The Manual: The Manual: How to Avoid Dating and Save Thousands of Dollars

By David J. Nowel

This book is controversial because it attacks a system that has been around for a hundred or more years.
It stings the male ego. The book is provoking, and it attacks the foundation of our societys hypocrisy, especially the males relationship to woman. It follows after the authors first novel, Spacestation, ARK, that shows a way, in the future, for fulfilling the males sexual needs.
This is a harsher book; not a men are from Mars and women are from Venus, but a book of how men are from the Sun and women are from Pluto. Its a tongue-in-cheek dialogue that every man will understand. We say it with every breath we breathe: We cant live with them, and yet we cant live without them. But we wish we could find a way to live without them for just a while longer. I know the humor of it all will show through because as males, we have all been there in some way or other.
For Males Only is a manual for men (advice to men on methods to avoid relationships with women). The result and reward for following the program as outlined is to either make more money or to end up keeping the money rather than spending a lot of time just wining and dining.
The advice given will most definitely serve its purpose if followed religiously. This advice (if you will) is by no means meant to be a guide on how to avoid women completely; however, in some cases, you may want to. Ex-wives, goldiggers (unless shes digging gold for you), and neurotics should be taken off your list of potential dating material even if she does insist on picking up the tab or meeting you half way. In other words, its your way or no way. This indeed is a must-have for any libraryparticularly yours.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Trafford Publishing
• Release date: Dec 5, 2014
• ISBN: 9781490710471

David J. Nowel

David J. Nowel, born in 1935, presently lives in La Quinta, California. He is a graduate of Hobart College, Geneva, New York, Class of 1959 with BA in Biology, Chemistry, and Psychology. At nineteen years old, he was very fortunate to be part of Karl H. Pribram Research Team at The Institute of Living, in Hartford, Connecticut. In the operating room he assisted Pribram, a neurosurgeon. At that time, this research laboratory had the largest population of rhesus monkeys. Specific parts of a monkey’s brain were removed; in order, to study their effect on learning. He was also an assistant to Nathan Azrin, who received his doctorate from Harvard, a student of B.F. Skinner. At that time, he was exposed to the best minds in neurophysiology, who visited from up and down the East Coast, Yale, MIT and etc. The Author also spent thirty years working for innovative biomedical companies. He believes that his stories may be prophetic.

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CONTENTS

PREFACE

1. THE WARNING

2. WINNING IS LOSING

3. WELCOME TO SULTAN WORLD

4. BETTER LIVING THROUGH YOUR VCR

5. KEEPING TRACK OR THE LOG

6. A LOW BUDGET DATE

7. ILLUSIONS

8. GEOGRAPHICALLY UNDESIRABLE

9. THE PHRASES THAT THEY USE OR DON’T BE A NICE GUY

10. BOY, CAN THEY SUCK IT OUT… MONEY

11. NEWSPAPER DATING

12. INTERNET DATING

13. INTERNET DATING CONTINUES

14. INTERNET DATING CONTINUES OR BLACK STOCKINGS

15. CONSULT SERVICE DATING

16. A TYPICAL DATE WHAT A TRIP

17. SEXUAL TOYS

18. SEXUAL TOYS CONTINUED

19. EXERCISING YOUR MUSCLES: ABOVE THE BELT AND BELOW

20. MASTURBATION

21. MORE MASTURBATION

22. SCULPTING OR CUT AND PASTE

23. DISCIPLINE

24. THE GLOWING FOLIC SYMBOL

25. ENERGY

26. THE WALKMAN

27. COUNSELING

28. PARTY GOERS & PARTY STAY HOMERS OR HAVING PARTY

29. THE FINAL CHAPTER OR THE END

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Naturedly, I wish to thank all of the woman in my life who in one way or another contributed to the information in this Manual. I don’t want to forget the three special women who took care of me in my formative years, my mother, her mother and her sister and there is also my daughter and her mother. A special thanks to my loving son who listened and was my sounding board as I formulated this strange philosophy.

Thanks to the Lady in Hell for gifting those poems that I found pinned to my pillows, lamp shades or left on the door of the refrigerator. I assume that was her way of repaying me for the twelve thousand dollars engagement ring that she kept. I hope someday she gets to publish all of her works.

