Life's Journey
By Kathy Herzog
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Born in a small town in Wisconsin, Kathy Herzog never imagined the trials and heartache that would come into her life. Yet despite it all, she would emerge to become a stronger, more courageous woman.
Deeply intimate, Lifes Journey tells Kathys bittersweet, true story of how she endured divorce, infertility, and her husbands illnessand yet was still determined to forge a happy life. She details her early college days, her painful divorce at the age of thirty, her journey to graduate school, and the pain of long-distance relationships.
Kathy shares how she met the love of her life, David, whom she married in October of 2001. After struggling with infertility, Kathy became pregnant in 2004. Even as they rejoiced, their joy was overshadowed by Davids health problems. When they discovered that David had cancer, Kathy wondered how she would surviveyet survive she did.
Through long months and years, Kathy worked through lifes challenges to create a new normal life for herself and her familyand succeeded. Lifes Journey is a moving testament to the strength of the human spirit.
Kathy Herzog
Kathy Herzog has a BA in Elementary Education and a minor in English. Herzog lives with her husband, Ryan; her daughter, Anna; and their dog, Brandi, in Plymouth, Wisconsin.
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Life's Journey - Kathy Herzog
Life’s Journey
Kathy Herzog
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Life’s Journey
Copyright © 2012 by Kathy Herzog.
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Contents
Chapter 1
Chapter 2
Chapter 3
Chapter 4
Chapter 5
Chapter 6
Chapter 7
Chapter 8
Chapter 9
Chapter 10
Chapter 11
Chapter 12
Chapter 13
Chapter 14
Chapter 15
Chapter 16
Chapter 17
Chapter 18
Chapter 19
Chapter 20
Chapter 21
Chapter 22
Chapter 23
Chapter 24
Chapter 25
Chapter 26
Chapter 27
Chapter 28
Chapter 29
Chapter 30
Chapter 31
Chapter 32
Chapter 33
Chapter 34
Chapter 35
Chapter 36
Chapter 37
Chapter 38
Chapter 39
Chapter 40
Chapter 41
Chapter 42
Chapter 43
Chapter 44
Chapter 45
Chapter 46
Chapter 47
Chapter 48
Chapter 49
Chapter 50
Chapter 51
Chapter 52
Chapter 53
Chapter 54
Chapter 55
Chapter 56
Chapter 57
Chapter 58
Chapter 59
Chapter 60
Chapter 61
Chapter 62
Chapter 63
Chapter 64
Chapter 65
Chapter 66
Chapter 67
Chapter 68
Chapter 69
Chapter 70
Chapter 71
Chapter 72
Chapter 73
Chapter 74
Chapter 75
Chapter 76
Chapter 77
Chapter 78
Chapter 79
Chapter 80
Chapter 81
Chapter 1
New Beginnings
The story of my life is not so different from many other women’s lives. However, not many women could say they have been married three times and became a widow at thirty-five. This is my story. I hope that by sharing my narrative, other women in similar situations will find comfort and strength when it seems there isn’t any to be found.
Raised in a small town in north central Wisconsin, I was naive and not aware of what happens when a young woman is out on her own for the first time.
Yes, I had gone to college for two years prior to moving to Illinois. In college, I experienced beer parties and dorm life, but I had no idea what it was like to be in a serious relationship. I was accustomed to being independent and not having to answer to anyone about my whereabouts. I enjoyed this freedom and was not ready to face the journey ahead of me.
In January 1990, I began working as a live-in nanny for a couple who had three children. I enjoyed caring for their three-year-old daughter and twins who were six weeks old when I started my employment. The freedom of living on my own and being responsible enough to be entrusted with the care of children felt terrific. I enjoyed having my weekends off, and I began to explore the social activities that the small town in northern Illinois offered.
