Lords Hill: A Place Only God Could Save Me From: Based on a True Story
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Ms. Miller does not spare the reader the heartbreaking details of her experiences, yet there is not a shred of self-pity in her book. This book is humbly and clearly written. There are no long, psychologically complicated explanations, just the facts as she remembers them and her reflections as an adult on a childhood that can only be described as pure torment. Its amazing that she survived her past, not only in the sense that she didnt die physically, but in the sense that she overcame her addiction and emotional blindness caused by years of trauma to the point where she can tell her story. Although there are scores of adult survivors of child abuse, there are few first person accounts of child abuse like this unique book. Ms. Miller has provided such an account. Her book, the result of decades of hard work and therapy and her own ongoing self-scrutiny, is a gift to us all.
--Aphrodite Matsakis Ph.D.
Maggie Miller is a woman of amazing strength, courage, persistence, and generosity. While most people would be overwhelmed or bitter after repeated assaults on their mind, body, and emotions, she has responded with love, caring, resilience, and amazing generosity to others. Her struggle and survival should be an inspiration to all.
--Dr. Robert J. Mathes M.D
Maggie Miller
Herman el flamingo bebé nació con plumas grises. Él tenía curiosidad por qué él no veía como su familia. Entóces, Herman poné en marcha a preguntar a sus amigos en la selva amazónica par ayudarle a encontrar el color correcto. Herman cambió muchos diferentes colores hasta que finalmente encontró el color correcto.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I received a copy to facilitate my review. The opinions expressed here are my own.We all have problems. It is how we look at and handle those problems that shape us into the person that we are. Maggie Miller lived a life filled with abuse, fear and abandonment. She lived in survival mode most of her life. Maggie kept searching for someone to help her with her problems only to find more of the same. Many in her life truly loved her, but were stuck in the same patterns she was stuck in. She searched for and found God and a few wonderful people to help guide her. One thing that I had to really think about was forgiveness. I thought about my first marriage. I realized that even though I’ve been remarried for almost twenty-four years, as I would talk about things that happened in my first marriage I would become almost as angry as I was before. I had to ask if I had truly forgiven or just paid it lip service. There are lessons to be learned from this wonderful woman. She is not just telling her story. She is giving all of us hope no matter what our journey is. This is one of those books you want to pass along and have them pass along. You never know who it will help.
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Lords Hill - Maggie Miller
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ISBN: 978-1-4908-5280-5 (sc)
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WestBow Press rev. date: 12/4/2014
Contents
Foreword
Dedication
Introduction
1 The Double-Edged Sword: Rescuing And Lashing Out
2 The Roots Of Unhappiness
3 Martyrs, Tyrants, And Withering Vines
4 School Days Filled With Humiliation And Shame
5 Confusion, Chaos, And Fear Reign
6 Like The Flip Of A Switch
7 My Search For Light Resumed
Dr. Aphrodite Matsakis has authored over twelve books on an array of psychological topics, including post-traumatic stress, depression, women’s issues, grieving, survivors of sexual and physical assault, suicide, family violence, vehicular accidents, combat trauma, and natural disasters.
Foreword
By; Aphrodite Matsakis Ph.D.
For centuries child abuse and other forms of family violence were shrouded in denial. Even in our own country, laws against animal cruelty existed before laws against child abuse. In the 1960’s the silence began to be broken and today the problem of child abuse is widely recognized. However, to date, the emphasis has been primarily on child sexual abuse and, after that, on physical abuse. Yet the effects of other forms of abuse, such as emotional abuse and neglect, which are just as devastating to the human psyche, are often minimized, if not overlooked.
Hence the importance of this book, written by a woman who experienced almost every form of child abuse, from abandonment and physical abuse, to extreme forms of emotional abuse. Indeed, the verbal degradation she endured assumed almost gigantic proportions because it occurred in the context of a multigenerational chain of family violence and addiction, as well as in the context of a small town. Hence her family’s problems became the object of vicious gossip and Ms. Miller was subject to ridicule and bullying, not only at home, but at school, the village store and almost everywhere she went in her community.
In this compelling account, Ms. Miller describes how she, a motherless child abandoned by her father, subsequently became subject to multiple forms of mistreatment, not only from her primary caretaker, but other relatives, some of whom were also abused as children or who suffered from an addiction or mental illness. She touches on areas of child abuse, such as emotional manipulation and exposure to adult sexuality and sexual depravity, which need to be recognized.
