Reaching Goals Together

By Mmolawa Caswell Molefe

Family lives, relationships and marriages are just like ships that are sinking. How can you save your marriage, your relationship and your family life? Reaching Goals Together can help you to overcome some of the challenges in your relationships. Going through the journey of life will assist you to resolve some of the challenges faced in life. “Reaching Goals Together” will take you through some of the personal developments in your relationships. “Siblings Reaching Goals Together” will teach siblings to do things together to achieve more. “Raising our children together” will assist parents to raise their children together, as allowing children to grow up without both parents is a big mistake, and children raised without adequate guidance end up learning the wrong things in life. “Reaching the Destiny of Life Together” and “Caring for Each Other to Reach Goals Together” will guide and prepare you for marriage – advising you to finish playing before saying ”I do”.

This book provides you with solutions to overcome some of the challenges in your relationships, and teaches you to work together in your relationships to overcome challenges. I wish you good luck.

About the AUTHOR

Molefe is a teacher, Reverend, motivational speaker and researcher for personal development. Working in a church and school made him realise the challenges faced by members of his community and indeed worldwide. This book will assist you, the reader, to overcome challenges in your relationships. Previous published books by Molefe include:

•Do not allow circumstances to move you away from your Goal.
•Unlocking locked Life.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Mmolawa Caswell Molefe
• Release date: Aug 13, 2020
• ISBN: 9781005927264

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Mmolawa Caswell Molefe

REACHING

GOALS

TOGETHER

Copyright © 2020 Mmolawa Caswell Molefe

Published by Mmolawa Caswell Molefe Publishing at Smashwords

First edition 2020

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Dedication

I dedicate this book to all couples who need solutions for troubled relationships. I hope and trust that it will be an inspiration to men and women who are seeking ways to save their marriages. I dedicate this book to those who say divorce is not a solution. In reaching certain goals together, this book will help to patch up the cracks which have formed in relationships and encourage healing and restoration.

Finally, I want to dedicate this book to those men and women who have already gone their separate ways. Remember that there is always hope of reconciliation. Never ever give up! Plant a seed of hope, and the con10ts of this book will provide the water for it to grow and flourish.

To the happily married men and women out there, this is an opportunity to enhance your relationships. Keep that love burning brightly and nurture each other for ever!

Preamble

Divorce within our communities has a negative effect on the future of our children, whether parents care to admit it or not. Troubled marriages and problematic relationships are escalating throughout the world and divorce is now regarded as being an international disease! The TV programmes Pay Pap Geld, Uya Jola 9/9 and international programme, Cheaters, emphasise the consequences of broken relationships. What is the cause of these breakdowns? There are some things that couples stop doing once they have settled down. Somehow romance seems to fade into the background, although it is important in the life of each partner. Other factors such as attraction, emotional intimacy, respect, praise and acceptance, are essential to sustain healthy relationships.

Since most couples take the vow, ...till death do us part, divorce is not a solution. This book can improve your relationship, whatever your circumstances. The experiences of others can be stimulating and encouraging, and often help to improve relationships which lack fun and excitement. Doing things for each other according to the What you do for me, I do for you principle can be useful and promotes better interaction between husband and wife. The paradigm shift from I to WE can re-establish a healthy relationship, and make it possible to reach certain goals together.

Table of Contents

Dedication

Preamble

1. Reaching Goals Together

2. Siblings Reaching Goals Together

3. Raising Our Children Together

4. Reaching The Destiny of Life Together

5. Carrying Each Other to Reach a Goal Together

6. Partners Support Each Other to Work Towards Reaching a Goal

1

Reaching Goals Together

"It is not lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages" (Friedrich Nietzsche).

I was astounded to hear the news, and suddenly realised that death is not the only source of sadness. It is always a sad occasion when a man and woman decide on the finality of divorce. Even though I suspected that Sipho was having an extramarital relationship, the news came as a shock. I had already noticed that whenever he answered his cell phone, he had the habit of moving away from his wife. How do you feel when you see your friend separated from his wife and children?

I remember how Sipho requested my brother to make a weekend reservation for him and his three sons. Somehow it was strange that their mother was not included. What was the reason for leaving his wife behind? Couples are meant to be friends, so how is it possible to leave a friend behind? Is this a healthy relationship?

I believe that some partners are neglecting their roles in marriage, or perhaps they do not know each other well enough. Sometimes a spouse will end a relationship in search of the respect lacking at home. Sometimes one finds that there is no physical intimacy, communication, or praise - even romance is dead! When this type of thing happens, it is quite likely that one of the partners seeks love and happiness elsewhere, and is quite ready to abandon a marriage.

Relationships are projects where all resources must be available for the project to be completed successfully. For example, if one wants to build a wall, but only bricks are available and no cement, the project will fail. This is true of all relationships, as each person has a particular role to fulfil in reaching certain goals together.

It appears that the majority of men and women contemplate divorce at various stages in marriage, particularly in these trying times. Unfortunately, this seems to be an ongoing problem and is often regarded as being fashionable amongst some members of society! What must be done to reduce the alarming statistics and secure these relationships? What must be done to sustain all the qualities of a strong, happy marriage?

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person (Mignon McLaughlin).

There was a prominent man named Bhengu, who was very well educated and always looked presentable. He was married to a very respectable woman, Masibiya. At the start of their marriage, Bhengu did not want his wife to work, only to find that his salary was insufficient to cater for her needs as a woman. Without saying a word to her husband, Masibiya went out to look for a job while he was at work. She was fortunate in gaining employment as a messenger at one of the restaurants in Durban.

On her way home after work she began to panic, as it was already way after four o’clock and Mr Bhengu would be waiting for his meal. As she fearfully approached him, she tried to explain: Ngiyaxholisa Baba! (Forgive me, Father!) The husband was seething with anger and beat her mercilessly. The following