How to Boost Self-Esteem: Eliminate Fear & Shyness, Achieve Personal Goals & Influence People

By Dr. Michael Ericsson

How to Boost Self-Esteem:  Eliminate Fear & Shyness, Achieve Personal Goals & Influence People
If you want to Improve Self-Confidence, Remove Depression & Negative Thoughts, Achieve Happiness & Live A Stress-Free Life this is your book!

This book contains proven steps and techniques on how to boost self-esteem, be happy and on how you can harness inner peace.

Many people barely develop self-esteem because of various reasons. It could be stress, lack of motivation, and exhaustion. However, despite these varied causes, there are ways on how you can become a successful person. Self-confidence is not just about controlling oneself, but is about living a healthy, quality and successful life. Learn how to improve self-esteem and enjoy life with the strategies provided in this book. Read on and find out!

In How to Boost Self-Esteem:  Eliminate Fear & Shyness, Achieve Personal Goals & Influence People You'll Learn...

How to Become a Minimalist and Simplify Your Life
How to Develop Your Communication Skills
How to Defeat Procrastination Forever
How to Make The Most of Your Day with Morning Routine
How to Achieve Your Goals
How to Eliminate Anxiety
How to Master Your Body Language
How to Control Your Time and Get The Best Results
How to Build Great Habits
How to Improve Your Self-Confidence
How to Live in The Moment Through Mindfulness
How to Relief Stress, Stay Calm and Achieve Peace
How to Master Your Willpower
How to Improve Your Self-Esteem
How to Boost Your Self-Control
How to be Happy in Life
How to Be Productive
How to Develop Your Charisma
How to Develop Leadership Skills
How to Eliminate Shyness 
How to Find Your Passion
How to Reveal Your Talents
How to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence
How to Invest in Yourself
How to Meditate and Live a Healthier Life

This book will help you learn where to start in trying to boost your self-esteem and pursue your passion. 

I would like to encourage you to begin the journey by looking at yourself and accepting what you see. There can never be another you so be all you can be for the time being.  

The next step is to follow the given steps and start understanding yourself, your environment and the factors that will drive you to passionate success.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Dr. Michael Ericsson
• Release date: Aug 7, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386578161

Book preview

Chapter 1 –  How to Improve Your Self-Esteem

Psychologists describe self-esteem as the overall perspective of a person on his or her value. It is one’s view of the self and one’s attitude towards it. Do you feel worthy? Do you feel capable? Are you proud of yourself? Are you inspired? Do you know yourself, and are you proud of that? Only you can decide.

If you constantly doubt your self-worth and abilities, if you have no trust in your capacities and potentials and ultimately no pride in yourself, and if you find yourself feeling worthless, then you have issues with self-esteem, and you need to address that before it goes out of hand.

What does a low self-esteem do?

1. Poor health as a result of eating disorders, and low energy levels because you are so busy pleasing everyone but yourself.

2. Missed career opportunities as a result of the echo in your mind that says you cannot do it. Low self-esteem makes you feel inappropriate and unworthy hence hinders you from taking risks and grabbing chances.

3. Sexual problems are closely related to self-esteem issues because it is all about an individual’s problem with his or her image. Low self-esteem leads to low sex drive and addictions. People seek help for these only to discover that there existed deeper rooted issues that manifested themselves as sexual addiction or sexual problems.

4. Low self-esteem harms your emotions because you find yourself unable to put your feelings to the fore. It hinders you from accepting your weaknesses and sharing intimacy on many levels with a partner. You find yourself being either too shy and come across as aloof or too arrogant when all you needed was a shoulder to lean on.

The first step to improving your self-esteem is by challenging his messages of criticism to you. Replace them with opposite and positive messages. An example of a negative inner message is when you are ‘told’ These people will never like me, I am too short and inappropriate, or They think I am spoilt and stuck up. Acknowledge your strengths and say I am the best there can ever be, I am awesome, or I have a kind heart for helping people.