At first, it was difficult to get to know people. How does a single young woman go about meeting people and making friends? I decided to attend one of the local clubs in town and see what the atmosphere was like. The loud music and various people were exciting to me. I enjoyed watching others dance and would sit at the bar and slowly sip a beer or wine cooler while listening to the beat of the music.
After hanging out at this club for several months, a very tall, thin, balding guy approached me. He asked if I would like to dance, and I excitedly accepted his invitation. We danced to a couple of fast songs and then made our way back to the bar.
We started a casual conversation about where we worked and what our hobbies were. It was nice to meet someone new, and we enjoyed each other’s company. At the end of the evening, Jim asked for my phone number, and I gave it to him without a second thought.
It was early the next week when Jim called to see if I would like to go out with him. I accepted his invitation, and we met the following weekend at his house. It was small and clean, and I had the impression that he had cleaned just to impress me. We actually stayed in and watched a movie on television. The night was casual, and at the end of our date, Jim kissed me. I was surprised and a little taken aback. Was this normal? Were things moving a little too fast? I had nothing to compare this relationship to, so I just went with the flow.
Jim and I began dating on a regular basis. Sometimes we would go out to the local club. Other times we would meet at his house. There was more privacy at his place than trying to find privacy at the home where I was working as a nanny.
One Saturday afternoon, Jim and I went to Rockford, Illinois, to look at vintage records. Jim had a record collection and wanted me to share the experience of looking for records with him. It must have been pretty evident that I was bored with the entire shopping escapade, because I heard him whisper to the clerk, I don’t think she would be here if she weren’t here with me.
This was true. I hadn’t ever pictured myself in a record store looking at albums that were older than I was.
My relationship with Jim continued on a steady basis. Typically, we would see each other only on weekends, because we were both busy with our jobs during the week.
One evening as we were sitting at his home, the mood became very sensual. Jim and I began making out and kissing a lot. The next thing I knew, he was asking me if I wanted to go to the bedroom and have intercourse. Not the romantic way I had envisioned getting to know a guy. Honestly, we had been intimate before, but I was having my period at the time and had no interest in any sexual encounters that evening. Then Jim said, Well, how about if you just please me in other ways?
I was horrified and disappointed. Never before had I experienced this, and I really didn’t know what to do. The first thought that came to my head was, Get the hell out of here. So I made up some lame excuse about being tired and left.
Shortly after that date, my feelings for Jim changed. I no longer felt comfortable around him. So one evening when he called me on the telephone, I told him that I didn’t want to see him anymore. He reluctantly accepted my feelings, and we said our good-byes after a very brief conversation.
Even though this relationship did not work out, at the ripe age of twenty-two, I believed I really knew what I wanted out of life. I had a job I loved and felt like I was on top of the world.
Chapter 2
Dating Experiences
During the summer of 1990, I met a thin, lonely guy at one of the clubs in a small town in southern Wisconsin. I was tired of hanging out at the local club and wanted to get some different socializing experiences. As I hung out at the bar nursing a wine cooler, I stared off into space and listened to music selected by the disc jockey. I admit, I must have looked lonely and out of my element. I wasn’t a regular at this club, and I tried to look like I was having a good time. In reality, I was bored and regretted my decision to come to the club in the first place.
However, after a short while, Mark came up and asked if I would like to dance. This guy was not my type, but he seemed just as bored and lonely as I was, so I accepted his invitation. After dancing to a few songs, Mark asked if he could buy me a drink. I accepted, and we started talking about our jobs and other various subjects. It was getting late, and I was ready to head home. I had at least a thirty-minute drive, and I was tired. Mark asked me for my phone number, and I gave it to him thinking that he most likely wouldn’t call me.
The next day he called and asked if I would like to meet him at his house. I was pleasantly surprised and a little apprehensive as well. Sure, we had talked the night before, and I had found out that Mark was legally separated from his wife. He also had a daughter who was two years old. I didn’t have a problem with him having a child, but in the back of my mind, I kept second-guessing my decision