Pocket Guide for Young Men without Fathers: Important Life Lessons
By John Taylor and Ira Somers
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• Walk with Confidence
• Respecting Your Mother and Other Women
• How to Shave
• Table Manners
• The Difference Between a Job and Career
• Saving Money
• Responding to Authority Figures
And much more.
This invaluable guide is full of vital life lessons that aim to keep boys on the right path. It is co-written by an experienced father and inner-city schoolteacher and a professional counselor within the African American community.
John Taylor
John Taylor (b. 1952) is an American writer, critic, and translator who lives in France. Among his many translations of French, Italian, and Greek literature are books by Philippe Jaccottet, Pierre Chappuis, Pierre-Albert Jourdan, Georges Perros, Jacques Dupin, José-Flore Tappy, Pierre Voélin, Catherine Colomb, Lorenzo Calogero, Franca Mancinelli, Alfredo de Palchi, and Elias Petropoulos. About the latter Greek writer, he has written Harsh Out of Tenderness: The Greek Poet and Urban Folklorist Elias Petropoulos. Taylor's translations have been awarded grants and prizes from the National Endowment for the Arts, the Academy of American Poets, Pro Helvetia, and the Sonia Raiziss Charitable Foundation. He is the author of several volumes of short prose and poetry, most recently The Dark Brightness, Grassy Stairways, Remembrance of Water & Twenty-Five Trees, and a "double book" co-authored with Pierre Chappuis, A Notebook of Clouds & A Notebook of Ridges.
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Pocket Guide for Young Men without Fathers - John Taylor
Introduction
Dear Son,
We are sorry that your father is not in your life. We, the two authors, may not know you, but we care about you. That is why we’ve spent over three years and many, many hours working on this book. It is for you, Son, because we want what is best for you. We also want you to be safe and to have the chance to live the life you want for yourself. We hope our words help you become the man you want to be.
Part I
The Journey
1
If Your Father Were Here, What He Would Say
He would say these ten things:
1. You’re amazing.
2. You’re going to change the world.
3. Be there for your children.
4. Get an education.
5. Find some great friends.
6. Trust your mother.
7. Love yourself.
8. Believe in the power greater than yourself.
9. I love you.
10. I miss you.
2
Walk with Confidence
No matter how hard it gets, stick your chest out, keep your head up, and handle it.
—Tupac Shakur
How you walk says a lot about you. When you walk with confidence you will change how you feel about yourself—and how others see you. That’s why you should walk with your head up. Don’t look down at the ground. Keep your body straight and shoulders back. People will see that you feel good about yourself.
Walk with purpose and like you own
your space. Owning
your space means believing that where you are is where you are meant to be. When you walk, pick up your feet and do not drag them across the floor.
Even people with important jobs might not feel confident, but you wouldn’t know it. They walk with confidence and act like they own their space. Here is a story about a woman who thought she was not good enough to do her job. She pretended she was confident. See what happened.
When Amy Cuddy was a teenager, she was in a bad car accident. She flew out of the car as it rolled and rolled. Her brain was damaged. Doctors told her she would not be able to finish school. She did not want to listen. She worked extra hard and finished.
Later, she got a job teaching at Princeton University. That is one of the best universities in the world. But she felt like she was not smart enough to be there because of her injury years ago. The day before she was to start teaching, she tried to quit. Her boss said, No way. Just go in tomorrow and fake being great.
Amy had no choice. She decided to fake being great like her boss said. She walked in with her head high and pretended to know what she was doing, pretended to know the answers, and pretended to give the best lectures (talks). She did this every day and her students saw her as a great professor. One day Amy realized that she did not feel like she was faking it anymore. She faked it until she became it.
Today, she is a professor at Harvard University, another world-class university. She is also a social psychologist. She helps people gain the confidence to be the best they can be. Her talk on TED.com has been watched over 37 million times!
3
Respect Your Mother and Other Women
Every girl is somebody’s sister. Or somebody’s mother. Or somebody’s daughter.
—Tom Tag
Respecting your mother and other women is very important. You respect your mother by doing what she tells you to do. You also respect her by not talking back or arguing with her. And you show respect by honoring her and not calling her names.
John shares his own father’s advice.
I recall my father talking with me and my brothers about respecting my mother, sisters, and other women. He said we need to respect and value women. They have a hard job raising sons without the fathers around. Many moms feel stressed and overwhelmed. They also talk