How to Talk about Jesus (Without Being That Guy): Personal Evangelism in a Skeptical World
By Sam Chan and Ed Stetzer
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Most Christians know they should be trying to tell their friends and family about Jesus. But in a post-Christendom world, personal evangelism is viewed negatively--it's offensive, inappropriate, and insensitive. Recent studies confirm that the majority of Christians rarely evangelize, worried they might offend their family or lose their friends. In How to Talk About Jesus (Without Being That Guy), author Sam Chan equips everyday Christians who are reluctant and nervous to tell their friends about Jesus with practical, tested ways of sharing their faith in the least awkward ways possible.
Drawing from over two decades of experience as an evangelist, teacher, and pastor, Chan explains why personal evangelism feels so awkward today. And utilizing recent insights from communication theory, cross-cultural ministry, and apologetics, he helps you build confidence in sharing your faith, and teaches you how to evangelize your friends and family in socially appropriate ways.
Sam Chan
Sam Chan (PhD, Trinity Evangelical Divinity School; MBBS, University of Sydney) is a public evangelist with City Bible Forum in Sydney, Australia, where he regularly shares the gospel with high school students, city workers, doctors, and lawyers. He is the author of the award-winning book Evangelism in a Skeptical World and regularly speaks at conferences around the world on the practice of evangelism in a post-Christian culture. Sam blogs at espressotheology.com.
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How to Talk about Jesus (Without Being That Guy) - Sam Chan
Foreword
I believe Jesus’ last words should be our first priority.
His last earthly words—between his resurrection and his ascension—were predominantly a commission to us. Those words were a call to tell the good news of the gospel to a hurting world. One of the reasons I came to the Wheaton College Billy Graham Center is that I have a passion for sharing the gospel. I believe we all need a renewed focus on gospel sharing, and I want to be part of that renewal.
There are, however, both challenges and opportunities we face when we think about sharing the gospel in our world today. We face challenges in two key categories. The first challenge is the reputation of the church in society. There are many people (particularly those who are more secular) who have a general sense that the church is not the solution; in fact, they believe it may be part of the problem. In a world where there is a growing sense of outrage and the rise of cancel culture, churches that believe the gospel should be shared are seen as the problem. Yet the Bible does tell us the gospel is to be shared. We don’t have the option to cut and paste to make a Bible of our choosing.
In this third millennium of Christianity, the main way we’ve been doing gospel work for the past forty to fifty years has been to invite our friends to church. I remember hearing pastors whom I know, love, and appreciate use words like invest and invite. So believers were encouraged to invest in others and invite them to a service, while the pastor’s job was to share the gospel. In the past, when people had a more positive perception of church, we could do this effectively.
Today, however, we’re in an increasingly secular context, as is much of the Western world. Most of what we did for the last four or five decades has been what’s called church evangelism,
and that’s not a bad thing. But cultural issues, our belief in the uniqueness of Christ, evangelicals’ vocal affiliation with politics, questions of morality and sexuality, and more have caused the church to be seen as part of the problem instead of the solution.
The second challenge is the reputation of individual Christians. Think of the American version of The Office television show, where Angela is the stereotypical Christian character. The actress is a Christian in real life, but her character on the show is hypocritical and judgmental. In one episode, Jim asks several people what three books each would want on a desert island:
Jim: Angela?
Angela: The Bible.
Stanley: That’s one book. You’ve got two others.
Angela: "The Purpose Driven Life."
Jim: Nice. Third book?
Angela: No.
Her curt reply demonstrated her judgmental attitude toward her questioners. The perception of many unchurched people is that Christians are judgmental and hypocritical in what they believe and say.
But in the face of these challenges, we also have two powerful opportunities before us. The first opportunity is the proximity of witness. In the coming years, we must have a greater emphasis on personal evangelism. Let me be clear: I’m not against church evangelism. In fact, it is very effective in some places but increasingly rare in others. But I believe a greater focus on personal evangelism may be able to overcome the abstract bias against the broader church and Christians in general. Your neighbor, coworker, or relative may have a broadly negative view of Christians, but because that person knows you, the proximity of witness creates a more positive perception of the message being received.
Second, I believe with all my heart that evangelism needs to move out of the hands of professionals. I thank God for both pastors and evangelists, but we have overprofessionalized evangelism to the detriment of mission. The end result is the de-emphasis of each Christian’s personal call to fulfill the Great Commission.
Spiritual gift tests became all the rage in the 1970s and 1980s. One of the gifts often listed was the gift of evangelism. Here’s the problem: there’s no gift of evangelism in the Bible; there’s the gift of the evangelist we read about in Ephesians 4:11 (ESV): And he gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the shepherds and teachers.
But what do the evangelists do? Verse 12 reads, To equip the saints for the work of ministry.
Renewing a focus on the personal call to share leads to the deprofessionalization of evangelism and a broader engagement with the people of God, who then see their role as showing and sharing the love of Jesus.
When we experienced the great shutdown of church services during the Covid-19 pandemic, people said, Well, what do we do now? We can’t invite our friends to church.
