The Happy Student: 5 Steps to Academic Fulfillment and Success
By Daniel Wong, Nancy Chen and Sue Wasiolek
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Daniel Wong doesn’t have a PhD in education or psychology—but his transformation from unhappy overachiever to happy straight-A student has given him unique insight into what motivates students intrinsically.
Sharing with readers his personal story and the five-step program he has developed, this book can help struggling or unmotivated students everywhere understand how they, too, can find deep satisfaction in the pursuit of academic success, driven by their own desires rather than pressure from others.
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The Happy Student - Daniel Wong
Preface
Istarted writing this book after my third year of college. Initially it felt pretty weird telling my close friends that I was trying to get a book published. Most responses I got went something like What credentials do you have? Who wants to read something written by someone who hasn't even graduated from college yet? Maybe you should wait a few years before you try to get the book published.
Those remarks were discouraging, but I decided (in naïve self-confidence, not bitter defiance) that they were somewhat irrelevant. This is a book written by a student for students. I don't have a PhD in psychology or education, and neither do I have any experience as a teacher. The five-step program I've developed, which will help you become a happy and fulfilled student, wasn't born out of hours spent analyzing data and running experiments. Rather, it was born out of sixteen years of schooling and relentless questioning as to what the true purpose of education is.
During my career as a student, I achieved a lot of academic success—although I'm sure that some of you readers out there have achieved much greater success than me. I graduated summa cum laude from Duke University with a double major in mechanical engineering and economics (and a GPA of 3.98 on a 4.0 scale), was inducted into three academic honor societies in college, didn't get a grade lower than an A- throughout high school and college, and was the salutatorian of my high school (out of a graduating class of 850 students).
Yet these achievements, in and of themselves, didn't bring me happiness. I accomplished what most students dream of, but for most of my academic career it only led to a greater feeling of insecurity and emptiness. I was acing every test and exam, but I felt like I was failing life. My accomplishments made me wonder, Surely there's more to life than getting A's and trying to get a good job?
I now realize that academics are important, but that they aren't everything. Good grades really don't lead to happiness. In fact, being obsessed about grades leads to unhappiness.
The Happy Student is the story of how I discovered real meaning in the pursuit of academic success, and how every student can, too. It's a story that will resonate in the hearts of every college student and every future-minded high school student.
I'll admit that happiness itself is a vague concept. Is it a temporary emotion? Or is it something more than that, something you can experience at a deeper level even when you don't feel particularly cheery? In this book, I'm going to use the latter definition and talk about happiness in relation to your academics. At the same time, I've realized that focusing solely on your academics isn't the key to academic fulfillment. A holistic attitude is vital if you want to become a happy student, and happiness must be investigated in the context of a balanced approach toward education and life. The subject matter of this book reflects an understanding of this reality. Because of the complexity of this reality, I'll admit that the title, The Happy Student: 5 Steps to Academic Fulfillment and Success, captures the heart of the book but doesn't fully describe the wide-ranging content.
Interestingly, when I was doing research on what similar books are on the market, I discovered that every book that aims to motivate students academically focuses on extrinsic measures: new classroom management techniques, innovative systems of rewards and punishments, novel approaches to incentivize learning. (Not surprisingly, most books related to education are about helping students get more A's, regardless of whether they feel fulfilled.)
In other words, most authors assume that students are intrinsically unmotivated—and that there's nothing you can do to change that. I don't believe this to be true. To become intrinsically motivated, students must come to a deep realization of the joy of learning and the beauty of education. They must become purpose-driven rather than performance-driven. They must ask the why
questions before they ask the how
questions. They must learn how to climb the ladder more effectively, but only after they've made sure the ladder is leaning against the right wall.
I invite you to join me on this journey of asking those all-important why
questions. This is a challenging process that lays the foundation of your happiness as a student, but it's not for the fainthearted. Happiness isn't just something you feel; it's something you work for. I trust that you're ready to get down to business.
HOW THE BOOK IS STRUCTURED
The introduction describes my transformation from unhappy overachiever to happy straight-A student, which is the basis for why I wrote this book. It details how I discovered the five-step program and how you, too, can benefit from it.
Chapters 1 through 5 elaborate on each of the five steps:
1. Decide to run your own race
2. Decide what kind of race to run
3. Start running and stay on track
4. Keep running despite your fears
5. Stay motivated, stay strong
Each chapter ends with a series of reflection questions. It might be tempting to skip over them, but I encourage you to thoughtfully write out your answers. Doing this will help you clarify your thoughts and make a stronger commitment to take action. Reflection is what you need to turn experience into insight, and information into true learning. This book will give you the information you need to become a happy student, but it's only when you reflect and take action that you'll begin to see a real difference in your life.
