Small Changes, Big Difference: 7 Ideas for Personal Transformation

By Preeity Verma

Women are emotional sensitive creatures. We love too much and let go too little. As a result, often feeling angry, depressed, resentful, or victimized .This book is for you if you are feeling lost and confused about life. Through gentle introspection, you can realize what is true about yourself and what you really need to make the most of it.
We spend an exorbitant amount of energy on keeping ourselves looking great. Not so much on our emotional well-being. Its time to pursue meaning over pleasure. Having a good relationship with your mind is essential to build a life of purpose. You can chart your own course and use your mind to manifest your highest and best life. It will make you aware internally and externally so that you respond more than you react.
You must know that you are not merely a participant in your life but the eventual and ultimate authority on yourself. Your will is important, and you are capable of changing your patterns and your course now. In an instant. And transform your weaknesses into your strengths. And as you do that you can change your future.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Partridge Publishing India
• Release date: Feb 4, 2014
• ISBN: 9781482816549

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Small Changes,

Big Difference

7 Ideas For Personal Transformation

Preeity Verma

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Copyright © 2014 by Preeity Verma.

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Contents

For My Parents

Preface

Introduction

Self Love

Kindness

Detachment

Resilience

Forgiveness

Courage

Humour

Epilogue

About The Author

Glossary

FOR MY PARENTS

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom Anaïs Nin

PREFACE

As much as we want to spend our days peacefully without upheavals, life is eventful. Flawed yet beautiful. It has been the same for me. Balanced with mistakes, missteps and good judgments. It is real. The predictable beauty and the happiness of the experience have left me rich in perspective.

There have been times when amidst the confusion and feeling lost I wish I knew that you don’t need anything more than the exact gifts and resources you already hold within you. We mistakenly believe that we can impact the world only when we have tons of money or when we are famous. This is so not true. You are powerful right now.

I am now emotionally ready to share some of the wisdom with you. India is the land of captivating cultures and mythology is the backbone. The stories speak to me on so many levels on so many issues. Although dramatic and colorful these stories have enduring appeal and continue to be relevant in the lives of modern women. If we will not tell our stories who will? So the wisdom is from the east but the logic and innovations so often come from the west. Have tried my best to combine the two.

I am writing this book not just to dump my thoughts. It reflects a personal journey of thinking about things, life its meaning and purpose. I’m not going to even pretend to have all answers in it now for all of us, once and for all. Though each one of us can contribute to make the world a better place My only hope is that it is useful to you. All the best to you, always,

Preeity

INTRODUCTION

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

—Marianne Williamson

What an inspiring insight! A tremendous truth. It’s worth making into a poster to put on your refrigerator door in full view. It simply means we are more likely to back away from the fear of success, than the fear of failure. Does that mean you should dare to shine in your brilliance by invoking your best, your most glorious, most powerful, most magical self? Yes, because you are already all these things.

You may not know it because our society and our personal backgrounds may have created doubts, fear or unworthiness encouraging us to play small.

This book is to help those of you who feel forever stuck in the clay of naive materialism, fearful and unaware of your innate power. If you know you have magical powers, and you know how to manifest your highest life, then you’re ahead of the game. But if you do not know it yet, you’re probably living an anxiety-ridden life with fear, where every minute has to be accounted for. You are constantly distracted by finishing a to-do list, checking e-mail or racing off to the next place. Regardless of how you plan your day, how much you squeeze in and multi-task, enough time never exists in your jam-packed schedule and as a result, you suffer from toska. It is a beautiful Russian word, defined best by the Great Russian writer Vladimir Nabokov:

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Wisdom begins in wonder.

Socrates

"No single word in English renders all the shades of toska. At its deepest and most painful, it is a sensation of great spiritual anguish, often without any specific cause. At less morbid levels it is a dull ache of the soul, a longing with nothing to long for, a sick pining, a vague restlessness, mental throes, and yearning. In particular cases it may be the desire for somebody of something specific, nostalgia, love-sickness. At the lowest level it grades into ennui, boredom."

Some manifestations of toska are:

38882.png having negative beliefs, poor body image, feeling that you are inadequate and nothing will work out

38887.png self-defeating reactions like immersing and losing yourself in movies, romance novels and fantasies, but feeling the same aching pain when you return to your own life

38889.png indulging in addictive, medicating, or self-numbing behaviors (excessive spending or eating, drinking alcohol, or abusing drugs)

38891.png sabotaging relationships by behaving in desperate, needy, mistrusting ways, or alternatively being cold, critical and shut down

38893.png encountering a challenge or perceived failure and responding by working harder, doing more and exhausting yourself

38895.png having low self-esteem, placing everyone else’s needs above yours and surrendering your need for love, ease, pleasure and comfort.

These feelings are clues to what is really going on with you. Listen to them, try not to eat, shop, or ‘busy’ them away. Life is too short, and these feelings hold your truth and your essence.

If we repress these feelings, we stand to lose our innocence and the essence of our souls. We lock away our hearts with hate and hurt. To avoid that, you must break the lock that is trying to keep you bereft of love—love for yourself. The choice is yours. You can use that pain to purify your soul and be filled with compassion and love rather than hatred and bitterness. Even if you busy yourself to escape this unhappiness and succeed in losing yourself, you allow bitterness to take away your sweetness. It is time to own these feelings and start loving yourself. Relax.

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It takes way more responsibility to investigate your desires than to blame others because your dreams haven’t come true.

Regina Thomashauer

You probably feel the need to loosen your grip over the smartphone, and feverishly long to be laid back, and spend more quality time