Be good to yourself

If you know that you would give a shoulder to a friend who is in a rough place, then you should do the same for yourself. You should be the first person to receive that support and commiseration. Give yourself that support; be a fellow with yourself and help ‘you.’ If you can give, then you should allow yourself to receive - especially during hard times. Be good and forgive yourself when something does not go as planned. Be gentle and support yourself instead of being critical when you fail, and most of all accept that things do not always turn out as expected.

Accept yourself

This is something you have to decide on. Self-acceptance is a conscious decision. It is something that helps you accept without denial that we are how we are – short, tall, black or white. It is agreeing that you feel what you feel, done what you have done and have what we have, and ultimately, we are what we are. What’s next? Declare to yourself that you choose to value yourself, to treat yourself with honor and dignity. This is the basic act of agreeing to yourself and self-esteem grows and feeds out of this.

Live your life to its potential

You alone are responsible for your happiness. So they told you that you are not good enough? It has nothing to do with you; they have the problem, not you. No man created another; a person is entitled to their own opinion, but if you take that to be the food upon which your soul feeds, you are going nowhere.

Be self-assertive

Being assertive means living respectfully and in entirety of the human society. Self-assertiveness is upholding and standing for your rights while acknowledging those of others. It is striking a balance between being independent and being autonomous. Being a person with self-esteem means you know your rights and respect those of others too. It means you listen to other people also as much as you listen to yourself. Living as an assertive person is speaking and doing from your beliefs and principles.

Seek for a mentor

If the source of your self-esteem comes from school, seek the help of your teachers. There are also other professionals in school that should help you with school issues. If you are being bullied or teased, for example, a teacher is a person trained to be an all-rounded instructor so he can help you.

Practice personal integrity

Developing and maturing requires you to develop your own values or get them from others. Integrity means integrating our beliefs and values in how we behave and in everything that we do. It is a matter of matching our standards and convictions to our actions and behavior. When you more often refuse to strike this balance, your self-esteem falls into uncertainty. Acting against what you hold to be morally upright is betraying your mind and creating an imbalance in your thoughts. Betraying your integrity means betraying yourself. Practice what you believe to be on the right track and redeem your self-esteem.

Chapter 2 – How to Uncover The Willpower In You

Ibelieve that a person with willpower is both born and made.

You are born with willpower inside you. It is not acquired as you grow old. It is not something you can buy from the store. It is not even inherited. Willpower is already with you even from the first day you saw the world. Yes, it’s inside you but you will not be able to utilize it of you just keep it there.

Willpower is also made; and the one who makes it is you alone. You build willpower because you develop it. You make it because you control it. You make it because you have it; it’s in your hands.

HOWEVER, IT WILL BE better, if not the best, when the willpower waiting to be discovered in us is both from the mind and the heart. Any person who has an educated mind and an ethical heart will never go wrong. If you can, why not try to put into action the way of thinking you have through your heart?

We are not born with the skills to automatically being out the willpower inside us. We are born with minds, but we are not gifted with a certain magical characteristic that can grant our wildest wishes. We are born to discover how to discover the things waiting to be discovered.

Introduce yourself to new things. Do not be afraid to approach something new. Discovering is a form of learning. New things are good as long as you know your limitations. Do not let yourself be stuck in a single endeavor. Growing up is learning so that you will have something to teach to your child someday.

Love your work. If you love what you are doing, you will never get tired. Loving your work is reminding yourself that you sacrificed a lot to be where you are now. You will never feel tired if you love your work. Also, you can do a lot more if you are not bored with what you are doing. Loving your work is being grateful of the work itself; being grateful that you’re given the chance to share your skills with others. Always put in mind that a work made with love will be the greatest work you can do for the rest of your life.

Practice makes ideal. Yes, nobody is perfect but you can come close. Being able to master the things you are doing in a daily basis will eventually make an expertise, if not perfection. Practice consists of doing a thing and observing someone doing