The Gospel & Marriage
By Russell D. Moore and Andrew T. Walker
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While the culture has never been more confused about the definition of what marriage is, those who are married have never been more hopeless about how marriage should be lived. The times have never been more crucial for digging deeper, past the definition of marriage to the structure of marriage, the blessings of marriage, and the opportunity for living out the image of the gospel that’s embodied within marriage.
So, what now?
Editors Russell Moore and Andrew T. Walker of the Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission (ERLC) assemble leading voices to frame the issues with a gospel-centered perspective. The Gospel for Life series gives every believer a biblically-saturated understanding of the most urgent issues facing our culture today, because the gospel is for all of life.
Russell D. Moore
Russell D. Moore is the President of the Southrn Baptist Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission. He also serves as the executive director of the Carl F. H. Henry Institute for Evangelical Engagement and is a regular columnist for Baptist Press. He has served on the pastoral staffs of two churches and was an aide to a United States congressman. He and his wife, Maria, and three sons live in Louisville, Kentucky.
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The Gospel & Marriage - Russell D. Moore
Also in the Gospel for Life series
The Gospel & Racial Reconciliation
The Gospel & Same-Sex Marriage
The Gospel & Religious Liberty
The Gospel & Adoption
The Gospel & Abortion
Copyright © 2017 by Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission
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Printed in the United States of America
978-1-4336-9043-3
Published by B&H Publishing Group
Nashville, Tennessee
Dewey Decimal Classification: 306.81
Subject Heading: BIBLE. N.T. GOSPELS \ MARRIAGE \ DOMESTIC RELATIONS
Unless otherwise noted, Scripture is taken from the Holman Christian Standard Bible (hcsb), copyright © 1999, 2000, 2002, 2003, 2009 by Holman Bible Publishers, Nashville Tennessee. All rights reserved.
Also used: the English Standard Version (esv), copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers.
Also used: New American Standard Bible (nasb), copyright © 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995 by The Lockman Foundation.
Also used: King James Version (kjv) which is public domain.
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Series Preface
Russell Moore
Why Should the Gospel for Life Series Matter to Churches?
IN ACTS CHAPTER 2, WE READ ABOUT THE DAY OF PENTECOST, the day when the resurrected Lord Jesus Christ sent the Holy Spirit from heaven onto His church. The Day of Pentecost was a spectacular day—there were manifestations of fire, languages being spoken by people who didn’t know them, and thousands of unbelievers coming to faith in this recently resurrected Messiah. Reading this passage, we go from account to account of heavenly shock and awe, and yet the passage ends in an unexpectedly simple way: And they devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching, to the fellowship, to the breaking of bread, and to the prayers
(Acts 2:42 esv).
I believe one thing the Holy Spirit wants us to understand from this is that these ordinary
things are not less spectacular than what preceded them—in fact, they may be more so. The disciplines of discipleship, fellowship, community, and prayer are the signs that tell us the kingdom of Christ is here. That means that for Christians, the most crucial moments in our walk with Jesus Christ don’t happen in the thrill of spiritual highs.
They happen in the common hum of everyday life in quiet, faithful obedience to Christ.
That’s what the Gospel for Life series is about: taking the truths of Scripture, the story of our redemption and adoption by a risen Lord Jesus, and applying them to the questions and situations that we all face in the ordinary course of life.
Our hope is that churches will not merely find these books interesting, but also helpful. The Gospel for Life series is meant to assist pastors and church leaders to answer urgent questions that people are asking, questions that the church isn’t always immediately ready to answer. Whether in a counseling session or alongside a sermon series, these books are intended to come alongside church leaders in discipling members to see their lives with a Kingdom mentality.
Believers don’t live the Christian life in isolation but rather as part of a gospel community, the church. That’s why we have structured the Gospel for Life series to be easily utilized in anything from a small group study context to a new member or new believer class. None of us can live worthy of the gospel by ourselves and, thankfully, none have to.
Why are we so preoccupied with the idea of living life by and through the gospel? The answer is actually quite simple: because the gospel changes everything. The gospel isn’t a mere theological inquiry or a political idea, though it shapes both our theology and our politics. The gospel is the Good News that there is a Kingdom far above and beyond the borders of this world, where death is dead and sin and sorrow cease. The gospel is about how God brings this Kingdom to us by reconciling us to Himself through Christ.
That means two things. First, it means the gospel fulfills the hopes that our idols have promised and betrayed. The Scripture says that all God’s promises are yes in Jesus (2 Cor. 1:20). As sinful human beings, we all tend to think what we really want is freedom from authority, inheritance without obedience like the prodigal son. But what Jesus offers is the authority we were designed to live under, an inheritance we by no means deserve to share, and the freedom that truly satisfies our souls.
Second, this means that the gospel isn’t just the start of the Christian life but rather the vehicle that carries it along. The gospel is about the daily reality of living as an adopted child of a resurrected Father-King, whose Kingdom is here and is still coming. By looking at our jobs, our marriages, our families, our government, and the entire universe through a gospel lens, we live differently. We will work and marry and vote with a Kingdom mind-set, one that prioritizes the permanent things of Christ above the fleeting pleasures of sin and the vaporous things of this world.
The Gospel for Life series is about helping Christians and churches navigate life in the Kingdom while we wait for the return of its King and its ultimate consummation. The stakes are high. To get the gospel wrong when it comes to marriage can lead to a generation’s worth of confusion about what marriage even is. To get the gospel wrong on adoption can leave millions of unwanted
children at the mercy of ruthless sex traffickers and callous abusers. There’s no safe space in the universe where getting the gospel wrong will be merely an academic blunder. That’s why these books exist—to help you and your church understand what the gospel is and what it means for life.
Theology doesn’t just think; it walks, weeps, and bleeds. The Gospel for Life series is a resource intended to help Christians see their theology do just that. When you see all of life from the perspective of the Kingdom, everything changes. It’s not just about miraculous moments or intense religious experiences. Our gospel is indeed miraculous, but as the disciples in Acts learned, it’s also a gospel of the ordinary.
Introduction
Andrew T. Walker
I LIKE TO CALL MARRIAGE THE GREAT UNEXAMINED ASSUMPTION
of our time. Nearly everyone around us aspires to marriage and will in fact get married. Marriage it seems is a simple fact of our existence. It’s the one institution that brings together men and women to be husbands and wives and turns them into fathers and mothers. Marriage and family life are the very axis upon which the fortunes of society turn. But does that mean