Watkins Tapsell’S Guide to Separation and Family Law: Or, Everything You Need to Know Before You Divorce but Are Afraid to Ask
By Matthew Coates, Kristy Durrant and Jamie Roche
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Theres no getting around it: Deciding to get divorced is one of the hardest decisions youll ever make, and going through one is not easy.
But you can make it easier by arming yourself with information, knowing what to expect, and protecting your interests.
Three partners with the Watkins Tapsell law firm answer the questions you have about divorce but are afraid to ask in this guide, and they also share answers to questions you should be asking but havent considered. Find out how to:
identify a support network at the start of the separation process;
notify your partner that the marriage is over;
work out post-separation living arrangements;
tailor a negotiation approach based on your partners emotional status; and
protect yourself if faced with the risk of violence.
The authors also explore what you need to do to ensure you dont lose a jointly-owned home, ways to make divorce easier on children, and how to navigate the complicated emotions that arise when a marriage ends.
Protect yourself and your loved onesphysically, financially, and emotionallywith this essential guide for anyone contemplating or going through a divorce.
Matthew Coates
Matthew Coates is a partner at the law firm Watkins Tapsell and has been pracitising family law in Sydney, Australia, since 1980. He has experienced the difficulties faced by ordinary people as they go through divorce, which inspired him to write this book. He lives in Southern Sydney with his wife and two daughters and enjoys golf, playing guitars, and singing. Kristy Durrant is a partner at Watkins Tapsell and an accredited specialist in family law. She has been practising law since 2004 and is a trained mediator. She formerly was a primary school teacher and worked as a lawyer with the Department of Education. She lives with her husband and three children in Southern Sydney. Jamie Roche is a partner at Watkins Tapsell. He began his law career in 2002 in the United States and is a member of the bar in Massachusetts and New Hampshire. He is now practising law in Australia. Throughout his career, he has practised extensively in family law, and he is an accredited mediator. He lives in Southern Sydney with his wife and two sons.
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ISBN: 978-1-5043-0505-1 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-5043-0506-8 (e)
Balboa Press rev. date: 11/25/2016
Contents
Chapter 1 How Do You Separate?
Chapter Summary
Taking the Leap
Lesson 1: Identify and Open Up to Your Support Network at the Start of the Separation Process
The Importance of Emotional Support
Lesson 2: Start the Process by Notifying Your Former Partner That the Relationship Is Over
What Is a Legal Separation?
Lesson 3: Carefully Work Out Your Post-Separation Living Arrangements with Your Support Network and Financial Advisor
Will You Be Disadvantaged if You Leave Your Home?
If You Stay in the House
If You Leave the House
Lesson 4: Tailor Your Negotiation Approach to Your Former Partner’s Emotional Status
Where Are You, and Where Is Your Former Partner, Situated in the Separation Process?
The Emotional Journey
Your Relative Positions on the Emotional Journey
Adapting Your Approach to Negotiating
Lesson 5: Act Quickly to Protect Yourself if Faced with the Risk of Violence, and Act to Mitigate Your Risk of Being Falsely Accused of Violence
How Do You Deal with Emotional or Physical Violence?
How Do You Respond to False Accusations of Emotional or Physical Violence?
Chapter 2 Starting the Legal Process
Chapter Summary
You Have Taken the Leap. Now What?
Lesson 1: Confirm That Your Relationship Is One That Is Covered by Family Law
Is Your Relationship Covered by Family Law?
Lesson 2: Post-Separation Communication with Your Former Partner Can Be Difficult, but It Is Necessary to Achieve an Optimal Result
Communicating with Your Former Partner
Lesson 3: Carefully Choose a Lawyer to Guide You through a Family Law Dispute
Choosing the Right Lawyer
Lesson 4: Understand Your Legal Entitlements from the Very Beginning of Your Case
What Are You Entitled To?
Taking Advice from Your Former Partner and from Friends
Lesson 5: Take Simple Steps to Minimise Your Own Legal Costs
How to Make Things Easier for Your Lawyer—and Control Your Legal Costs in the Process
How Long Will This Process Take?
Property
Preparation
What Is the Formula for Dividing Property?
Proposing a Resolution
Lesson 6: Be Practical, Conciliatory, and Child-Focussed When Developing a Parenting Plan with Your Former Partner
Parenting
Dispute Resolution Counselling
What Is It?
What if Your Former Partner Won’t Attend Counselling?
