Break Free to Break Through - Shit Happens In Life; Your Happiness Is Your Responsibility

By Inspiring Jatin

Everyone may find their story in this book and remind them that shit happens in life, and that this is just the pattern life follows. It was not their fault in whatever happened with them. Even if they don't find their story in this book, they might be able to relate to some of the incidents from their life that are holding them back. The book s

• Language: English
• Publisher: Blue Rose Publishers
• Release date: Sep 27, 2020
• ISBN: 9789390432264

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BREAK FREE

TO

BREAK THROUGH

SHIT HAPPENS IN LIFE YOUR HAPPINESS IS YOUR RESPONSIBLITY

A UNIQUE GUIDE TO OVERCOME YOUR DARK MEMORIES AND ACHIEVE SUCCESS

INSPIRING JATIN

© Inspiring Jatin 2020

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All rights reserved by author. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise, without the prior permission of the author.

Although every precaution has been taken to verify the accuracy of the information contained herein, the author and publisher assume no responsibility for any errors or omissions. No liability is assumed for damages that may result from the use of information contained within.

First Published in August 2020

ISBN: 978-93-90380-27-5

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Cover Design:

Inspiring Jatin and Anu Krishna

Typographic Design:

Inspiring Jatin and Namrata Saini

Editor:

Neelima Sharma

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Contents

Foreword

Introduction

1 The Lollipop Game

2 Besharam Besharam!

3 Why Me?

4 She Dumped Me

5 New Addresses, New Stories

6 Trip to the Minar

7 It Bruised More Than Just the Body

8 I Loved Her!

9 That Single Knock on the Door

10 Lonely Walks

Take Responsibility for your Life

Special Note by the Editor

Afterword

About Life Coaching

Acknowledgements

About the Editor

Dedication

This book is dedicated to the three most important people in my life.

My late father for being a humble human being and being obsessed with my well-being.

My mom for all the love, care, motivation and being the anchor of my life. Your statement - Agar ache din nahi rahe toh bure din bhi nahi rahenge (If the good times are transient, the bad ones too shall pass) always kept me going in life and made me what I am today!

Third is the first and last love of my life, also a bundle of my joy, motivation and the only one who means the world to me, my son Girik J Gupta.

About the Author

Jatin Gupta is a certified Life Coach, expert in Clarity and Self Growth Coaching, an Author, NSQF Level 5 Trainer (TVET) certified by MEPSC, Government of India, Corporate Trainer certified by Dale Carnegie on delivery techniques, and a Speaker. Google shows his brand in Best Life Coach in India category.

For many years, Jatin lived an incomplete and unfulfilled life. His hard work, resilience, enthusiasm, and conviction brought him a long way. However, his past and limiting beliefs blocked his growth in various areas of life. His self-experience and observations of the depth of pain and problems that people go through in their daily lives, motivated him to contribute to many lives as Inspiring Jatin.

Now, he works with young folks who may be unaware of their vision in life, are not enjoying their current work/business, and are struggling to overcome negative emotions from the past that are holding them back from success. Such people find themselves unable to make the right decisions and are struggling with marriage and other relationships.

Jatin has 14+ years of experience working with Fortune 500 companies. Since 2010, he has trained and coached over 5000 people and helped break through the obstacles that were holding them back in life. After having touched so many lives with his coaching sessions and earning the title of Inspiring Jatin, his mission is to impact more than 1 million lives in the next five years. His vision is to equip as many lives as possible, with the tools and techniques to exert the power of choice over whatever life may throw at you.

He loves to dance, listen to music, and spend time with his son. The purpose of his life is to make an impact on many more lives and be known for his work.

You can stay connected with him on his social media handles:

To know more, you may visit www.inspiringjatin.com

About the book

There is a famous saying, Forget the past if it is hurtful. You must be familiar with this phrase as either your friends, family, or teachers might have said this to you at some point in life. What we may have not realised is that human beings are meaning-making machines. As children, we often experience events or see things that define what you believe about the world and form our belief system. One might forget the past; however, the meanings those incidents create in our growing age lead to a deep dent in adulthood. It may be indicated by difficulties in emotional regulation, consciousness, and memory, self-perception, distorted perceptions of the perpetrators of abuse, problems in relationships with other people, and adverse effects on the meaningfulness of life.

This is what happened to one of my clients from my coaching programme. Kabir grew up in a dysfunctional family and had a troubled childhood that not only took away the innocence of his growing up years, but also contributed to his adulthood failures. As he grew older, he struggled to maintain relationships with friends, love partners, peers, and superiors & felt a sense of incompleteness in the relationship with his parents. He was stuck in his career with no goal in life and was going through trouble in his marriage. Kabir was living a life full of frustration, incompleteness, and unhappiness.

There is a famous metaphor: If one is caught in the heavy rain, it’s nearly impossible to stay dry. Similarly, it is hard not to get caught up in the challenges and negative situations of the world. No one had ever guaranteed that life would be hunky-dory; however, Pain or Gain is a personal choice. Allanah Hunt rightly said that ‘It is only when you take responsibility for your life that you discover how powerful you truly are.’

Kabir realised that there was something missing in his life, and he needed help to find the purpose of his life. The first step towards happiness is taking responsibility for it and reaching out to someone when you need help. While listening to his childhood stories, I could relate them with a few of my childhood memories, particularly, the similarity of circumstances of our fathers’ demise. I realised that what Kabir & I had experienced in our individual lives was not rare. The pain that Kabir and so many of you must be living with made me decide to write this book and help you to overcome the dark childhood that is holding you back in many areas of your life. I must share that I re-lived a few moments that took me into my lower emotional state and, in fact, broke me down many times during the journey of writing this manuscript.

This book shall unfold the significant incidents from Kabir’s childhood, like- sexual abuse, bullying, poor academic performance, etc. that shaped his personality and formed his belief system. It will take you through the journey of a childhood where one incident led to the other and caused disruption throughout his toddlerhood and after that.

What to expect from the book?

Everyone: You may find your story in this book and remind you that shit happens in life, and that this is just the pattern life follows. It was not your fault in whatever happened with you. Even if you don’t find your story in this book, you might be able to relate to some of the incidents from your life that are holding you back. The book shall guide you on releasing any pain, guilt, or discomfort you might be carrying from your childhood. It will nudge you to take responsibility for overcoming your limiting beliefs; to evoke self-belief and achieve massive success in all areas of life.

Parents, To-be Parents, Guardians, Teachers: This book should act as an alert manual for you and awaken the much-needed consciousness in your respective role. It shall navigate you on how to control the probable damages that a lousy childhood could cause and prepare the children to score high in the most critical subject, called life. Your role has a massive responsibility in saving probable damages to many lives. You can help raise happy human beings, loving spouses, and conscious parents, which is way beyond the cliché of scoring high in academic subjects.

Note:

• To be sensitive toward the secrets I am about to share, I have changed the name of the client and other characters in the story, along with the names of places.

• I have done my best to pen down the feelings in every chapter the way Kabir expressed during his coaching sessions.

• Though the clients do not have to share their past incidents in such detail, it was Kabir’s choice to do so.

Rick Warren so wisely said, We are products of our past, but we don’t have to be prisoners of it. With this thought, let us begin the journey of breaking free from the dark memories that imprisoned us and take ownership to transform our lives.

Foreword

By the Editor

What a