Self-Confidence For Beginners: Master Self-Esteem, Beat Depression & Insecurity, Develop Powerful Habits & Change Your Life

By Richard Carroll

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If you want to Develop Self-Control, Eliminate Depression & Negative Thoughts, Improve Body Language & Become a Great Leader, then this is your book!

This book contains proven tips and techniques on how to solve self esteem issues, like feelings of being not good enough, of being inferior, and of being unworthy.

Many people barely develop self-confidence because of various reasons. It could be stress, lack of motivation, and exhaustion. However, despite these varied causes, there are ways on how you can become a successful person. Self-discipline is not just about controlling oneself, but is about living a healthy, quality and successful life. Learn how to improve self-confidence and enjoy life with the strategies provided in this book. Read on and find out!

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How to Increase Your Communication Skills
How to Beat Procrastination
How to Stop Anxiety
How to Increase Your Self-Confidence
How to Practice Mindfulness
How to Improve Your Self-Esteem
How to Become a Great and Assertive Leader
How to Improve Your Emotional Intelligence

What You'll Also Discover Inside...

Set smaller goals. I don't mean that you should not reach for the stars, however, I do know that to get to the stars you have to first get into the atmosphere. Feeling good about yourself is a constant process. Confidence does not just happen overnight. When you look at your life goals consider breaking them up into smaller, stepping stones to the end result. That way you can have a constant flow of positive reinforcement as you achieve the steps along the journey of life.

Communicate with positive and confident people more. Positive people are not trying to pressure you. Choose or rearrange your social circle, as it directly affects your self-esteem. There is an excellent - "Lives with the cripple, learns how to limp".

Exercise. Once you exercise, even just simple running, you'll notice that you get this surge of adrenaline. This is because happy hormones are released and therefore, you feel more confident about yourself, and more confident that you are actually capable of doing great things. Plus, once you exercise, you'll get to be happy and very beautiful, too.

This book will help you to improve your self-confidence to overcome social anxiety and shyness.  

I would like to encourage you to begin the journey by looking at yourself and accepting what you see. There can never be another you so be all you can be for the time being.   

The next step is to put to work the steps written in this book and see your life change for the better. Remember, you can do this. Your life is in your hands—so make it great.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Richard Carroll
• Release date: Oct 10, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386273981

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Table Of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1 - How to Overcome Insecurity

Chapter 2 - How to Meditate and Enjoy a Healthier Life

Chapter 3 - How to Increase Your Self-Confidence

Chapter 4 - Start Living Today!

Conclusion

Introduction

I want to thank you and congratulate you for downloading this book.

This book consists of proven tips and strategies on how to solve self-esteem issues, like feelings of being not good enough, of being inferior, and of being unworthy.

What are you waiting for? Kick off your bad habits now and start learning how to control and change yourself—for the better.

Thanks again for downloading this book, I hope you enjoy it!

Chapter 1 - How to Overcome Insecurity

It might not come as a surprise if you admit that one time or another you felt self-conscious when you are placed in a room full of strangers. But, have you ever felt so shy that your heartbeat started to race when a person asked you out on a date but you were too shy to say yes? That is another form of social anxiety.

Why do people experience shyness? Everyone tends to feel shyness at differing levels. Your shyness might be because of the following:

Negative self-image

People who have a negative image of themselves usually believe that their unique qualities aren't as interesting as other people, thus they are not worthy of praise or admiration. They often resort to attempting hard to fit in but often end up not liking their own selves. Psychologists say you need to go back to a person's experiences when growing up because generally, it is during this time that their image of themselves is developed.

Extreme self-preoccupation

Self-preoccupation is when you become overly sensitive to all the things that you are doing or saying, it is as if you are in the center of attention. This sense will only create anxiety because you get started to question your every move. Your focus is centered on the things that you are doing wrong.

False labeling

When you say and see yourself as a shy person, you begin to live up to that image.

To defeat shyness and social anxiety you should use a few strategies:

Do not assume that the whole world is watching your every move. Take into account that most people, including you, are busy looking at themselves. Why not bring your awareness inside? If you have understood the source of your anxiety, seek within your inner thoughts ways to counter that feeling of shyness with positive thoughts. Self-awareness is your first step into enhancing yourself.

