Passion Before Prudence: Commitment Is the Mother of Meaning
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The premise of this little volume is that life is meant for meaning, and that meaning is found only through the commitments we make to those self-transcending goals and values which are true to our nature and talents as distinctive human beings.
Richard M. Gray
A former creative director for N.W. Ayer & Son, Inc., a national advertising agency, Richard M. Gray is a Phi Beta Kappa graduate of Bucknell University. He holds a master of divinity degree summa cum laude from San Francisco Theological Seminary and a PhD degree from the University of California, Berkeley. The founder of two schools, World College West and Presidio Graduate School, he was married for seventy years to Catherine Hammond Gray until she died in 2013. He has two daughters and three grandchildren and lives in Greenbrae, California, a suburb of San Francisco.
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Passion Before Prudence - Richard M. Gray
Copyright © 2014 Richard M. Gray.
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WestBow Press rev. date: 7/21/2014
Contents
The Twin Paths Of Commitment
Modes Of Commitment
Trust Is The Ultimate Commitment
Faith And Trust: The Distinction
The Psychological Battle Within
Commitments That Generate Meaning
The First Commitment: To Love
The Second Commitment: To Work
The Unavoidable Commitment: To Find A Path Through Suffering
The Curious Dynamics Of Commitment
Obstacles And Aids To Commitment
The Two Realms Of Commitment
Commitments Are Contagious
The Timing Of Commitments
Life As A Chain Of Commitments
The Journey From Achieving To Believing
For Catherine, my loving wife of 70 years, from her twenties to her nineties, and my life-long companion in commitment
1.jpgI n the 1800’s, when Danish existentialist Soren Kierkegaard was a young man, he wrote in his journal: "What I really lack is to be clear in my mind what I am to do. The thing is to understand myself, to see what God really wishes me to do; the thing is to find a truth which is true for me, to find the idea for which I can live and die. "
We all need a purpose in life. Life without purpose is empty. Looking back over the years, it seems to me that much of my life has been a quest for commitments which will give life meaning.
Discovering meaning in our lives is more than an intellectual exercise. Since we have progressed (or regressed) as a culture from the benefits of meanings which are shared with others to the necessity of finding meaning on our own, its discovery has become a singular challenge.
Based on Husserl’s definition of meaning as an intention of the mind, author Rollo May found the roots of meaning in intentionality,
which he described as the capacity to have intentions and which he believed underlies both our conscious and unconscious intentions. Intentionality,
wrote May, is the structure which gives meaning to experience.
He believed further that every intention is a stretching toward something.
I concur. While animals have instincts, humans have intentions, and it’s around those intentions that we organize our lives.
The doctor of meaning
in our times was psychologist Viktor Frankl, founder of logotherapy (or meaning therapy). In his landmark work with holocaust survivors, Frankl concluded that we are dominated not by the will to pleasure (as Sigmund Freud posited) nor by the will to power (as Alfred Adler contended) but by the will to meaning.
In his study of holocaust survivors, Frankl found, as Nietsche wrote, that we can endure almost any how if we have a why.
Meaning, in short, is what we live for. And meaning is what we may be willing to die for.
Maurice Merleau-Ponty wrote that because we are present to a world, we are condemned to meaning.
Huston Smith chose that phrase for the title of his provocative book, Condemned to Meaning.
Can one