The Helper

By Monica Mangidza

It was God’s idea and initiative to create woman. He started marriage because he realized it wasn’t good for man to be alone, so he made a helpmate. He didn’t make a lesser human being, nor did he design a more superior being. He simply made man a helpmate.

In The Helper, author Monica Mangidza dispels the cultural and generational myths that have misinformed and played a fundamental role in creating ungodly marriages and widespread oppression in families. Aimed at teaching women what being a helper is really about, it defines what a helper is and provides insight on how one can be a helper. It outlines the need for a helper, includes advice, and shares the ABC’s of how women can be the helper God designed them to be.

Looking at what the Bible says about the role of wives in everyday life, The Helper clearly distinguishes between godly values and cultural values. It helps you learn, grow, and have the kind of marriages God intended.

• Language: English
• Publisher: WestBow Press
• Release date: May 7, 2019
• ISBN: 9781973658740

Monica Mangidza

Monica Mangidza has been a teacher since 1981 and has been married thirty-four years. She is a mother of four and a grandmother. From her experience in her career, in her marriage, and serving as a deaconess in her local church, Monica took a different view on how one can learn and be inspired through learning from each other’s experiences as one honors the marriage covenant made with God and their spouse.

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Scripture taken from the King James Version of the Bible

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ISBN: 978-1-9736-5875-7 (sc)

ISBN: 978-1-9736-5876-4 (hc)

ISBN: 978-1-9736-5874-0 (e)

Library of Congress Control Number: 2019904048

WestBow Press rev. date: 04/29/2019

Contents

Dedication

Acknowledgments

Introduction

Chapter 1 What Is a Helper?

Chapter 2 Helping Each Other Serve God

Chapter 3 A Practical Woman

Chapter 4 Indirect but Vital Help

Chapter 5 Why a Man Needs Help

Chapter 6 Young, Unmarried Women

Chapter 7 Dos and Don’ts for Every Woman

Chapter 8 Communication Helps

Chapter 9 The ABC’s of a Helper

Conclusion

Have you ever wondered what exactly you are meant to do as a wife? Or maybe you knew it but your marriage isn’t quite that picture-perfect story? In this booklet, Monica pours out her heart and shares some powerful insights on what it is to be a helper. I hope you are encouraged, excited, motivated, and empowered to be that helper God created you to be.

Monica Mangidza

A woman with a desire to teach and empower women of all ages and nations

Dedication

I dedicate this booklet to all women, especially girls. I specifically dedicate this to my only daughter, Nyengeterai, because she is a woman.

I also dedicate this booklet to my niece, Grace, for her unwavering support in the writing and production of this piece.

Acknowledgments

T hough I, Monica Mangidza, wrote this booklet, I acknowledge that I received all this revelation from my pastors and teachers and their inspired words. I have learned at their feet and was drawn to become what I am from the day I was born again on December 24, 1980, in the Family of God church. I am sincerely grateful for their guidance.

I also thank all friends and family who helped and encouraged me. I appreciate their invaluable support.

Introduction

I t is my sincere wish that as you read this, you will begin to want to know more about yourself and will realize the potential God has bestowed on you. You will not just accept what the world thinks a woman is; you will be more critical of issues pertaining to you as a woman because you know yourself best and you follow the principles God laid down for a helper.

Here is a simple example to illustrate the passiveness we women can be subject to. Is the underwear we wear daily the right cut for us? Is the gusset squarely where we want