Do not conform and don't try to pretend what you are not. Embrace your uniqueness. What you are not aware of is that each person you come in contact with has some extent of shyness in them. There are people who look cool and composed in the outside who are being self-conscious and stressed if people would notice what they are feeling inside.

Learn to relax and take deep breaths to calm the anxiety. Yoga can also be a good remedy and exercise because it helps you relax. When you are relaxed, you are able to direct your attention away from your own self and you begin to take notice and develop your conversational skills.

Release your stress and anxiety. Do exercise sessions. Instead of being anxious, re-channel your power into something else. Look at things at a complete new perspective. You walk or jog around the neighborhood to release that. Some would say doing deep breathing exercises.

If anything bad does happen, do not bail out. You just entered a room filled with people and you begin to feel the anxiety so you feel that the next best thing is to just leave. Doing so will not help you at all. Turn the situation into something that you can learn from. Why did you suddenly feel that way? Is there a way that you can transform how you feel? Face the problem and learn from it. This is the only way you can escape it.

There will always be a possibility of being rejected. Accept rejection but don't take it personally. Remember, you do not have the monopoly of feelings. If everyone feels anxious, everyone can be rejected as well. It is how you cope with rejections that will define you. It isn't your fault that you have been rejected, it was not just meant to be. Just move on and learn from it. There shouldn't be any place for self-pity. Consider rejection as a blessing in disguise and then move forward.

Stop the labeling and simply be as confident as you can be.

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How to Increase Your Self-Esteem

Experts describe self-esteem as the overall perspective of a person on his or her value. It is one’s view of the self and one’s attitude towards it. Do you feel worthy? Do you feel capable? Are you proud of yourself? Are you encouraged? Do you know yourself, and are you proud of that? Only you can decide.

Saying negative things such as the ones listed below may seem harmless, but what you are doing is creating something in you that later becomes permanent. It soon becomes the cause of conditions such as eating disorders, anxiety, and panic attacks. Some of these things we say are:

I am so dead/I am going to die...

What was I thinking...?

It is too stressful to handle...

I can never...

What does a low self-esteem do?

1. Poor health as a result of eating disorders, and low energy levels because you are so busy pleasing everyone but yourself.

2. Missed career opportunities as a result of the echo in your mind that says you cannot do it. Low self-esteem makes you feel inappropriate and unworthy hence hinders you from taking risks and creating something.

3. Sexual problems are closely related to self-esteem issues because it is all about an individual’s problem with his or her image. Low self-esteem leads to low sex drive and addictions. Individuals seek help for these only to find that there existed deeper rooted issues that manifested themselves as sexual addiction or sexual problems.

4. Low self-esteem harms your emotions because you find yourself unable to put your feelings to the fore. It hinders you from accepting your weaknesses and sharing intimacy on many levels with a partner. You find yourself being either too reserved and come across as aloof or too arrogant when all you needed was a shoulder to lean on.

The first step to mastering your self-esteem is by challenging his messages of criticism to you. Replace them with opposite and positive messages. An example of a negative inner message is when you are ‘told’ These people will never like me, I am too short and inappropriate, or They think I am spoilt and stuck up. Acknowledge your strengths and say I am the best there can ever be, I am awesome, or I have a kind heart for helping people.

Be good to yourself

If you know that you would give a shoulder to a friend who is in a rough place, then you should do the same for yourself. You should be the first person to receive that care and commiseration. Give yourself that support; be a fellow with yourself and help ‘you.’ If you can give, then you should allow yourself to receive - especially during hard times. Be good and forgive yourself when something does not go as planned. Be gentle and support yourself instead of being critical when you fail, and most of all accept that things do not always turn out as expected.

Understand and put thought in all that you do

Make informed choices, and avoid impulsiveness. If you do not live mindfully, your brain freezes, it is no longer able to send meaningful messages to you because you keep doing the opposite. For example, stop lying about things that you may not have or are not able to do. Stop lying to yourself that he or she loves you and that he or she will come around. Mixed signals will kill your brain. You are only making room for mental dysfunction. Do not trick your mind anymore into believing things that are not true and hence living a lie. Accept things the way they are; it is a daily walk.

Live your life to its potential

You alone are responsible for your happiness. So they told you that you are not good enough? It has nothing to do with you; they have the problem, not you. No man created another; everybody is entitled