Ms. Miller does not spare the reader some of the heartbreaking details of her experiences, yet there is not a shred of self-pity in her book. Instead she describes her abusers in their full human complexity, their good sides as well as their bad sides, often showing compassion and understanding as to why these people, like her unforgettable Nana and adulterous Aunt Charlotte, sought to cope with life by taking advantage of and disregarding the basic needs of an innocent child.
Yet, despite Ms. Miller’s insights into the origins of her perpetrators’ abusiveness and self-destructiveness, she is more than honest about how these individual’s damaged almost every aspect of her being, thus propelling her into years of addiction and other self-destructive behavior.
This book is humbly and clearly written. There are no long psychological complicated explanations, just the facts as she remembers them and her reflections as an adult on a childhood that can only be described as pure torment.
It’s amazing that she survived her past, not only in the sense that she didn’t die physically, but in the sense that she overcame her addiction and the emotional blindness caused by years of trauma to the point where she could tell her story. Given the continuous nature of the traumas she endured and the fact she had to contend with not just one, but many, perpetrators, this is a monumental achievement. It’s also noteworthy that she’s grateful for what she did receive from some of her abusers, which has enabled her to survive.
Although there are scores of adult survivors of child abuse, there are few first person accounts of child abuse like this unique book. Many survivors remain in denial, addiction or other forms of escape, and are hence incapable of remembering their past, much less putting their past on paper in a coherent manner that can serve to enlighten others. But Ms. Miller has done so and her book, the result of decades of hard work and therapy and her own ongoing self-scrutiny, is a gift to us all.
*Some of Dr. Matsakis’ books include; "I Can’t Get Over It, Survivor Guilt, In Harm’s Way, Vietnam Wives, Trust after Trauma, Emotional Claustrophobia, Back from the Front and Rape Recovery Handbook. New Harbinger Publications, Inc. www.matsakis.com
Dedication
First and foremost I want to thank my Heavenly Father for His Son, my Savior Jesus, and for His patience with me through many years of recovery.
Dr. Thomas Lynch, my psychologist, mentor, and friend, we lost unexpectedly in January 2011. His desire for me to write my memoir was at times even greater than mine. Thank you for all the faith you had in me and for the hope and healing you blessed my life with. The completion of this book is bittersweet for I know how illuminated your face and eager your eyes would have been to see its completion. God bless you, I loved you, my trusted friend and doctor.
Dr. Robert J. Mathes, there are no words or sentiments deep enough to express my gratitude, respect and love for you as a great physician and friend. Your testimony of the man and doctor that you are will resonate in the hearts of your patients and their families long after you’re gone. I feel blessed and favored by God to have been one of them.
Dr. Aphrodite Matsakis, this memoir could have been written had it not been for your brilliant work with PTSD (Post - traumatic stress disorder). In 2004 when I found you, I was a walking landmine burdened with unpredictable triggers that would send me reeling out of control. You not only gave me an identity that I had searched for my whole life, but also the healing and recovery I needed to have in my life. My affection for you will be deep and abiding the remainder of my days here on earth.
My husband, Michael, you are an angel sent straight from God. You have been my truest friend. The blessing that you are to me far outweighs any pain that has ever pierced my heart. I love you.
My girls, Marion and Elizabeth, I thank God for the gift of a precious and deep love unlike any I’ve ever known, the day(s) you were born. You’ve given my life more meaning and reason for healing than you may ever know. You have helped me to grow and learn humility. It is my prayer before I leave this life that you will know I’ve had the truest love in my heart for you.
June Y., Barbara M., Charlie C., Marion B., Earl T., Blanche V., Carl T., Katherine G., Donna Mc A., Doris A., D. Farina, and Pastor Lindsay you know who are. My life has been richer in love, friendship and growth because you cared, and shared so much of yourselves with me.
Introduction
For many years I’ve had a volcanic rumbling deep in my soul that would not be silenced. I knew that some way somehow, I needed to tell my story about the good and the bad that can come with living in a small New England town. Sadly, New England does not have a corner on the market when it comes to dysfunction. The multigenerational fallout that comes from child abuse, alcoholism, and adultery is universal and takes place the world over. It just so happens that my story took place in a little town I’ve called Lords Hill, located in the Lakes Region on the Maine and New Hampshire border. Our family settled in the area in the mid-1700s, long enough ago to just about get us under the wire to be considered natives. There is an old story that demonstrates a New Englander’s mindset about being a native.