But here’s the amazing thing: even in a time when people won’t come to a big group, we can still share the gospel with our neighbor.
It is time to reengage a spirit of personal evangelism in fresh ways in the life of every believer.
My friend Sam Chan believes this as well. You can sense this as you read this timely book. Sam will help you learn how to share Christ in ways that are effective in the situations we find ourselves today and help you move from guilt over not sharing Jesus to confidence in telling others the good news of God.
Sam has taken the best theological and practical ideas from evangelism training in the past and companioned them with timeless missiological principles and effective tools in a postmodern culture. He has been teaching these principles for years to everyone, from college students to urban professionals, and I’m glad he is sharing his wisdom with us here.
Sam is a knowledgeable and experienced witness and teacher. He holds a PhD from Trinity Evangelical Divinity School and has spent years sharing Christ with college students, lawyers, and other professionals in his home city of Sydney, Australia.
Most Christians fail to share Christ regularly for one of two reasons. Either they fear being ostracized for speaking up about Jesus, becoming stigmatized as "that guy," or they feel helpless and are afraid to share because they are sure they will fail. You will find both comfort and confidence in this book as it walks you through both the why and the how of our witness today.
I’m not discouraged, in part because of books like this that help God’s people intentionally and strategically reengage personal evangelism as a central component of our discipleship. I believe the opportunity for gospel work and witness is great and ongoing before us. And I believe Sam Chan has given the church a gift through this wonderful resource.
Ed Stetzer (PhD), executive director of the Wheaton College Billy Graham Center and professor and dean at Wheaton College
Introduction
I boarded my plane in Boston at 10:00 p.m. The plane didn’t move. Finally the captain announced there was an electrical problem. Engineers were working hard to fix it, but it meant our plane would sit at the gate for the next few hours—with all of us still buckled into our seats.
I, along with most of my fellow passengers, fell asleep in my seat as we waited to take off. Around 2:00 a.m., an announcement woke me up. Is there a doctor on the plane?
As a medical doctor, I love it when this happens. Usually it’s not a real emergency, just something minor, and afterward the crew thanks you and sometimes gives you a gift.
I frantically pushed the call button and proudly announced, I’m a doctor!
I followed a crew member to the plane’s galley, where I saw a passenger lying on the floor having a heart attack. This time it was a real emergency.
Fortunately for me, another doctor had gotten there first and was already crouched at the passenger’s head. Well, looks like you won’t need me,
I said to the crew member. But he urged me to stay, just in case.
What you need to understand is this: As a doctor, there’s nothing you can do to treat a heart attack when you’re stuck on a plane. All you can do is support the patient until the emergency team arrives and evacuates the patient. And if you’re stuck at the feet of the patient, like I was, there’s absolutely nothing you can do.
The other doctor seemed to know what he was doing. He asked for a stethoscope and started listening to the patient’s heart. Then he asked for a blood pressure cuff and took the patient’s blood pressure. Then he asked for the patient’s medication bag and gave the patient some heart medication. Then he asked for an oximeter and used it to measure the patient’s oxygen saturations. He repeated this process over and over while we waited for the emergency team to show up.
After the emergency team arrived and sped the patient off to the nearest emergency room, I went up to the other doctor and said, Well done back there. By the way, what sort of doctor are you?
He looked at me very sheepishly and said, I’m an allergist.
An allergist! Well played. Well played, I thought.
As an orthopedic surgical assistant, I was not much use in a heart attack. But an allergist was even worse equipped than I was. He must have felt even more scared and helpless than I had.
A lot of being a doctor is putting on a brave show when deep down you have no idea what you’re doing. You just know that you’d better do something, and it had better look good. And this is exactly what participating in evangelism feels like today. We want to tell our friends about Jesus. We’re told that we need to tell our friends about Jesus. But we don’t know how to do it. When it comes to evangelism, we are scared and helpless.
This is a unique time for the Christian church in the West. At one time, humanity lived in a pre-Christian world. This was the time of the Roman Empire, before Christianity existed. Then humanity entered the world of Christendom. This was a time when the Christian church and its leaders were part of the ruling elite. Christianity was represented in government, courts of law, and schools. But now, for the first time ever, we are in a post-Christian world.
This is why evangelism is so scary and awkward. The methods of evangelism that worked so well in the past no longer seem effective today. What worked in the age of Christendom seems ineffective in our post-Christian age.
Worse, the culture of our post-Christian age has a negative view of personal evangelism. Our society sees evangelism as offensive, inappropriate, and insensitive.
This leaves us in a difficult dilemma. If we don’t tell our friends about Jesus, we feel like we’re not doing what Jesus wants us to do. But if we try to tell our friends about Jesus, our efforts feel clunky, awkward, and weird. As a result, we rarely evangelize. We’re worried we’ll lose our friends or offend our family members. We don’t want to become that uncle
at the Thanksgiving dinner.
My previous book, Evangelism in a Skeptical World, promised to make the unbelievable news of Jesus more believable.
¹ It acknowledged the challenge of evangelism in our post-Christian world and suggested some fresh ways of doing evangelism. The book must have scratched an itch because way more people bought it than