We need to acknowledge all of the other people who helped in the reading, editing and formatting of this book.

PREFACE

I started this book about the same time that I thought I had finished, Spacestation, Ark in 1987. I was at a party and I was telling one of the guys about my novel. He thought that was all right but he felt that someone should write a book about dealing with females. He felt that other males should have the opportunity of learning about dating from someone of my age.

He confided to me that even at his young age that he found himself impotent. He said this as he looked at Debra, someone who I was having fun with. Frankly, I was shocked because I never had that problem and especially not with her. He really needed a manual. She was an ex movie star and model. I started to explain that there was more than one way to please a woman.

That’s it. he said. We need a man to write a book for males only. We need a mentor.

I started to write and I found myself not dating and saving money. I have always been cheap when I was around women because my mother always warned me that some woman could be evil and they would try to get everything that I might have. Of course, I never believed that not even for a second because I knew that what they really wanted was your soul.

I pondered over the title of the book.

A MANUAL FOR MALES ONLY

SEX, LIES & WOMEN:

SECRETS OF DATE-LESS ROMANCE _______ OR

A POOR MAN’S GUIDE TO SUCCESSFUL SEX _______ OR

BREAKING THE CODE:

A REAL MAN’S GUIDE TO LIVING AND LOVING WITH WOMEN

THE MAN RULES:

HOW TO GET WHAT YOU WANT FROM WOMEN… THE EASY WAY _______ OR

HOW TO AVOID DATING AND SAVE THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS

Here it is. I learned a lot writing it.

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THE WARNING

Some of the behavioral modification techniques outlined in this manual may become habit forming. Balance is always important. Smiling while reading is imperative.

Introduction

We all know the saying, Women, you can’t live with them, and you can’t live without them. When I started to write this manual in 1987, I was a bitter male and I thought I just might live without them. Back then; I was having too much fun to even think about them. But, that’s another story altogether.

My quest for an answer to man-woman dilemma began when I met my first Lady from Hell. On our very first date at The Catch in Anaheim, CA, she told me over and over again that she knew I was the one.

I really wasn’t attracted to her when I first saw her. I didn’t think she would spark my interests. Yet, I felt the need to be cordial and sit through a couple of drinks with her.

I remember there was an announcement. It was a busy night; they were talking about cars being ready to be towed if they weren’t moved. We both agreed our cars were parked in the right place, and there was no need to worry. That was my first big mistake.

She was easy enough to talk to, and though it was out of character for me, I asked her if she wanted to dance. Fortunately, there was a new dance place next door just a few feet away. There was something very unusual about the way she danced. I remember being forced to dance like her in a very unusual, almost weird free style. I thought I was getting hooked. Something about this woman and her strange dance was very compelling.

Needless to say when I escorted her to her car, it was gone; it had been towed.

I paid for the tow with an agreement that she would pay her half back to me. She let me hold her and kiss her while we waited for the truck. I fondly recall her slim, tight figure.

As she drove me back to my car. She reached into the glove compartment and pulled out an expensive jeweled watch. I hate jewelry. Another reason not to see her, I thought to myself. I still didn’t quite understand my feelings for her.

My feelings were a blend of confusion, attraction, disillusionment and hard-on all wrapped into one. This simple date had wound me tighter than a drum, unable to even comprehend or understand what was going on, who was in control, or even what it was that I actually wanted.

Now, many years later, I look back and realize I probably never loved a woman until I fell in love with her. That was love; all the mixed-up, weird, conflicting emotions I experienced that night. That was what love was all about, as best I could figure.

My fortunes have changed and I seem to be what I always dreamed I should be.

Did she help me? You bet she did. She was my catalyst. Being a chemist, I love the word catalyst. A catalyst prompts a chemical reaction. This chemical reaction couldn’t take place without this component.

She started something in me.

Of course, I’ve been a catalyst for her, too. She’s healthy and wealthy and a well-known poet. We both travel a lot, and we both enjoy a great deal of freedom. But when we’re together, we know that we belong to each other. We are content because I can be the male I want to be, and she can be the female she wants to be. We both know that life is short, so we try to appreciate and savor it as much as we can. Most importantly, we try to respect each other.