Introduction:
From Unhappy Overachiever to Happy Straight-A Student
You can get all A's and still flunk life.
Walker Percy, author and philosopher
The fatal metaphor of progress, which means leaving things behind us, has utterly obscured the real idea of growth, which means leaving things inside us.
G.K. Chesterton, journalist and novelist
No man can know where he is going unless he knows exactly where he has been and exactly how he arrived at his present place.
Maya Angelou, civil rights activist and award-winning poet
This is less of an I did it and so can you
book, and more of an I suffered so I don't want you to suffer
book. We spend 20 percent or more of our lives in school, but most of us can't wait to be done with it. At some point, we've all asked ourselves why education has to be so unexciting and…painful.
For the first twelve years of my formal education, I thought that happy student
was an oxymoron. Smart students? Yes, those exist. Hardworking students? Those exist, too. Happy students? I don't see any of those around. But as I discovered the keys to academic fulfillment and success, I began to see that being a happy student wasn't just ideal. It was possible. It's now my life's passion to help students everywhere understand this for themselves.
This introduction tells the story of how I developed the five-step program and found fulfillment in the pursuit of academic success. In many ways, this is a parenthetical chapter. It will give you a better idea of where I'm coming from when I say that there's much more to education than getting A's, but it won't outline what you can do specifically to embark on your own journey of experiencing the thrill and joy of education—that's reserved for the rest of the book.
So if you've already decided that you trust me and are going to try out the five-step program, feel free to skip this chapter. For the rest of you, let's begin the story of an eventually happy student. May it inspire you to live out your own, even more remarkable, story.
AFRICAN BEGINNINGS
I was born in Johannesburg, South Africa. My dad was working for Standard Chartered Bank at the time, and they had posted him to Johannesburg for a couple of years. My parents, older brother, older sister, and I lived there at the tail end of apartheid. Exciting—scary
might be a better word—times. My memories of Johannesburg have been constructed based solely on my baby pictures, but my parents told me that we were treated well because Asian people were considered to be in the same category as white people. Our house did get broken into once, though. I can't imagine how terrifying that must have been for my parents, a couple with three young children living in an unfamiliar country. The police eventually caught the team of intruders, which consisted of both whites and blacks. Racial cooperation in a time of apartheid—I guess there's always a silver lining to a dark cloud.
The year I turned two, my dad took another job in Hong Kong, so my family and I lived there for the next three years. While in Hong Kong, my siblings went to an international school, but I was too young to attend. So I spent my time riding around the apartment on a tricycle, reading Richard Scarry books, and watching Tom and Jerry. When I was five, my family said goodbye to the bustling city of Hong Kong and said hello to the equally bustling city of Singapore. Singapore has been home for me ever since.
My dad has always been an adventurer. It's always intrigued me that, at the same time, he's a pretty quiet guy who maintains the same composed demeanor no matter how stressed or upset he is. His spirit of adventure is manifested in his actions more so than in his disposition or speech. He has accepted job postings in countries like Taiwan, India, Qatar, and China. After the earthquake and tsunami hit eastern Japan in early 2011, my dad even spent a week in Japan to help in the relief efforts!
My mom was trained as an occupational therapist and practiced for six years before deciding to be a stay-at-home mom. She's the most loving person I know, and she's extremely passionate about motherhood. Ten years ago, this passion compelled her to write a book about the challenges and joys of being a mom. (Naturally, her example has inspired me to try my hand at this book-writing thing.)
I'm thankful that my home environment has always been loving and supportive. My mom and dad are far more liberal than your stereotypical Asian parents, and they've never placed excessive pressure on me to perform in school.
I once watched a Family Guy clip where an Asian dad says to his son in a thick Chinese accent, You doctor yet?
The son replies in annoyance, "No, Dad. I'm twelve. The dad snaps,
Talk to me when you doctor!" I'm glad that a similar conversation never took place in my home.
At the same time, though, my parents definitely wanted me and my siblings to excel in school, and they even hired a Mandarin tutor for us when we were in elementary school.
The education system in Singapore requires that every student learn English in addition to another language, so most Chinese students (I'm Singaporean by nationality but Chinese by ethnicity) choose to learn Mandarin. My siblings and I had spent a total of five years in South Africa and Hong Kong, where we had little contact with the Mandarin language. Moreover, my mom doesn't speak any Mandarin, while my dad speaks only passable Mandarin. Both of them speak English as their first language, which is common in Singapore. All these factors combined to make the mastery of Mandarin (I'll admit that I never reached the stage of mastery) a long struggle for me and my