Out of the Depths: Your Companion Through Grief
By Greta Smith
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The Out of the Depths series addresses common pastoral crises in a faithful, encouraging, and factual manner that provides support to parishioners in crisis beyond the initial pastoral conversation. These inexpensive 64-page booklets can be given out to parishioners when they bring their recent diagnosis, crisis, or trauma to the pastor as a way to continue to provide care throughout the difficult season. Each booklet begins with a thoughtful consideration of the topic at hand, which is followed up by 30 brief devotions. These devotions are designed to be manageable in an overwhelming time, encouraging, and honest. The Out of the Depths booklets are essential care resources to be given out by pastors, Stephen Ministers, and congregational care teams.
Key features:
- Written by metal health professionals and pastors to help the reader process their trauma both psychologically and theologically.
- Includes accessible material describing the dynamics of the crisis situation and typical reactions, which provides the reader with a sense of grounding and direction through increased knowledge.
- The thirty short devotions creates a sense of companionship and hope in a difficult and lonely time.
Greta Smith
Greta Smith, Ph.D. has been a licensed psychologist in the state of Tennessee for almost twenty years. She is currently a seminary student, pursuing a Master’s in Theological Studies at United Theological Seminary in Dayton, Ohio. She is a certified candidate seeking ordination as a deacon in the United Methodist Church. Greta thrives on helping others feel connected, understood, and whole. She lives in East Tennessee with her husband, Joey, their children, Eliana and Ryan, and two spoiled dogs. She cultivates her own sense of connectedness and wholeness by hiking in the mountains, studying scripture, theology, and Christian history, and, most of all, being with people she loves.
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Out of the Depths - Greta Smith
INTRODUCTION
There’s a season for everything
and a time for every matter under the heavens:
a time for giving birth and a time for dying,
a time for planting and a time for uprooting what was planted,
a time for killing and a time for healing,
a time for tearing down and a time for building up,
a time for crying and a time for laughing,
a time for mourning and a time for dancing,
a time for throwing stones and a time for gathering stones,
a time for embracing and a time for avoiding embraces,
a time for searching and a time for losing,
a time for keeping and a time for throwing away,
a time for tearing and a time for repairing,
a time for keeping silent and a time for speaking,
a time for loving and a time for hating,
a time for war and a time for peace.
—Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
My times are in your hands; deliver me from the hands of my enemies, from those who pursue me.
—Psalm 31:15 (NIV)
I have a very specific early memory about the certainty and finality of death. I was about four years old. My favorite television show at the time, Isis, chronicled the adventures of a female superhero. I loved Isis, and she was a consistent Saturday morning presence in our home, as well as being my imaginary companion much of the time. Isis is a teacher who discovers an amulet which enables her to turn into an Egyptian goddess and to have superpowers such as superhuman strength, speed, and the ability to fly.
I do not remember all of the details about this particular episode, but I remember that a young boy was saved from drowning. He had a dog named Lucky. I remember that Lucky played some role in the boy’s rescue, and sadly, died as a result. I remember the boy crying over his precious friend. I remember his sadness and his anger. But here is the part I remember most vividly: Isis explained the cycle of life and death to the boy with the words, Everything that lives must one day die.
As she spoke, the television screen showed a flower, a single shoot, sprouting, blossoming, opening, and then withering and dying. That image became ingrained in my consciousness. My four-year-old world was shaken.
Before that day, I had a limited understanding of death, namely that it was something that happened when a person or animal was sick or had a terrible accident. I knew on some level that it was irreversible. But I had never considered that my dog, or cat, let alone my mom or dad might one day die.
I ran into the laundry room where my mother was moving clothes from the washer to the dryer. Mom!
I exclaimed, Isis just said that everything dies; that flowers die; and animals die and people, too. Is that true?
My mom was taken aback. In her eyes I saw her make a split-second decision. She would not lie to me.
Yes, honey, it is.
She went on to reassure me, as best she could, that she and my dad were not going to die for a long, long time. But the world changed for me that day. Although at that tender age I had not yet experienced a significant loss, just the knowledge of its possibility was enough to shatter my innocence.
Sooner or later, we must all confront the truth of those words—everything that lives must one day die. And not only that, but everything that starts must one day end. We lose those we love through literal death. But we also lose relationships, roles, aspects of personality which have come to represent something significant, sometimes integral, even, to our sense of ourselves. Life is fraught with loss. Most of us maintain some awareness of this truth, even though it is unconscious most of the time, even though we must repress or deny it in our day-to-day moving and going about in the world, simply in order to function. And then the day comes—and for most of us it comes not once but repeatedly—when death, loss, or tragedy sweeps in and destroys our world in a way that cannot be ignored. We are left floundering, trying to find some solid ground on which to stand, attempting to pick up the shattered pieces of our lives and put them back together in some way that makes it possible to live again.
The great Wisdom literature of the Bible shows that God’s people have always struggled with loss and have wrestled specifically with how to reconcile the goodness of God with the suffering of the world. There are no easy answers, but we have learned much about the process of grief and continue to understand the importance of ancient faith practices and the wisdom of grieving through ritual and in community. Finding hope and meaning in suffering is a quest shared by God’s people, even though each of us experiences loss differently and even when it feels as though we walk alone.
This little book is intended to be a companion in grief. It is organized into two parts. The first is educational. In it, we will look at five basic things to know about the grief process. It is my sincere hope that this knowledge will provide a useful framework within which to understand your personal experience of grief. The second part of the book is devotional, and consists of thirty daily scripture readings, devotions and prayers. It is my sincere prayer that these readings will bring hope and comfort, provide a daily grounding faith ritual, and lend a sense of connectedness, both to God and to a community of grieving hearts, as you move through the days and weeks to come. You do not have to read the first part of this book before beginning the devotions. Feel free to start them at any time.