Become Better: Applying Emotional Intelligence

By Dr. Ann Polya

“Become Better: applying Emotional Intelligence” explains how we can apply Emotional Intelligence in our daily life, in our relationships with others, and in uncertain times of a pandemic and our projected future.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Jun 8, 2021
• ISBN: 9781664174429

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Recommendations for Become Better

Our reliance on Emotional Intelligence skills as outlined in ‘Become Better’ has been critical in my cycling training for Race Across America 2021, for adapting and coping with new challenges. This Race will be an Epic adventure and the skills I’ve learned have been life changing.

-Kathy Petrillo, M. Ed

In her latest book, the author provides a step-by-step guide to building our emotional intelligence and applying its lessons to living our best lives in a rapidly changing technological world. A great read!

- Doug Ramsey, Author, The Corporate Warriors

The Pandemic has shaken our sense of the world around us and how we relate to one another. This latest work by Dr. Polya, ‘Become Better’, is just what we need to help us regain our footing as we enter the new post-pandemic normal.

-Ansis M. Helmanis, Esq.

In a world that changes at an unprecedented rate with more division and disagreement between normal encounters, emotional intelligence is more important than ever to cope with this division. This book is invaluable in increasing the readers perception of their own biases and tendencies so that they may develop a strategy for survival and improvement.

-Brian Berke , CIH, CSP (retired).

Dr. Polya’s book ‘Become Better’ offers a can-do approach and uses actual people as illustrations and suggests examples of how we can modify our Emotional Intelligence to improve our effectiveness.

-Noel Linke Miner, Linke Mediation, Inc.

In a world that has many uncertainties, the author describes how to adapt and cope using our feelings and rational thinking by applying our Emotional Intelligence skills

-Cammi Werling, Licensed Interior Designer, Cammi Werling Designs.

CONTENTS

Acknowledgements

Introduction

PART ONE: BECOME BETTER ME

Preface

Chapter 1     Applying Emotional Intelligence

Summary: Chapter One

Brain Quiz 1

Chapter 2     E.Q. profiles of Three Individuals

Summary: Chapter Two

Brain Quiz 2

Chapter 3     E.Q. and Our Top Wants

Summary: Part One

Brain Quiz 3

PART TWO: BECOME BETTER US

Preface

Chapter 4     E.Q and Our Relationships

Summary: Chapter Four

Brain Quiz 4

Chapter 5     Effective Communication

Summary: Chapter Five

Brain Quiz 5

Chapter 6     E.Q. and Conflict Management

Summary: Chapter Six

Summary: Part Two

Brain Quiz No. 6

PART THREE: BECOME BETTER TOGETHER

Preface

Chapter 7     Social Media and our E.Q.

Summary: Chapter Seven

Brain Quiz No. 7

Chapter 8     Applying E.Q. in Uncertain Times

Summary: Chapter Eight

Brain Quiz 8

Chapter 9     Applying E.Q. and Become Better in the Future.

Summary: Part Three

Brain Quiz 9

CONCLUSIONS

Bibliography

Answers To Quizzes

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"BRAIN FITNESS:

Breakthrough Training for those who Mind".

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Brain Fitness

Brain Fitness improves the way our Brains function so the processing is faster, more accurate and efficient; additionally, it increases our memory power, improves our focus and quality of our lives. For Brain Fitness we need to ensure that we grow new brain cells that are dependent on a chemical reaction, which is induced by certain exercises- physical, mental and social. The most important are the physical ones. We want the change to be positive, and we can do this at any age. Brain Fitness is available to us all.

Published by Xlibris; Indiana, USA. (2012).

"MIND OVER MATTER:

The Power of Emotional Intelligence".

We all have emotions and thoughts, and with Emotional Intelligence we are

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Mind over Matter.

more aware of those feelings, and those others experience, and we can learn to control them, so that we act more authentically. This means we are more socially aware, and we can balance our focus to be more positive and on both ourselves and others; these skills boost our ability to communicate accurately and act with empathy, and have effective relationships.

As we encounter the challenges of life, this book helps us identify our strengths and boost the quality of our lives.

Published by Xlibris: Indiana, USA. (2012).

INVINCIBLE SUMMER: aligning our Powers.

In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer. And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger – something better, pushing right back. —Albert Camus

Challenges surround us. These days, we must be time efficient and fast, feel that we belong, and get credit for what we do. Fortunately, we all have Emotional Intelligence, and we can improve self-knowledge of our feelings, and thoughts, and keep them under our control.

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Invincible Summer

This is Camus’s Invincible Summer, which brings joy and success.

Published by Balboa Press, 2016.

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

I want to thank all my friends and family who have been most supportive of me during the writing of this book. It has been a challenging period and their empathetic words of encouragement have bolstered my staying power and enthusiasm.

I want to thank my family in Europe: - Michael, Marie-Pierre, David, Faith, Zoe, Nick, Max, Clémence, Sophie, Rosie, Richard, and Anna. I also want to thank all my family here, including, inter alia: - Cammi, Kathy, Noel, Doug, JoAnn, Tricia, and Kathy and Charlie.

Special thanks to JoAnn Bock for her great work with the copyediting and editing; thanks to Mary Flores, Xlibris publishing supervisor, for her help and assistance; and thanks to Cary Cooper for her title suggestion.

INTRODUCTION

Become Better is about applying Emotional Intelligence (E.Q.) in our lives; it shows us how to apply E.Q. in our daily activities, as individuals, with others, and in the future. No testing is needed. Instead, these simple steps that show us how we can expand our own Emotional Intelligence, which we all have, and get a better grip on our feelings and our actions and reaction. When we use our E.Q. properly, the benefits are huge, and it will help us move forward successfully.

Emotional Intelligence (E.Q.) is an ability to know how we feel, better direct and manage our feelings, thoughts and wants, and be aware of how others react, so that we communicate effectively, and enjoy a range of rewarding relationships.

We come without substitutes, and we all have Emotional Intelligence with our unique aptitudes and abilities. We are E.Q. players, and can use suggestions by our own E.Q. Coach to keep track, and build our skills. This book is a guide to get to know them, and apply our intrinsic knowledge to keep our feelings and analytical thoughts balanced, and help us focus so that we get what we want.

How exactly do we apply Emotional Intelligence in situations we face daily, as individuals and with others, and in uncertain times and in the future? This book "Become