The Art of Friendly Confrontation: Conflict Resolution to Improve Relationships
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This book describes the coping skills, strategies and methods to help others see your point of view. These skills work with the precursors of ego, anger and power in personal relationships and keep your own dignity with understanding role placement, power and reversal. When problems arise, as they always do, these conflict skills found in The Art of Friendly Confrontation identify the skills for fairness in relationships. $10.00
Understand purpose of coping skills, methods and strategies.
Identify the precursors of conflict: ego, anger, power.
Recognize role placement, role power, and role reversal.
Evaluate vulnerability in healthy relationships.
Identify coping skills to increase self esteem.
Shirley Brackett Mathey
Shirley Brackett Mathey has used these innovative materials for years and produced wonderful results with people. Creative instructor for 26 years at Lincoln Park High School, Shirley developed many innovative materials (slide presentations, flashcards sequences, and group activities). She wrote her first book on Classroom Activities in 1975. Students referred to her as the best teacher they ever had. She worked in advisory roles for school organizations, served as a supervisory teacher for Wayne University, Eastern Michigan and Michigan State Universities. She personally counseled many troubled students, and initiated a weekly classroom peer group counseling sessions. Scores of written appreciations and continuing relationships validate the positive influence upon the lives of young people. Shirley was active in high school with 4 H Club, attended Miniwanca’s leadership conference program and received became one of the six chiefs during the 4th year, attended University of Arkansas, University of Michigan and Eastern Michigan Colleges to receive two Masters programs in Family Life Education and Guidance and Counseling. Shirley is married to her college friend Court Mathey, after her first husband Glenn Brackett died. She has one son Robert Glenn Brackett, Jr, and 2 grandchildren.
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The Art of Friendly Confrontation - Shirley Brackett Mathey
© 2012 by Shirley Brackett Mathey. All rights reserved.
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Published by AuthorHouse 05/22/2012
ISBN: 978-1-4685-7989-5 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-4685-7988-8 (hc)
ISBN: 978-1-4685-7990-1 (e)
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CONTENTS
PART ONE
WHAT DO YOU THINK AND FEEL ABOUT CONFLICT?
Chapter 1 Tethered Together
Chapter 2 Understanding Basic Differences
Chapter 3 Ego—The Need To Feel Important
Chapter 4 Anger—The Need To Separate
Chapter 5 Power Struggle— The Need To Conquer
PART TWO
HOW TO HANDLE CONFLICT
Chapter 6 The Coping Skills— Self Disclosure And Listening
Chapter 7 Coping Stragegies
Chapter 8 Coping Methods That Work
Chapter 9 Learning To Give Your Problem To Others
Chapter 10 Love—The Need To Connect
Chapter 11 Forgiveness—The Need To Restore Equality
Bibliography
Classroom Activities
Shirley Brackett Mathey has used these innovative materials for years and produced wonderful results with people. Creative instructor for 26 years at Lincoln Park High School, Shirley developed many innovative materials (slide presentations, flashcards sequences, and group activities).
She wrote her first book on Classroom Activities in 1975. Students referred to her as the best teacher they ever had. She worked in advisory roles for school organizations, served as a supervisory teacher for Wayne University, Eastern Michigan and Michigan State Universities. She personally counseled many troubled students, and initiated a weekly classroom peer group counseling sessions. Scores of written appreciations and continuing relationships validate the positive influence upon the lives of young people.
Shirley was active in high school, was leader in 4H club, attended Camp Miniwanca’s leadership conference program and received became one of the six chiefs during the 4th year, attended University of Arkansas, University of Michigan and Eastern Michigan Colleges to receive two Masters programs in Family Life Education and Guidance and Counseling.
Shirley is married to her college friend Court Mathey, after her first husband Glenn Brackett died. She has one son Robert Glenn Brackett, Jr. and two grandchildren.
SKU-000564593_TEXT.pdfShirley Brackett
Shirley Brackett Mathey, formerly a popular high school teacher and counselor, was also a professional speaker and seminar leader who presented to business, association and educational groups.
Her credentials include a bachelor’s degree in Home Economics from the University of Arkansas, a Master’s in Family Life Education from Michigan State University and a Master’s in Guidance and Counselor from Eastern Michigan University.
DEDICATION
This book is dedicated to my Daddy, Mr. Carl Heard. His life was an inspiration to me. In the world of wonderful Daddy’s, he was the best. I know other people haven’t been as fortunate as my sister and I.
My Dad was wise and witty, never dictatorial, allowed me to find my way with very little advice. He was kind, trusting, and did not carry grudges. He enjoyed his family, the outdoors, and storytelling. He was talented, persistent, a hard worker and enjoyed every season of his life. He was very smart and avid reader to find information. The oldest of nine children, his parents died before I was born, but he spoke of them with such adoration I recognized he had been greatly loved. By family trade, he was a sawmill man, but after adversity his life course changed to become a farmer.
Although my Daddy’s life was not complicated, Carl Heard was an interesting, honest man of simple accomplishment. At his funeral, at age 85, people came to share wonderful stories about my Daddy. He had obstacles, grief and adjustments to make in life but faced his problems with faith and honor. Could you and I do as well!
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
Because of the knowledge I learned in the presence of young people as their Family Living teacher in my years at Lincoln Park High School, I was driven to write this book. I enjoyed my students, loved them, worried about them, fussed over them but also got upset with them. However, I finally observed the missing piece of communication skills. Young people don’t confront others, well, and as you know, lots of older folks don’t do such a hot job either.
There are so many people to give credit in writing a book. My friend, Sue Butram of Cleveland, MS, has been a faithful supporter of my writing skills. BJ Herndon and Ann Marie Dahl, both made valuable corrections. Carol Walters, my Miniwanca friend, made suggestions as she listened to chapter on the way to meetings. Dorothy Lehmkuhl, author of Organizing for the Creative Person of Flat Rock, MI, served as my chief editor and helped keep me focused. Bertie Ryan Synowec of Grosse Ile, MI helped me separate boundaries from confrontation. My sister, Chris Shoemake of Marion, AR has been helpful to me in many ways.
Thank you reader for your perseverance in making differences easier to handle. That’s what I hope this book The Art of Friendly Confrontation will do.
PART ONE
WHAT DO YOU THINK
AND FEEL ABOUT CONFLICT?
image001.jpgChapter 1
TETHERED TOGETHER
CONFLICT IS NORMAL
"And they lived happily ever after is only a fairy tale. We don’t live happily ever after. In order to get our way we alternate between sweetness and strife. We want to win! We think,
I like my way best, and I want you to like it too."
What do you think conflict is? Is it people who fight openly or the silent "if looks could kill?" Conflict is not always open warfare. Problems often move underground to divert people from the real issues. Some battles are wordless, where the deafening silence controls the partner. Avoidance of open disagreement can deceive us into thinking everything is fine when it’s not.
Conflict should be expected. People throughout history have waged strife and wars against each other and it inevitably will continue. We learn conflict strategies and methods from everyone, but how we interpret our