Stop Anxiety Now: Take Control of Your Life With the GAIN CONTROL Method

By Susan Taylor

Many people suffer from, and are sabotaged by, anxiety. They can gain control of their crippling anxiety by using a new method called GAIN CONTROL, created by an experienced psychotherapist who has not only helped many through this method but used it to master her own anxiety. You won't find any breathing exercises, meditation, or advice to stop drinking and smoking. Instead, you'll find a fool-proof plan developed for your "personal dashboard". This book will teach you how to live your life to its fullest with confidence and with joy!

• Language: English
• Publisher: BookBaby
• Release date: Dec 16, 2018
• ISBN: 9781543953473

Susan Taylor

Jan Byars, PhD has integrated multiple fields of study into a distinctly innovative approach that encompasses the whole person and organization. She holds a PhD in leadership and change, a MS in clinical counseling, and is a licensed professional clinical counselor and professional certified HeartMath coach. Jan lives with her dog in Indianapolis, Indiana. Susan Taylor is a transformational coach and consultant who has worked with thought leaders in the domains of emotional, spiritual, and leadership intelligence for more than twenty-five years. She helps clients fulfill their deeper purpose by fostering creative and inspiring business environments that support people to learn, grow, and thrive while delivering extraordinary results.

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Stop Anxiety Now:

Take Control of Your Life With the GAIN CONTROL Method

Copyright © 2018 by Susan Taylor

All rights reserved. This book or any portion thereof may not be reproduced or used in any manner whatsoever without the express written permission of the publisher except for the use of brief quotations in a book review.

ISBN (Print Edition): 978-1-54395-346-6

ISBN (eBook Edition): 978-1-54395-347-3

For my Mother, I miss you every day.

Contents

Introduction

Chapter One:

The GAIN CONTROL Method

Chapter Two:

Game On!

Chapter Three:

Accept You Can Do This!

Chapter Four:

Increase Your Willingness to Do Hard Things!

Chapter Five:

Notice What You’re Avoiding

Chapter Six:

Create Space and Time for Yourself to Decrease Anxiety

Chapter Seven:

Learn How to Observe Anxiety Rather Than Be a Victim of It

Chapter Eight:

No Worksheets, No Memorization, Just Doing Is What Works

Chapter Nine:

Tolerate Being Uncomfortable for a Short Time to Control Anxiety

Chapter Ten:

Remember, This Will Take Some Time

Chapter Eleven:

Over, and Over Again to Gain Control

Chapter Twelve:

Learn All You Can So You Have More Than Just Your Imagination: Just the Facts, Ma’am!

Chapter Thirteen:

Start Now No Matter What

Introduction

He knows the water best who has waded through it.

—Danish Proverb

People with Anxiety suffer every day by avoiding the things they fear and as a result, their world becomes smaller and smaller, severely limiting what they do, where they go, and who they see. How do I know? I suffered from Anxiety for years, and I learned it mostly from my family. I was afraid of the same things you are right now. If I struggled with a problem, there was lots of Anxiety until I either avoided it for as long as I could or made the decision to not address it at all (another avoidance strategy). If it seemed scary, then it must be something I should not do, so I didn’t do it. If I couldn’t predict the outcome, that could cause a panic attack. After that first panic attack, yeah, you know the one, I was afraid of having another one, so I wouldn’t go anywhere near the place or be in the situation where the first panic attack occurred, therefore thinking I was safe from having future panic attacks. As you know, that’s not true. And sometimes I knew that if a certain safe person was with me, that could keep me from having panic attacks or daily Anxiety. That strategy works a little bit, but not really, because you can’t be with that person 24/7. I’m willing to bet that you are spending lots of time trying to keep from panic attacks or endless Anxiety by trying to figure out how to avoid them, by checking your body for feelings of Anxiety, and you’re constantly trying to stop thinking about it all the time. It’s utterly exhausting.

I understand you because I was you. I know exactly what you’re going through.

I have spent years suffering since childhood. I was 27 years old and married with a beautiful daughter when I knew I had to change living in this endless, fearful lifestyle. You see, many of my relatives lived in other states, so that meant a plane ride to see them. Yes, riding on an airplane. I had never been on an airplane. In fact, I only knew of a few family members who had ever been in a plane, and they were always in situations of war (my father), scary, or dangerous flights because of turbulence. It was a great set up for never getting on an airplane because there was plenty of evidence airplanes were not to be trusted. Those things crash, and you will die!

It was in the late 1980s that I bought a cassette tape and workbook program from an airline pilot named Tom Bunn. He taught