Finding Your Inner Warrior: A Guide for the Hesitant Woman in the Wake of MeToo
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In her 1991 bombshell book, Backlash: The Undeclared War Against American Women, author and activist Susan Faludi wrote “a backlash against women’s rights” is a “recurring phenomenon” and that it usually occurs whenever women make significant advances in society. In the new millennium, the world has seen more and more women leading countries, winning Nobel Prizes, and attaining positions at all levels of government. Enter the #MeToo movement in the wake of white male bullies’ continued objectification and dehumanization of women after 2016.
Finding Your Inner Warrior is the answer to the latest backlash and assault on women. Dr. Nora Fahlberg is not offering the passive, neutralizing advice of our mothers and grandmothers. She offers strategic defense strategies for even the most reticent woman, giving them the power to channel their own Boudicas in the face of the latest onslaught. Finding Your Inner Warrior is a handbook for managing the next drunken frat boy, the wolf at the backyard barbecue or the ogre at the office.
Nora Fahlberg
Originally in healthcare, her career was cut short due to distracted drivers. So, she took her skills into the film industry part time, and her B.S. in Human Biology into teaching western sciences in adult education. When she’s not channeling her “inner warrior” she’s reading or spoiling her Labradoodle and husband. This is her first book.
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Finding Your Inner Warrior - Nora Fahlberg
CHAPTER 1
Enough is Enough
Once upon a time, I was a nice, quiet, sweet girl who tried to get along with everyone. As such, I had no idea what to do when, in my early teens, men began to harass and grope me. These incidents left me feeling grossed out, confused, and frustrated.
Hoping that men would eventually leave me alone or that someone would stand up for me didn’t work very well. Actually, it didn’t work at all. There weren’t many options to change my predicament. I couldn’t control men’s behavior and I couldn’t change the system. The only thing I could do was take charge of myself. Ultimately, I chose to recreate myself: to become more confident, more assertive—tougher.
It was a slow process that took far too long. Although I witnessed a few women calling out bad behavior here and there, I had no consistent role models. All of the girls and women I knew were passive like me. I read dozens of self-help books in an effort to discover the tools for my transformation. Little by little, over many years, I found the information I needed to start making changes. This guidebook contains all the things I wished someone had told me, or that I could have found in one source a long time ago.
The consent movement
helped champion the idea that we shouldn’t touch others without permission. As children, many of us were taught to keep our hands to ourselves; to me, this felt like we, as a society, were reinforcing this concept for those who didn’t quite get the message. Then, #MeToo gave people an outlet to come forward and raise awareness about how prevalent harassment, assault, and rape are in our culture. Victims need forums for discussion and support, and more resources are now available.
Unfortunately, follow-up studies show that, for most women, not much has changed. Statistics say that approximately eighty percent of us have been harassed and that twenty-five percent of women will be assaulted in their lifetimes. I suspect it’s higher than that. Many women told me stories that they had never reported. Some had never told anyone—not their husbands, boyfriends or family. And why would they? First, we know that we might not be believed. Then, we will likely be subjected to questions of what we did or didn’t do that allowed the incident to happen.
During the summer of #MeToo, my friends shared their stories. One woman in her mid-twenties spoke of a job where one guy constantly grabbed and groped the female employees, using the common ploy of laughing it off as a joke. Another devout Christian southern lady in her seventies spoke of how, in her sixties, she had two separate incidents where men created excuses to reach down her shirt. Modest dress and age do not necessarily protect us.
Yet another woman had her booty slapped twice in once month: once by a stranger while she was bending over a dairy case at a store, and again by a friend of a guy she was dating. Her girlfriend asked her boyfriend when the woman could expect an apology from the friend. He replied that his friend had already apologized—to him. Not to the person he had assaulted, but to the man whose property
he had violated! Upon hearing this, I was livid. I began sharing with her the strategies that would become this book.
Like many people who find their way into healthcare, especially fields of bodywork, I’ve always been the type of person in whom people felt they could confide. As a result, I heard stories of harassment and assault from friends, colleagues, and even strangers for years, beginning in high school. In addition to my own experiences, which I’ll get to soon, I spent decades in healthcare, listening to hundreds of women’s stories. I am a Chiropractic Physician, which might seem random and unrelated to this guidebook, except that it gave me the opportunity to be there for women who needed someone to hear them. When you put your hands on people to ease their pain, they often come to trust you with highly personal information.
As I worked on my patients, they would tell me everything. I listened, sympathized, and recommended counseling on a regular basis. However, due to negative perceptions of therapy, most of my patients insisted that they couldn’t or wouldn’t go to a psychologist, saying that they preferred to just tell me. So, I listened to horrific and heartbreaking stories as I worked to ease their physical aches and pains—and I kept their secrets, as I was and still am bound by doctor/patient confidentiality.
After two serious