Single Again: A Different Kind of Single

By Tracey L. Green

Find refuge, healing and restoration when women allow God into the storms of their lives. Tracey Green shares practical and inspirational lessons on how God strengthened and transformed her through the transition of becoming single again when she:
Leaned on His strength
Rested in His peace
Knew Him as her husband
Guarded her heart
Became a vessel of honor

• Language: English
• Publisher: Trafford Publishing
• Release date: Nov 16, 2012
• ISBN: 9781466967069

Tracey L. Green

Tracey L. Green is a certified professional life coach and substance-abuse counselor. She is the president of TLG Consulting Services, LLC, and Women in Transition Ministries, a ministry devoted to helping women through the challenges of divorce.

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© Copyright 2012 Tracey L. Green.

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ISBN: 978-1-4669-6705-2 (sc)

ISBN: 978-1-4669-6704-5 (hc)

ISBN: 978-1-4669-6706-9 (e)

Library of Congress Control Number: 2012920547

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Contents

CHAPTER 1

CHAPTER 2

CHAPTER 3

CHAPTER 4

CHAPTER 5

CHAPTER 6

CHAPTER 7

This book is dedicated to my husband and lover of my soul….God, my Heavenly Father who kept me.

To my sisters Annetta, Denise, Jeanette, Barbara, Annette, Donnica, Antionette, Linda, Catherine, Ronette, Shawn, Alicia, Melody and Darlene– because you carried me until I found my own strength, I am soaring on wings of eagles!

To my mentor, Sandra Christmas–-thank you for helping me find my voice…..I can hear me now!

CHAPTER 1

Now What?

Don’t be afraid, for I am with you.

Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God.

I will strengthen you and help you.

I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.

—Isaiah 41:10 (NLT)

So when did my Now what moment begin? I would say it began on the morning my husband told me that he no longer wanted our marriage, that he wanted us to sell our home and go our separate ways. Stunned would be the word most people would use after such a devastating announcement, but the word I choose to use is relieved. After years of being in a cycle of turmoil and grief, I was ready for some kind of relief. However, I never imagined in my wildest dreams that relief would come by living life alone again.

Starting a process is not always easy or fun and ending it can bring relief especially when you are tired, beat down and over it. However, for me it’s not the beginning or ending that’s the problem; it’s the stuff in the middle that gives me heartburn. The middle stuff will either make or break you. The writer of the book of Hebrews was not kidding when he instructed us to run a race with endurance and our eyes fixed on Jesus! Honestly, I do not believe I could have run this race any other way. I would have been consumed by the enemy who comes to kill, steal, and destroy.

After my husband’s announcement, I began making preparations to move from the home that I had grown to cherish. In the spirit of honesty, I felt like leaving my home was the most difficult part of this entire experience. As I prepared to walk away from my life as a married woman, I was overcome by fear. After being married for nine years, I was afraid of starting over. I didn’t have a clue as to where to begin or the energy to begin the process. I think a part of me wanted to believe that things would eventually work out and that God would do something miraculous and turn things around. After all, I had been praying, fasting, and believing that he would for so long; I just knew at the eleventh hour he was going to intervene and perform a miracle. But much to my surprise and disappointment, the miracle didn’t happen. So I had to get up off the bed of denial and start preparing for life as a single-again woman. To make matters worse, I had just loss my job. I felt like a failure two times over, and everything I valued was being stripped away from me one piece at