How to Unlock Anger

By Adam Anka

Here is a simple, warm-hearted guide to helping you get past feeling upset or angry. It will help you unlock your more happy and positive self in a way that will teach you how to do this for yourself whenever you feel you need it.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Adam Anka
• Release date: Apr 19, 2020
• ISBN: 9780463658536

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How to Unlock Anger

Published by Adam Anka at Smashwords

Copyright 2020 Adam Anka

Table of Contents

1. I’m angry!

2. Getting to the heart of it

3. Building an understanding

4. Summary, Reminder and Comment

1. I’m angry!

Anger has many expressions. It’s not just explosive rage.

It can be seen when we are resentful, uncooperative, grumpy, stubborn, disgusted, annoyed, irritable, displeased, antagonistic, indignant, impatient, sore, overly serious, insulting, abusive, confrontational, gossipy, telling lies about people, overly critical, throwing a tantrum, being provocative, etc. It has a thousand faces each with its own color, you might say, from white hot to black as night.

It’s amazing to see how many feelings are in us, and these are just the angry ones! Yes, people are not cartoons. We’re complicated. Each of us is as deep as the ocean.

You can see that it’s no small thing to get to know yourself. And it’s another thing to learn to control or master yourself. It’s like being the president of a whole country!

Let’s look at anger in general. It’s a big category that a lot of bad feelings fit into. The key you are about to discover will open all the locks on all the doors to the truth about anger because, in the end, what it really is comes from a single and rather simple place inside us.

Anger is like a closed and locked door because it imprisons us in a small room. It cuts us off from the beauty and goodness of life and other people. It even cuts us off from our own beauty and goodness, too. Maybe that room would be better used for mops and brooms and not people!

Let’s get to know this thing called anger …

Anger is like our body is on fire. Feel the heat … just feel it. Be aware that we’re pausing here to feel something deeply. This paying attention helps us get a grip on it.

You can invite it to talk to you personally - in primitive sounds or words - telling you how it feels to experience this fire, maybe what it’s thinking or wanting to do. Let it have its own moment … with you standing by as a witness. Just watch and listen.

Don’t try to figure out what it might want to say or what you think it should say. Let IT speak for itself.

It might seem childish, but that’s okay. It’s a primitive level within us, and it’s been with us since the days when we lived in caves and were dressed in animal skins. Think Flintstones! This energy is part of what helps us stay alive and stay connected to the world.

Don’t try to fix anything at this time. Some people have a hard time with this because they want to use their mind to figure things out, not letting themselves have their feelings.

They may judge themselves as weak or foolish for having upset feelings. That’s not true. That’s just us being afraid of looking bad, out of control or feeling like a loser. Notice if you’re thinking this way.

You can choose to just step past your worries about it … just keep walking toward where you can stand and simply watch and listen. You may even feel like you’ve stepped out of your body like a ghost.

We can’t get through being