What Is the Formula for Working Out Where the Children Live?
Will the Children’s Own Views Be Considered?
Can You Move House with the Children?
What Child Support Will Have to Be Paid?
Is Equal Time
Shared Parenting the Starting Point?
When Will Equal-Time Parenting Work?
What Is Your Parenting Plan?
Reality-Testing Your Parenting Plan
Proposing a Positive Resolution—Constructive Offers
Chapter 3 Negotiating Solutions
Chapter Summary
How Can You Maximise the Prospects of a Successful Negotiation?
Lesson 1: Carefully Choose the Right Lawyer to Assist You with Your Family Law Dispute
Choose a Good Lawyer
Lesson 2: A Willingness to Compromise by Both Parties Is Essential to Resolving Your Dispute by Negotiation
Have a Willingness to Compromise
Adopt a Respectful Approach to Negotiation
Use Positive Language
Lesson 3: In Order to Maximise the Prospects of Successfully Resolving Your Family Law Dispute, You Must Be Very Well-Prepared for the Negotiation Process
Understand the Approach of Your Former Partner, and That of His or Her Lawyer, to Negotiations
Property
Disclosure
Valuations
Parenting
A Clear Parenting Plan
Understanding and Acknowledging the Qualities of Both Parents
Identifying Risk Factors for Children
Lesson 4: Speak to Your Lawyer to Find Out What Alternatives Are Available for Resolving Your Dispute
What Are Your Negotiation Options?
Sorting It Out Yourselves
Mediation
With or without Lawyers?
How Do You Choose a Mediator?
Negotiations between Your Lawyers
Settlement Meetings
Collaborative Law
Arbitration
Chapter 4 Finalising Your Property Agreement
Chapter Summary
Lesson 1: Don’t Rely on a Handshake Deal or a Promise from Your Former Partner. Make Sure You Formalise Your Deal by Way of Court Consent Orders or a Binding Financial Agreement
Why Do You Need to Document Your Financial Agreement?
Guaranteeing Finality and Moving On
Lesson 2: Tell Your Lawyer about Every Aspect of Your Agreement, and Make Sure Everything That You and Your Former Partner Have Agreed to Is Included in the Written Agreement
Risk of Outside Influence
Lesson 3: As Soon as You Reach an Agreement, Reduce the Risk of Losing It by Moving Quickly to Formalise It as Either Court Consent Orders or a Binding Financial Agreement
What Is the Process of Locking In
Your Deal?
Court Consent Orders
Binding Financial Agreements
Lesson 4: Take Advantage of the Tax Relief and Stamp Duty Exemptions Available When You Settle by Way of Court Consent Orders or a Binding Financial Agreement, as This Could Save You Tens of Thousands of Dollars
What about Tax and Stamp Duty?
Lesson 5: Avoid Disputes When You Separate by, at the Beginning of Your Relationship, Entering into a Binding Financial Agreement Setting Out What Will Happen to Your Assets if Your Relationship Ends
Binding Financial Agreements at the Beginning of, or during, Relationships
Chapter 5 The Court Process
Chapter Summary
When Will Court Proceedings Be Necessary?
Lesson 1: Don’t Be Afraid of the Court Process. While Court Should Be a Last Resort, It Can Provide Solutions Where Negotiation Is Bogged Down or Not a Realistic Alternative
How Long Does the Court Process Take?
Stages of the Court Process
Before Commencing Court Action in Parenting Disputes
Before Commencing Court Action in Property Disputes
Commencing Court Action
Interim Disputes
After an Application Has Been Lodged with the Court
The Final Hearing
Lesson 2 You Should Continue Your Attempts to Negotiate a Resolution Even during the Court Process
Opportunities to Resolve along the Way
Lesson 3: Don’t Be Afraid to Use the Court Process to Help You Resolve Your Dispute in a More Efficient Manner
What Is a Barrister, and Do You Need One?
Advantages of the Court Process
Lesson 4: Make Sure You Fully Understand the Potential Cost and Delay Associated with Court Proceedings before You Venture Down That Path
Disadvantages of the Court Process
Chapter 6 Taking a Commercial Approach
Chapter Summary
Lesson 1: Understand What the Commercial Realities Are for You When You Are Negotiating a Family Dispute
What Is a Commercial Approach?
In Relation to Division of Property
In Relation to Parenting
Lesson 2: Find Out the Cost of All Available Options at the Very