The Home Group: Heartbeat of AA
By AA Grapevine
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A collection of encouraging writings from Grapevine magazine that illuminate the varied experiences of belonging to an AA group today
The home group is very much the beating heart of the Alcoholics Anonymous experience. In this volume of contributions to Grapevine, members speak about the importance and joys to be found in having a place that their sobriety considers "home."
With contributions from a diverse array of AA members, The Home Group: Heartbeat of AA offers stories about starting and maintaining a local group, the value of referencing conference-approved literature when gathering, as well as inspiring and sometimes humorous personal tales about service, participation and sharing the Twelve Traditions with peers in environments that are warm and welcoming.
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The Home Group - AA Grapevine
AA Preamble
Alcoholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women
who share their experience, strength and hope
with each other that they may solve their common problem
and help others to recover from alcoholism.
The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking.
There are no dues or fees for AA membership;
we are self-supporting through our own contributions.
AA is not allied with any sect, denomination, politics, organization
or institution; does not wish to engage in any controversy,
neither endorses nor opposes any causes.
Our primary purpose is to stay sober
and help other alcoholics to achieve sobriety.
©AA Grapevine, Inc.
Contents
AA Preamble
Preface
Foreword to the Second Edition
SECTION 1
Where Recovery Begins
A Spoke in the Wheel March 1989
Why Have a Home Group? September 1986
The Importance of a Group Membership December 1958
People Make the Program December 1992
Beyond the Generation Gap August 1985
Chill Wind of the Soul July 2003
The Beat Goes On March 1987
The Blizzard of ’82 October 1989
The Weakest Link February 1995
A Beacon in the Dark September 1991
SECTION 2
The Joys of Service
If You Can’t Live or Die, Make Coffee September 1988
Unlocking the Group Conscience February 1992
Chairman of the Group May 1974
Group Secretary July 1980
The Sponsor Broker September 2004
Getting the Red Out April 1982
AA in Cyberspace: Online and Active May 2003
SECTION 3
The Lessons of Experience
Will We Squander Our Inheritance? April 1978
The Rise and Fall of a Home Group October 1987
Keeping the Meeting Alive July 1991
That Old Sinking Feeling March 1990
St. Paul’s Four Discussion Groups December 1945
Little Rock Plan Gives Prospects Close Attention September 1947
The Topic is Change February 2001
Rekindling the Fire August 1992
Meeting in the Middle May 1988
My Ideal Group November 1962
A Light at the End of the Tunnel October 1995
SECTION 4
The Traditions at Work
Psst! Hey, Buddy! October 1985
The Strength We Gained January 1992
Whose Turf Are We On? March 1986
Citizens of the World April 1998
Courage to Change September 1988
Group Inventory: How Are We Doing? July 1952
How Autonomous Can You Be? August 1960
With the Best of Intentions March 1993
The Only Help We Have to Offer May 1990
AA Needs More Than Just Money July 1992
The Beauty of Tradition Ten July 1991
We’ve Made a Decision – Don’t Confuse Us with the Facts! February 1985
Try It Standing Up July 2000
Enjoying Anonymity January 1992
The Twelve Steps
The Twelve Traditions
About AA and AA Grapevine
Preface
The forty-two articles in this book are reprinted from AA Grapevine magazine, the Fellowship’s monthly meeting in print.
Written by AA members out of their own experience, they illuminate the many facets of the AA home group.
When we first began to narrow down a selection of material, we were using as a working title, The Home Group: Key to Unity.
Yet in the process of rereading the articles, the need for a broader concept became clear. The home group is where recovery begins; it is where AA members grow up in sobriety by the time-honored process of trial and error, to discover that they can be loved, warts and all.
It is where they learn to put the needs of others, especially the needs of the group, ahead of their own desires. It is where they first have the opportunity to serve others, and where they learn of opportunities to serve beyond the group. It is where they begin to adopt the guiding principles of Alcoholics Anonymous as working realities in their own sober lives.
Because this book seeks to illuminate the AA group of today with its unique characteristics, strengths, and problems, most of the articles that follow were chosen from Grapevines published in the 1980s and 1990s. The few older articles are those that state timeless principles or that reflect customs and insights from earlier AA times that add a valuable dimension to present-day situations.
— THE EDITORIAL STAFF
Foreword to the Second Edition
Originally created, as one of the founding editors put it, to promote harmony among groups,
AA Grapevine has been a forum where AA members can discover how other groups set up meetings, help newcomers, and make themselves of service to AA at large since 1944. The first edition of this book, published in 1993, continued that tradition, sharing the ups and downs experienced by groups throughout the United States and Canada. It proved so useful that readers asked Grapevine to create a special department on this topic, and The Home Group
debuted in the September 2000 issue. The response was overwhelming, the editors reported. Manuscripts flooded the office from members eager to share their gratitude and affection for their home groups, as well as the wisdom they had gained from their own participation and service as members. The Home Group
has been a much-appreciated department in the magazine ever since.