While this may seem like a strange story to begin a book about how to avoid dating and the perils of the opposite sex, it is important because it shows that there can be healthy, mutually beneficial relationships. There IS an alternative to the standard approach to male-female relationships—the one that causes so many problems and creates so much frustration.

It’s all about finding yourself, understanding women, and enjoying the balance without falling into the canyon.

My advice to you, my fellow males: Learn to be who you think you are because no one really cares except you. When you head down that right trail people will follow you. Most importantly, you will be true to yourself.

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WINNING IS LOSING

The first motto you will have to learn concerning dating is: Winning is losing and losing is winning. Go ahead and repeat this over and over again.

Winning is losing and losing is winning. Make it your daily mantra; your call to sanity and daily affirmation to maintain your dignity as a man.

Men know that winning brings on the next date, each more expensive than the next. It costs money to date; often, a lot of money. By the time you get lucky your wallet will be so thin that masturbation looks like an increasingly attractive option. At least your hand doesn’t need dinner and a movie and clothes and flowers and etc. etc.

I’m going to present ideas that will help you avoid blowing all your hard-earned dollars on women, and learn to spend more of that money on yourself.

So, learn how to say it over and over again:

Winning is losing—losing is winning.

What has happened to men? We’ve been brainwashed by our mothers and our fathers; conditioned by our religions, society and by millions of miserable people. We’ve been programmed to believe that the key to happiness is finding that one beautiful soul mate who’s going to make life wonderful; that we might be lucky enough to find someone who can love us unconditionally the way our mothers did when we were little helpless infants.

Bullshit. A huge pile of stinking bullshit.

We are victims of slogans. How many times have you heard that behind every successful man is a woman? How about those poor bastards who’ve been destroyed by the so-called woman behind them? Our social morals are all a game; a contest full of deception, half-truths and outright lies.

Are you reading this manual to learn more about dating? I’ll teach you more than that. You’ll discover a new light at the end of the tunnel, an alternative to all of the old archaic courting methods. I want you to recondition yourself, settle down and have a better life. I want you to learn to turn the tables by becoming proficient at the very techniques women use against us poor, inferior males. You will take the weapons women use on men, and use them to your own advantage.

Cold, hard fact: Women have been taught and cultured for generations on how to make pawns out of men. They have cleverly moved the pointer away from themselves by portraying us as creatures one step removed from cavemen; hunters and gatherers led by our penises who look to score at every opportunity.

Think about it: Men are chastised, criticized and hated. Sound harsh? Be honest with yourself, and you’ll see it’s not. We are portrayed as egocentric beasts that cause most evils in our society, from war to crime to rape. In reality, women are the most selfish creatures around that have gigantic gender-based egos. You will see what I mean, trust me.

The female propaganda machine has made us believe women are indeed the fairer sex, more gentle, more kind, more compassionate, more sophisticated and more of everything of higher-quality than men.

Call a woman a queen, lick her boots and see how easily she accepts that role. Men play right into the hands of women by playing the game, sacrificing their own egos and character and giving them their souls without a fight.

Well, my friends, the times they are a changing. We now have friends on our side that will help us win this battle of the sexes. Friends such as machines. Yes, I am going to teach you about machines and how to use them to win the dating game.

You will learn how to save money, make more money and have fun and excitement at the same time.

You are going to see through the illusion women have set up. You’ll discover how songs, advertisements, movies and our society sets us up like bowling pins, waiting to be knocked over. You will come to fully understand the profound truth in that same refrain—winning is losing and losing is winning. Every time that woman you’re insane about turns you down, you’ll have won.

You’ll learn not to be afraid to go up to that luscious woman in the supermarket and ask her out. You’ll feel empowered to go right up to her, stare her in the eyes—or the breasts and let it rip. When she tells you she has boyfriend, you’ll jump for joy knowing that you have won and you’re free for another day to be the man you always wanted to be.

You will have pre-empted slavery and found emancipation before you ever get snared in the trap. You will have overcome the stupid, societal rules devised over the centuries to protect that little scorpion in the blue dress in aisle 2 next to the meats.

You are going to learn how to avoid the hypnotic illusions set up by women. Behind the blue eyes and vivacious figure, you’ll see the truth that truth will set you free.

What I will reveal can make you more powerful than your female opponents. They are a formidable foe; more powerful