My Husband's a Pastor Lord Help!: A Spiritual Guide for Pastors’ Wives

By Starr Neal

The thoughts that appear in this book are the opinions and personal observations of the writer only. No statistics have been sourced to validate any of the statements, except for the words from the Bible and the specific footnoted items.

The book is written to encourage and strengthen the wives of pastors everywhere. It is a reminder to us all that the battle is not oursits the Lords. Being in ministry is not easy, but with Gods help, all things are possible. In this book, there are topics about the pastors wife, her role, her abilities, her influence, and her value. It continues by highlighting how the pastors wife is perceived in the eyes of others, and more importantly, it shows how God sees her.

This book will reveal the heart of the pastor-husbands and why they have such a passion for the work they do as well as why they need their wives to be by their side. It will also give insight into the emotions and feelings of pastors wives and why they do what they do.

This book can be used as a weapon or a tooldepending on how you use it. As you read, you will notice the use of scriptures throughout the work. These words of God will add a biblical perspective to the thoughts and observations discussed in these pages.

The scenarios that are highlighted in the book are presented as reference points by which to gauge your own situations.

A list of most of the embedded scriptures appears as a separate page in the book for your use as a reference guide.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Aug 30, 2013
• ISBN: 9781483675978

Starr Neal

Starr Neal has been married to her pastor-husband for over forty-five years and has been by his side in ministry for more than thirty years. Together, they pastor a church in San Jose, California, that has a very culturally diverse congregation. They have three adult children and four grandchildren. Starr is a writer not only of books but of songs, poetry, and other inspirational words as well. She is also a gospel singer and has written the lyrics and performed several of her own songs, which have been published and recorded on CDs. This book is the second one that Starr has written. The first one is titled Sunday Morning Words of Inspiration under Rose Dog Books, a division of Dorrance Publishing. Starr has been called upon many times to speak to various women’s groups and at other church events on the subject of being a godly woman. Starr will be the first to tell you that even though she has many years of experience being the wife of a pastor, she is still learning. She is a pastor’s wife extraordinaire!

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MY HUSBAND’S A PASTOR

LORD HELP!

A Spiritual Guide for Pastors’

Wives

Written by Starr Neal

Copyright © 2013 by Starr Neal.

Library of Congress Control Number:   2013913601

ISBN:      Hardcover      978-1-4836-7596-1

               Softcover       978-1-4836-7595-4

               Ebook             978-1-4836-7597-8

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the copyright owner.

Rev. date: 08/23/2013

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CONTENTS

Dedication

About the Book

Commentary

Chapter 1   A Pastor’s Wife

Chapter 2   The Wise Wife of a Pastor

Chapter 3   The Pastor’s Wife Is a Role Model

Chapter 4   The Job of the Pastor’s Wife

Chapter 5   You Don’t Know Like I Know

Chapter 6   Pastors’ Wives Must Endure

Chapter 7   Can We Talk? The Art of Talking to Our Husbands

Chapter 8   God Uses Those Who Are Willing to Be Used

Chapter 9   Pastors’ Wives Should Also Be Honored

Chapter 10   There Will Be Challenges

Chapter 11   Communication Is Essential

Chapter 12   Don’t Allow Your Feelings and Emotions to Rule

Chapter 13   There’s a Battle Brewing

Chapter 14   Stop Struggling—Go with It!

Chapter 15   What’s the Attraction?

Chapter 16   The Influential Wife of a Pastor Do Not Tear Up the Church!

Chapter 17   What to Do about Flirtatious Women in Church

Chapter 18   What to Do about Flirtatious Men in Church

Chapter 19   Don’t Depend on Others for Encouragement

Chapter 20   How to Discern Deceptive Spirits

Chapter 21   Don’t Quit on Your Husband—Help Him!

Chapter 22   The Pastor-Husband Has Needs Too!

Chapter 23   Not All Pastors Are Alike

Chapter 24   Counseling Others

Chapter 25   Home Visits

Conclusion

My Prayer

Acknowledgments

Scriptures for Additional Reflections

The Credits

Endnotes

DEDICATION

This book is dedicated to all the women of God who stand in the position of a pastor’s wife. To all those women who uphold their husbands every step of the way in their ministries, I say to you, Hang in there!

I also dedicate this book to my sister-in-law, Beverly who, as a new pastor’s wife, motivated me to move forward in writing this book so that she could have a guide to which she could refer as she encountered different issues in the ministry with her husband.

Finally, I dedicate this book to my pastor-husband, Isaac, who allowed me the time and space to write about this, sometimes, touchy subject.

ABOUT THE BOOK

The thoughts that appear in this book are the opinions and personal observations of the writer only. No statistics have been sourced to validate any of the statements, except for the words from the Bible and the specific footnoted items.

The book is written to encourage and strengthen the wives of pastors everywhere. It is a reminder to us