biggest concerns was that I had absolutely no training in journalism and no professional experience in publishing. I kept reminding God over and over again of this very important issue. The Lord kept at me, saying, Keep telling your readers of the importance of this book and how it will impact the lives of other women out there. He kept assuring me everything would be ok. Just write the book. Let the words flow from your heart. Your experiences and passion will offset any lack of credentials.

I wish for each of you joy, inner peace, and faith to define your living and your life, and love and compassion to make the rest worthwhile. It is my sincere desire that these words I write will bring a little smile to your day……, some hope for your tomorrow……, and maybe perhaps a tear sliding down your cheek from your eye to humble you and help you hang on when the storms blow through.

Sincerely,

Alana L. Lilly

1

Youth: Oh, My Goodness, Youth

My early childhood up through the teenage years and until I left home was, in my mind, relatively normal. I am what they call a baby-boomer,—that which means I was born shortly after World War II.

Barbara Johnson writes a lot of spiritual sayings, and I’ll use one of her phrases: According to my birth certificate I’m somewhere between estrogen and death, or as someone else said, …between menopause and LARGE PRINT.

I grew up in the era of Elvis Presley, bobby socks, and saddle shoes. For entertainment, we went to sock hops. For you of you who don’t not know what bobby socks are, they’re were solid white socks that were folded down to the ankle and worn with the black-and-white saddle shoes. At my high school in Knoxville, Tennessee, girls could not wear jeans; they had to wear skirts or dresses to school. The boys had to wear nice pants or nice jeans, and their shirts had to be tucked in with a belt.

Getting pregnant and continuing to attend school was unheard of. Teenage pregnancies and unwed pregnancies outside of marriage were always hushed. And when it did happen, off the girl would go until the baby was born. Usually, her reputation ruined if word did get out. Abortions were not legal.

Teenagers hung out at the local drug store or hamburger joint where they feasted on RC Cola and moon pies, French fries and a juicy hamburger. RC stood for Royal Crown Cola, a popular soft drink. The RC brand is less popular today, but the company still exists. Old habits are hard to break. To this day, I still buy a twelve-12 pack of RC and keep them in my refrigerator.

When our parents said, No, it meant No. Fear and respect just went hand in hand where they were concerned. It was a totally different era than what you see in today’s teenagers. Pot was something you cooked in. Weed was