We are pleased to be able to share eight new stories from that department in this edition of The Home Group to provide an up-to-date portrait of today’s AA groups, along with some of the experience, strength, and hope of groups from the past. We hope you find all the stories here useful and that you will continue to share your own stories and observations in future issues of Grapevine in print or online at www.aagrapevine.org.
SECTION 1
Where Recovery Begins
A Spoke in the Wheel
March 1989
One Tuesday night, a lonely confused woman named Sara
walks through the doors of Alcoholics Anonymous. Sara feels alienated and depressed, feelings she has had most of her life. She is completely demoralized and knows she will never be accepted or feel loved by anyone again. But through all this despair she doesn’t want to die. So cautiously she slips in and sits in the far right chair in the very back row. She doesn’t raise her hand as a newcomer because she is too paranoid. She is too afraid they will see her and know and then she will be rejected one more time. So every Tuesday night she comes back and quietly sneaks into that chair in the back row because she doesn’t want to die and she has no place else to go.
And then one night she is called on and she tries to speak but cries instead. Or maybe one night someone notices her and walks up to her to welcome her. She is given a schedule of meetings and a list of AA phone numbers. She learns she is not alone, but she is still terrified. She learns about establishing a home group and makes the Tuesday night meeting her home group. A woman talks about the things she wants in her life, about how she wants to be and sound and look, and that woman becomes her sponsor.
Now when Sara walks through the door of Alcoholics Anonymous, people come up to her and say, How are you doing, Sara?
and they mean it. She begins to feel the terror leaving. She is coffeemaker and they need her and now she sits in the front row. She is still scared at some other meetings, but now she has one that she can relax in. She feels a part of something for the first time in her life. Sara smiles now and looks over her family with love as she begins the meeting—she is now the secretary. She sees a lonely woman sneak quietly past everyone and sit down in the very last row on the far right-hand chair—she sees herself two years ago. She walks over and tells the woman she is home and can begin to belong now.
A year later Sara is the general service representative (GSR) for the Tuesday night meeting and then becomes district committee member (DCM) and continues to give back what she has received by carrying the message that she heard in her home group on Tuesday nights.
That is why home groups are so very important to Alcoholics Anonymous. This is where people begin. This I where the spark of service work is first ignited. This is where the AA member begins to learn about the how of Alcoholics Anonymous. By selecting a home group, the newcomer begins to feel like he belongs somewhere. He begins to know people and let people know him. He feels safe in this meeting because he knows everyone’s story and where they came from. He gets to watch people come and go, so he can actually see what works and what doesn’t work. He develops close friendships and when the sea gets rough, he has people who can see over the swelling waves.
The home group is where the AA member takes the first tiny step into making the support system of Alcoholics Anonymous work. This may be by just putting one dollar into the basket every week and knowing where it is going, or by washing coffee cups. By going to the same meeting every week, the AA member hears where the money is going, what the central office
is, what a coordinator and a GSR do. This gives him a chance to participate in service work. If he did not have a committed home group where he was allowed to vote on issues in AA, he might never listen to anything the GSR or coordinator says to the group. Hence, by getting a home group, the AA member accepts the responsibility of participating in the whole system, thereby keeping the wheels of Alcoholics Anonymous rolling.
Home groups become the spokes in the big wheel of Alcoholics Anonymous. The wheel, according to the Seventh Tradition, cannot be moved by any outside contributions. Because each group is responsible to all AA services, this wheel can roll along and touch those Lone members who do not have the luxury of an AA meeting with coffee, donuts, hugs, and people sharing their experience, strength, and hope. It can rumble along and carry literature and experience, strength, and hope to institutions, treatment facilities, new groups, and all AA groups.
Through home groups contributing to all AA services, Alcoholics Anonymous will continue to touch more and more families, men, and women each year. Because of this kind of support in your home groups, one Tuesday night a lonely alcoholic will not walk up the stairs to Alcoholics Anonymous and find the door barred shut. One day more and more Saras will come tiptoeing through the doors of Alcoholics Anonymous and get on that giant wheel that keeps so many of us clean and sober and free.
G.H., San Diego, California
Why Have a Home Group?
September 1986
In a recent letter to a member of the Fellowship, a member of the General Service Office staff referred to the home group as the heartbeat of AA. That made a big impression on me, and I believe that just as surely as we are aware of, sensitive to, and in need of our own heartbeat, each of us needs a home group.
It all began in the home group, didn’t it? Not all of us readily identified that mysterious group of people who were trying to help