How to Build Self Confidence
By Kay Joyce
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Think of self-confidence as a muscle you can build and strengthen so you can do more than ever before. If you went out today and tried to run a marathon, you would struggle to achieve your goal, but if you exercised and built up your muscles, you could grow stronger and run further each day.
Just like your muscles, self-confidence is best built through a range of exercises and strategies. This book guides you through different aspects of self-confidence so you can develop your own confidence on a strong foundation. We give you tips to boost your self-confidence and ideas to figure out what elements of your life might be undermining your natural confidence.
At the end of each chapter, we have included workbook exercises so you can brainstorm the ideas we have presented in order to create your own individual strategies for building and maintaining self-confidence.
Readers are invited to work through these exercises for a more confident life.
Kay Joyce
K J Eller is the author of How to Build Self-Confidence. She is a lady that has a great passion for trying to inspire people as she has struggled for many years with lack of self-confidence as a youth. She and her brother were placed into a children’s home as their mother did not have the support from her family during the 1950s until she was able to get them both back during their teens. Now that she has reached her sixtieth decade and retired, she has taken the opportunity to put all her thoughts and favourite inspiring quotes that have inspired her so that other young and older people can be encouraged that it is OK to doubt yourself, but have some valuable strategies to move forward with their lives and achieve a great and fabulous life. Her philosophy for her next decades are what can she achieve for the next thirty years as her family live long lives and have more in her “in” basket when it is her time to leave this life. To that end, she is an artist and loves to sketch portraits; digitises images for embroidery machines, this includes some of her own sketches; learning on-line marketing for many projects; and working on some other books. She currently lives near the Port Stephens area in Australia.
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How to Build Self Confidence - Kay Joyce
Copyright © 2014 by Kay Joyce.
ISBN: eBook 978-1-4990-2719-8
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CONTENTS
Introduction
Self confidence is a muscle
Exercise 1. Establishing your sense of self
Who are you?
Shaping an identity from childhood
Developing an independent identity
Making peace with the past
The value of time alone
Three magic words: I don’t agree
Workbook exercise: Who am I?
Exercise 2. Keep your inner voice positive and practical
Listen to the underlying message
The five inner voices
Achieving Self-Reliance
Tools to keep your inner voice positive
A personal mantra
Maintain your health
Workbook Exercise: Monitoring your inner voice
Exercise 3. De-clutter your life
Declutter your belongings
Beautiful, useful and gone
Be generous
Everything in its place
Simplify your life
Declutter your mind
Three meals a day
Use your wall calendar
Learn to say no
and please
Be responsive
Workbook Exercise
Exercise 4. Reach your goals and achieve your dreams
Set realistic goals
Publicize your goal
Set a time limit
Learn from your experience
Targets and goals
Defining a target
Keep goals manageable
Workbook Exercise
Exercise 5. Choose your friends wisely
The elements of a true friendship
You are relaxed together
You are both free to be honest
You have time for each other
Making new friends
Pursue your interests
Accept invitations
Respect different views
Demonstrate a genuine interest in others
Maintain your friendships
Diversify your friendships
Initiate get-togethers
Embrace Social Media
Am I interested in their holidays?
Do I want to see photos of their children?
Do they make me feel left out?
Breaking with bad
friends
Repairing a bad friendship
Be polite and to the point
Listen to criticism
Walk away and breathe
Learn to love alone
time
Ending a friendship
Workshop Exercise
Exercise 6. Nurture your sense of pride
Take pride in your character
Reputation vs Character
How will this affect others?
Master your skills
Work to improve
Finish what you start
Present yourself proudly
Develop your individual clothes sense
Hair, teeth and nails
Keep some trophies
Work portfolio
Photo album
Promote yourself without boasting
Check your timing
Keep me
out of it
Don’t make empty claims
Show respect and expect respect
Listen more than you speak
Remember simple courtesies
Workbook exercise
Exercise 7. Be at peace
See peacefulness as a positive force
Avoid unnecessary arguments
Cherish quiet times
Take pleasure in nature
Read poetry
Consciously relax
Hot water
Meditate
Laugh
Workbook Exercise
Conclusion
INTRODUCTION
Self confidence is a muscle
Think of self confidence as a muscle you can build and strengthen, so you can do more than ever before. If you went out today and tried to run a marathon you would struggle to achieve your goal, but if you exercised and built up your muscles, you could grow stronger and run further each day.
Just like your muscles, self confidence is best built through a range of exercises and strategies. This book guides you through different aspects of self-confidence so you can develop your own confidence on a strong foundation. We give you tips to boost your self confidence, and ideas to figure out what elements of your life might be undermining your natural confidence.
At the end of each chapter, we have included workbook exercises so you can brainstorm the ideas we have presented, in order to create your own individual strategies for building and maintaining self-confidence.
You will need a notebook to use as a journal so you can brainstorm your ideas as well as plan your strategies over the long term.
Good luck!
EXERCISE 1
Establishing your sense of self
Self confidence is your confidence in yourself, so first of all you need a strong image of yourself to focus on.
When you aim to meet a goal you need a clear focus to understand what you are working on. Your goal here is to have confidence in yourself. So who are you? What are you capable of? What makes you happy? What are your personal beliefs?
Who are you?
Before you start building your self confidence, let’s take a closer look at who you are, so you have a context for your confidence.
Complete the workbook exercise, Who am I? Remember nobody else is going to read your answers, so you are free to be completely honest, without any concern for someone else’s opinion. This exercise is designed to give