Science and Lust
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In twelve lively essays by award-winning science journalist Rebecca Coffey, SCIENCE & LUST answers questions you never thought to ask.
How did kissing and romantic love evolve in humans? What do rats in polyester pants have to do with human sexuality? Are the wives of tall men really happier? Why do women prefer men in (or near) red? W
Rebecca Coffey
Rebecca Coffey has contributed science journalism to Scientific American, Discover, Forbes, Salon, The New York Daily News, The Chicago Tribune, The Seattle Times, JSTOR Daily, Dame, Psychology Today, Vermont Public Radio, and the Genetic Literacy Project. She has appeared on syndicated talk shows like WNYC's The Takeaway, WAMC's 51 Percent, Fox News' Happening Now, The Bob Edwards Show, The Jim Bohannon Show, The Stephanie Miller Show, NPR's Air Talk with Larry Mantle, and on major-market programs produced by NPR affiliates in New York, Boston, Hartford, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Albany, and Indianapolis. She speaks at colleges and universities and at conferences, and she was an invited speaker at the 50th Congress of the International Psychoanalytic Association in Buenos Aires. This is her sixth book.
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Science and Lust - Rebecca Coffey
CONTENTS
Do Pygmy Chimps Dream of Electric Lips?
The Naked Truth about the Wives of Tall Men
Men in Red
The Human Ape
The Erotic Analysis of Anna Freud by Her Father, Sigmund
Sexual Strategies of the Female Narcissist
The Gift that Keeps You Giving
Improve Your Sex Appeal
Some Like It Too Hot
Why Some Men Cheat
One Country’s Porn is Another’s Pablum
Was It Good for You, Too?
About the Author
Do Pygmy Chimps Dream
of Electric Lips?
Maybe you’ve already heard.
In the fall of 2016 a 1993 study about rats wearing polyester won one of Harvard University’s Ig Noble prizes, awarded to bona fide scientific achievements that first make people laugh, and then make them think.
Ahmed Shafik had dressed 75 male rats in different types of pants. Some pants were polyester. Some were a polyester-cotton blend. Some were cotton. Some were wool. The rats had to wear the pants for 12 months. During the course of that year, the rats wearing polyester had far less sex than the other rats. Shafik speculated that the electrostatic potentials of their polyester pants generated electrostatic fields that reduced the sex drives of those rats.
And he may have been right. But something else might have accounted for at least some—and maybe even all—of the reduced sexual activity.
Could it be that no female rat of discernment wants to have sex with a guy wearing polyester? Rather than showing an effect on sex drives of electrostatic fields, did the Shafik study reveal a cultural impediment to intimacy in rats? In rat society, is polyester passé?
And, if cultural differences can ruin a rat’s intimate life, can it also lay waste to a human’s?
Look First to Freud
In his 1930 treatise Civilization and its Discontents, Sigmund Freud claimed that humans need help keeping innate, beastly impulses at bay. He thought humans are more individualistic than communally minded, and he said that their selfish, instinctive urges toward pleasure create psychological trouble when they bump up against civilization’s demand for conformity. Freud believed that men and women are hardwired to be as self-centered and destructive as the great apes are, and that it is civilization that forces them to live cooperatively.
That point of view pretty much prevailed until the late 1960s when British zoologist Desmond Morris suggested that Freud might be wrong about humans—and about all great apes. Morris thought that humans aren’t self-centered and destructive by heritage because the great apes aren’t self-centered and destructive. Like Freud, who was somewhat of a genius at catching headlines, Morris was a great front man for his own ideas. He wrote The Naked Ape, which in 1969 was published to much acclaim. In it and in interviews that were part of his book tour he made just enough surprising observations and speculations to—well, to sell 23 million copies. Here are two such observations and speculations.
Observation: Women evolved larger breasts and plumper hips than are typical of non-human primate females. Speculation: Walking upright meant that their swollen, red labia were no longer in men’s face
so to speak. Breasts and buttocks evolved to serve as attractants.
Observation: Relative to body size, men have the biggest penises of all primates. Speculation: This, too, is a direct result of erect posture. Once everyone was standing up and frankly assessing each other, men, like women, needed an attractant.
Unlike Freud, who thought that humans’ bestial heritage is a problem that needs reigning in, Morris proclaimed that humans’ heritage helped both humans and their primate ancestors thrive. Yes, it may have been six million years ago that the human line separated from that of its primate cousins. But at least around 44 million years of primate hardwiring predated that split. Biologically and neurologically, modern humans are much more animal than human. We may be animal culturally, as well. Great apes today live cooperatively in small, isolated tribes that are governed by the tribes’ rigid social hierarchies. Which is to say, even great apes have a civilization, and probably they did long ago.
Seen through this lens, civilization is not, as Freud thought, a recent invention that prevents humans from acting out their most base impulses. Rather it’s an expression and refinement of our early animal culture that, even today, helps us be our best animal selves.
Rather convincingly, Morris argues that the difference between tribal homo sapiens sapiens and today’s homo sapiens sapiens is merely that there are now about 200,000 – 300,000 times more people per square inch than there were way back when. (Actually, he said 100,000 times more,
but Earth has become far more populated since 1969.) According to Morris, crowding, not human nature, is the primary problem disrupting modern behavior. Morris likens the crazy behaviors of some of today’s