Going Deeper With The Twelve Steps: Following The Spirit of The Steps
By Rene Lafaut
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Rene Lafaut
Rene was born in Springs, South Africa. He immigrated to Canada at the age of 11. He completed two university degrees before coming down with Schizophrenia in 1992. This illness became for him what Saint John of the Cross describes as the 'Dark Night of the Soul', and it deepened immeasurably his walk with Christ.
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Going Deeper With The Twelve Steps - Rene Lafaut
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Excerpt from One Day at a Time in Al-Anon, copyright 1968, 1972, 2000, by Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Reprinted by permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Permission to reprint this excerpt does not mean that Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. has reviewed or approved the contents of this publication or that Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. necessarily agrees with the views expressed herein. Al-Anon is a program of recovery for families and friends of alcoholics—use of this excerpt in any non-Al-Anon context does not imply endorsement or affiliation by Al-Anon.
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DEDICATION
I dedicate this book to my Mom, Elizabeth Lafaut, who first encouraged me to examine my life’s journey in the context and framework that the Twelve Steps provide.
Endorsement
A good work. I like Rene’s balanced approach with an emphasis on God's grace, a
positive outlook rather than simply becoming mired in one's sins and the
pilgrim's progress dimension. Again, there is quite a bit of text… if used
in a community context then it would be of great use. My hat continues to be off.
Bill Reimer, Regent College, Vancouver, BC
Table of Contents
Copyrights
DEDICATION
Endorsement
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
1 INTRODUCTION
2 THE TWELVE STEPS
3 FORGIVENESS
4 Repentance
5 My THINKING BEHIND THE STEPS
6 A Theory On Why We Can Lose Our Freedom
7 Some Hints on How to Work the Twelve Steps
8 CONCLUSION
PART II
9 CYCLES OF ADDICTION
10 further reading
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Books by Rene Lafaut
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
I wish to acknowledge Jeff for getting me into a NOVALCO Twelve Step group when we first met. Our paths have not crossed for a long time. Still think about you in my prayers.
1 INTRODUCTION
Many people would like these questions answered:
How can we be freed from compulsions, bad habits or addictions?
How can we be healed from spiritual/ psychological wounds?
How can flaws in our character be removed? and
How can human weaknesses be turned into strengths?
First off, there are no real
quick fixes necessarily for any of these! Building a life or doing renovations takes much time and at its best and healthiest it is observably gradual. When a sin has a single root, then God can uproot it quickly together with our cooperation. But when things are messy, tangled, knotted, hard, not flexible and without movement, or without play. Then more than one maxim, more than one medicine, more than one strategy is needed to undo such evil constructs, bring healing, and help to purify us from such sins.
There is always a path beneath our feet to take for spiritual healing: it’s always a journey; but we must learn to search for the healing out of spiritual hunger. In the process, we will grow in faith, hope, love, patience, humility and healthy relating.
So, what makes a journey a healing one? One answer is to respond in humility to the little t
- truths that the Creator speaks to us daily which we can tune into if we know how to recognize His voice. By using the word humility, I mean being teachable.
Asking the Holy Spirit, a question and listening for an answer can be very straight forward when we know the promises and principles found in the Scriptures and believe them. When one comes into God's presence one shouldn't do so lightheartedly. Otherwise, one won't take God's answers seriously and one won't be as discerning about whose voice we are saying yes to.
We can test the source of the communications in our minds that we hear after having asked a question to the Holy Spirit within us by simply asking: Is this the flesh or the Spirit speaking?
If the answer is the flesh
then we reject the message; if it is Spirit
then we can further test the content, we are sure the Holy Spirit has spoken to us. The book by Brad Jersak called Can You Hear Me? provides a lot of practical wisdom like this¹ on how we can go deeper into two-way prayer, and I highly recommend it.
Mark Virkler’s book on two-way prayer through journaling called: 4 Keys to Hearing God’s Voice is also very helpful. The keys are meant to give structure to the process of journaling.
They help one to listen, remember and reflect on what is actually
said by God in a non-judgmental, non-attacking and less skeptical fashion. They provide biblical tests to discern what is written and are well worth reading and practicing.
Both authors’ writings have been foundational to me arriving at the contents found in my books.
Once one has a grounded faith in hearing God’s voice, then this book and my book: Dismantling the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil Within So Love Can Thrive can be good locales, backdrops, structures, frameworks, or methods that can springboard us into the healing processes with God’s friendship, wisdom, and help.
What is an Addiction?
An addiction is a compulsion we can’t fight off all by ourselves. And it usually requires more stimulation each time we seek relief from its grip on us.
What Kind of Addiction Do I Have?
An addiction can have more than one root that causes it, so we shouldn’t peg our hopes on only one medicine or one approach when we seek relief or hit blockages to recovery, and love. However, not giving it our best shot when working a strategy means we never gave the strategy a healthy chance. We owe it to ourselves to walk with the God who can make the Steps work in our favor. What is needed? Going deeper until we find the Truth
that sets us free to practice self-control and to also love people more deeply and healthily.
Here are some possible roots to addictions:
Concerning weaknesses and character flaws. There is no finite system of little t
- truths that will bring about complete restoration in every person seeking help. Certain little t
truths will help one person and not another and visa-versa; but the source of these truths is always the BIG T
- Truth: Jesus. This is because each of us believe different lies and we need the correct corresponding little t
- truths to set us free from the lies we have believed.
We won't see everything at once or by ourselves, but Jesus does, and He wants to help us. Our hearts are complex and mysterious. But if we have a tenacious faith like the tenacity of a mustard seed
we will win through as we struggle and search for learning how to care and love more deeply the people in our lives. Change will come, maybe not immediately, but in an observable and gradual timeframe.
Also, a healthy enough relational connection with God. Understanding certain foundational